I think My boyfriend is becoming possessive over me. Is this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing my boyfriend for 10 1/2 months , he's a ok guy over all but these last few weeks since he took my virginity have been strange. To back it up a little bit I lost my virginity to him march 5 on my birthday last month. The experience was ok, when I look back I feel like he talked me into it. And after when tried to go home to get ready for my classes the next day he wouldn't let me leave. Later that night after he fell asleep I sunk out of his place to go home. He wasn't to happy about that said that made him feel a certain way not waking up to me like he planned, and also said " I was scared you left forever". Since that he's been acting strange like I said before. He always wants me to send him snaps of where I am or going like what classes I have for that day. When I don't he gets upset and acts like a child. About a week ago I posted an innocent snap of me and this guy who was my class partner in bio ( I'm in college btw) . My boyfriend sees it , leaves his class and comes to mine says he needs to see me it's an emergency and takes me out of class. Grabs my hand pulls me into the men's restroom and starts making out with me. I was honestly scared. I told him not to do that anymore and he says " find a new parther" . I really like my boyfriend but this is becoming serious I think. Are these signs of possessiveness.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

He is obviously very insecure.

Personally , I couldn't stay in a relationship with a guy like that, because it's a reflection of how things will be in the future. He'll become more paranoid and more controlling over time, because the issue lies within him, not with you. He won't change

Take away his control by refusing to give into his demands. If he asks for photos , say no. If he becomes upset or angry just end the relationship. Because if a person responds with anger or becomes upset after you tell them " no" they are just using a manipulation tactic to get their own way. His behaviour is a red flag. Eventually you'll become like a prisoner in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Can it be so that he has lost interest in you after taking your virginity (which might've been his motive) but he doesn't want to come off as a fuckboy/ playboy and so he has got this strategy, being super clingy & hard to keep up with so that you yourself leave him or break up with him & his purpose gets solved...

[Opinion Owner]

& whatever the reason might be, this is not acceptable at all, kick him out asap if you value your safety...

[TisforTori]

Personally I’m not into someone being clingy. Happy to have me around and misses me when gone for a long time of course. But tells me I can’t leave his house and I have to sneak out like I’ve been abducted. No freaking way. Be careful if you choose to stay.

[alawsum]

This is beyond being possessive. This is stalker kind of crazy. My advice is to leave him now. Tell your teachers and parents about his behavior if it continues and never, NEVER go anywhere alone with him.

I've seen this before and it doesn't end well. Please take my advice.

[markscott]

Get out of this relationship now, if you can do it safely. This guy is going to get nothing but worse. He wants to own you. Be careful, as he could get violent when you leave, so pick a safe time, when you can be away, where he will not know where you are.

[Annie_Mosity]

This ^^^^

[madhatters4]

massive red flag. possessive is an understatement. sounds like you found a fatal attraction type of dude.

i would try to tell him that his behavior is unacceptable, unattractive, and extremely possessive. that you like him but expect him to lighten up

[Welshman2]

It's a sign that the guy is a control freak. The longer you are in a relationship with this guy, the worse it will get.

He will isolate you from friends and family, he will control where you can go and who with, he will control your finances and he will decide when and where he has sex with you.

Get out of the relationship as far as you can.

[qwert1234]

After reading this, I've decided that we need a higher category than "red".

[Jokereterd]

I would say he is just afraid of losing you. I believe the best way to resolve this is play along with telling him what classed you have because thats actually important if there is a real emergency. But dont allow him to control your life too much to the point where you can't have a male class partner. It all revolves around wanting to not lose you.

[Shelina77]

Sounds a but creepy... Did he do something that he felt guilty about bc I feel like he did..

[Pamina]

Possesiveness is always a red flag.

And in your case it's a flaming red flag.

[priyam22]

You need to get the hell out of this relationship babe because it's just going to get worse later or just talk it out with your guy about giving you some space...

[AcidT0y]

This is a few steps up from just possessive. He sounds like a fucking psycho.

[egoroboto]

RED FLAG. Get out of there, but be careful, try to seek support from others and don't confront him in private as he could turn violent.

[jaydubb_93]

lol hell yeah thats possesive, it all stems from major insecurity issues. he clearly has more maturing to do.

[BlueWiZ]

Red flag? Yes, very much.

[jacquesvol]

Some girls like that, others hate it.

[Mrhumourous]

Try to understand his emotions..

[egoroboto]

She understands him allright. That's why she's worried, man

[dudemandingo]

Run.

[Daphne93]

Sounds like it and going to be abusive.

[Nandor]

I feel sorry foe him tbh

[HenryThePooper]

You need to get out of there NOW

[chatwanderer]

Lol he's acting like a kid in highschool

[Adenocard]

Yeah. This is a serious problem.

[10dsw]

Yes they are.

[cjcapps]

Yep it will only get worse..#realtalk

[Kandy-Kane]

Red flag

[Defboy69]

Yeah

[LuWe22]

Reddest of flags.