Why do guys find the need to go to strip clubs for bachelor's parties? (Page 5)

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I think it's disrespectful that my fiance is going to a strip club for his bachelor's party when we talked about it before and he did it anyway and got a lap dance. I'm very upset and feel betrayed and want to call off the wedding at this point. He betrayed my trust and thinks it's not a big deal saying that he was drunk and it wasn't his idea it was his friends and they took him there. He may have been drunk but he still could have said no. I'm hurt and he could care less. He knew it would hurt me if he went and he agreed to not go and did it anyway.

Graydon · Answer

I personally don't think I'd ever really go to a strip club and definitely not if I am in love.

superduperstarr · Answer

Who cares? Does it really matter? It is not like he is out having sex or cheating. He and his friends are paying to see boobies.

honey202 · Answer

I think the group aspect definitely has something to do with it. maybe he feels like he needs to conform

Anonymous · Answer

Guys minds revolve around sex... Work, Sex, Friends... girlfriends and their feelings tend to come last... sad but true. There are a ton of guys though, that think strippers and porno and boob mags are nasty. Best to pick one of those as a partner if having your man oogle at naked woman isn’t your thing... most guys lie about it too!!

cth96190 · Answer

Your response is irrational, controlling and displays serious sexual repression. I think that he will have a miserable life, if he marries you.

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

The worst thing is that yoi talked about this. If he doesn't respect your feelings and choises now , he will never do it. Dump him and done.

theharlequin · Answer

I don't. The only girl I want to watch strip is my own.

Fukaroo · Answer

It's a guys way of testing the waters. What exactly am I giving up by signing away my life to you. Let me do that one last time and get a life threatening STI to contact to you on our honeymoon.

Jeep_lover · Answer

It's a tradition for bachelor party's to have a stripper's. It's a way to say goodbye to the single life. Women do it to with male stripper's Bachelorette party's.

Bootybadito · Answer

You either love each other or you do not but the fact your in it over a small event like this is a sign for trouble to come.

daviceroy · Answer

For my best friends bachelor party we avoided strip clubs etc. If a best man can't use his imagination to find an awesome party without a stop club if it bothers the bride then that's the wrong person for the job

d2796 · Answer

you act like women don't/can't have batchelorette parties.

Simonymous · Answer

That's exactly where adultery starts. When you look at another womand and secretly want her, you already committed adultery.
I would never ever go to a strip club, especially not when I'm going to get married. From my point of view, you are right.

007James007 · Answer

Its kinda like an American tradition honestly but if you told him not to do it and he still did it knowing that you have a serious problem with it, then you guys need to RESPECT each others boundaries.

nutshell234 · Answer

Well I know they do it as a “last haraw” before getting married but yes I still find it ridiculous when you can just go to a nice dinner.

emanresUlanigirO · Answer

Call it off. If you can't trust him with something as simple as that, you won't be able to trust him later on either.

Anonymous · Answer

If he is going marry you then he already made a promise to you and you should trust that he didn't do anything wrong.
Dont stress to much and he told you where he was going so please just trust that at least.
It would have been worse if he didn't tell you at all. :)

Good luck, i hope it works out :)

krowlordz · Answer

It's their last time being single, why not party hard before they can't go back!!!

Weapon77 · Answer

I dont see the need. I've always gone go carting or paintballing or something adrenaline oriented.

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

I rather a fiancé have a house party with his male friends and get drunk there but not in a room full of strippers or women haha

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

You should call off the wedding to prevent him from being locked into a controlling marriage he will later regret.

One_J_Boi · Answer

I think it's weird in general (if you are in a relationship) to go to a strip club, I don't get the appeal.

vald9inches · Answer

It could be his friends pressured him into it and told him not to be pussy whipped because then you will never get to ever have a guys night out again sort of thing?

SleepingSnorlax · Answer

not all guys do it, i personally dont like it but if you're going to assume all guys do it then you have to assume all women have penis themed ones so you're not aloud to complain

SovietBall · Answer

They just wanted to have some quality male time together, but I guess you're right! He could've said no but he was too drunk to do anything and the peer pressure was high

the_sinner · Answer

People just follow the tradition... It all depends on how the person follows it If the guy likes you then he'd bwhave well even in the filthiest places.

CowboyAceTre · Answer

It's a tradition, and the only reason for you to be upset is if you're insecure about yourself, your relationship, and him. Call it off, leave him, and save you both the heart ache, and divorce.

stevencat · Answer

It's peer pressure. He couldn't say no. And I'm sure he lives you. Are you really going to end it over one dance? Seems a little disproportionate. Ps I have never been to a strip club

JustaskY · Answer

Its his last night as an unmarried guy. Give him a break. He is walking down the isle to you on your wedding day. U should go out and get wild too with ur girls!

harleydude202 · Answer

This sounds like the first hand at trying to control what somebody does and is a bad way to start a marriage... it is an old fashioned thing that a bachelors party consists of... if he didn't cheat...

R1991 · Answer

Let him be you’re lucky you’re not with a guy like me I used to go to the strip club behind my girls back but almost lost her because I got caught... at least he told you the truth

Outside_LookingIn · Answer

It's not a big deal and you're very insecure. Insecurities such as this are a huge red flag and reason enough to call it off... so yeah, maybe you should

stepyo99 · Answer

Because hedonism is rampant in modern society.

Anonymous · Answer

Look this guy is going to be with you for the rest of his life so you should let him at least have some fun before the main event if you know what I mean...

PeeWee69 · Answer

1. He is going to be committed to you for the rest of his life.
2. He didn't consent since he was intoxicated.
3. What is wrong with having fun?
4. Try and not live vicariously through him you will only get jealous.

Anonymous · Answer

It is in a mans genes. It sucks to put it this way but women were just designed to give birth. We were designed to pass on our genes as much as we could.

Max_winner1 · Answer

Call it off. Weddings are just like toilet paper. You wipe a few times and flush.

Apinson90 · Answer

Because we're men. I went to one in Vegas the night before my wedding and had two strippers fully nude giving me oral sex letting me do things to them aswell. Talk about a great night. Her dad was there too and was having an equally good time

That2kKid21 · Answer

If you're even thinking about calling off the wedding about something as small as a lap dance, you shouldn't be marrying anyone anyways... Because you don't care about the person, you only care about the status of marriage.

Slim57 · Answer

It's just a thing. It's one last thing to do with his buddies before he's tied down. It's not like he's having sex with them. I would knowingly let my fiance go to one and I'm the jealous type, it's not that big a deal

Tron5678 · Answer

Yeah spare him the horror by calling off the wedding.  But For a lap dance? Really? Grow up lol

Akhilyouth · Answer

I think it is a trend n not really a choice of the groom.. bachelorette parties aren't less wild either... these r kind of an unsaid tradition

ioszoi · Answer

Those guys are not the serious type. They have eyes for other women. Theyll talk about other women. They can't really be faithfull.

lord_chilled · Answer

Its a us tradition i believe. I think its rather stupid tbh.  I have seen a lot of sicker sh*t in bachelorette parties tough

sullyc101 · Answer

Don't call off the wedding, lol. And don't take this too personally. Us men do stupid things, especially when we are in love.

NucDylan · Answer

Only some guys like that, for example for a friend of mine we had a massive bbq and lan. Depends on the guys I guess, but we went for nostalgia

Sabretooth · Answer

I think you really need to address this or break up-this will likely only lead to worse. As it is-he's shown no regard for your feelings

dolemite68 · Answer

He’s about to be shackled from head to toe having sex with the same girl until you guys eventually get divorced, let him have a night 🙄😂

ryanthehill · Answer

Because they can't have affairs, but want to see sum before settling with the same person for years (hopefully)

scruby · Answer

Why disrespectful? He is commeting his future to the bride so it's should be the last approtonity for him for the rest of his life seeing other women.

AnarchyTurtle · Answer

Most guys don't care for strip clubs tbh... At least not nowadays where you can see plenty more with your phone

Gludiusmax · Answer

I didn't go and don't feel the urge to do so, but if my wife wants to go I Trust Her and would gladly take that excitement when she got home.  I do not see the issue about it.

Steve37 · Answer

It's a social/cultural thing for most guys tip go to strip clubs for their bachelor's party.  I think you are taking it too personally and reading too much into it.

doitson · Answer

#1 he didn't organise it. #2 dont ever do something that he feels is disrespectful to him. #3 i dont know your relationship but by the sounds of your overreaction its not going to last anyway

Joe412 · Answer

My personal opinion is that the wife 2 be should be present right next to her future husband while he gets the dances and then she can see his true self in the heat of the moment.

rahul_24 · Answer

If both of you had discussed then can understand. But, I think if both of you are deciding to marry then let him enjoy. It's like the last days to enjoy. Once he ties the knot, then no more

killerdog5657 · Answer

I mean girls have the same things to but with boys but I mean it's not like he's cheating on you or like fingering another girl I can understand if he was having sex but having a dance that's just sad

kaskas19 · Answer

Lmao if my future husband did this, I would drop him immediatley.

Desconhecida · Answer

Guys like kinky dirty stuff. Strip clubs are live porn for them.

PearAddict · Answer

Plenty other things to do which are actually more fun

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