Is my boyfriend controlling or possessive?

[Linalea2837]

Me and my boyfriend had a distance relationship now finally we together more and he seems different. He doesn’t allow me to do make up or to wear tight/cropped clothes or dresses. I am not allowed to use perfume or any hair /body spray that has smell. i was flying all the way to korea for him but every word i say every move i take every body language i do is wrong to him.. He controlled my phone many times and did not gave it back and pushed me when i was wanting it back. He even says when you cheat on me i cut your body and stuff like that.. he makes me always feel like i am doing everything wrong and it always hurts me so much.. he can be so lovely and so caring but he can switch so fast.. when i talk with him about this problem his answer is if u behave like the way i like i will be nice to you and because he is korean its like that..

[lilylangley]

First of all, why on gods green earth are you going to Korea for a boy which you’ve never met in person?

But to answer your question, the source of your problem is because he’s Korean. He’s not use to the western culture and accustoms and he’s seeing how you behave and he’s getting angry because in the east, the western type of behaviour is forbidden in the east.

Dump him immediately, things will only get worse, I actually fear for your safety right now. Dump him, leave Korea immediately and find someone locally.

[Linalea2837]

Thank you so much for the repy. I've met him couple times before and i taked vacation here to meet him and because i will study here. I knew him with couple meeting and facecall over 4 years. But still i totally understand that its not the same then meeting in real for more long term.

[Notfrommars]

He’s abusive-doesn’t matter what ethnicity or race or country he is from-it’s not OK! He even threatened to physically hurt you if you don’t do everything he says. You can find a much nicer guy

[TheorionMage]

Then, suggest he finds a KOREAN girlfriend.
Clearly, you're both attracted to the exotic ethnic novelty... and it WILL NOT change because he values HIS friends cultural opinions as sign of HIS masculinity.

You've seen the downside of a 'walk on the wild side'... or suck up your disillusionment in perpetuity~

[davado88]

exactly. Its not rocket surgery

[Anonymous]

it seems kinda strict now but one day when you're chained to the radiator i bet you will reminisce about these times.
with fondness.
So put a smile on your dial , sweetie. Noone likes a debbie downer

[apahe4]

Take your things and go as far away as you can from that guy! That is a total red flag and him being Korean doesn’t say sh*t. He’s basically making other Korean men look “bad” saying that stuff. But seriously please leave that guy, you don’t deserve to be controlled for doing what you want to do and literally act human. Wishing you all the best.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I lived in korea for three years. That's not normal there either. Bro is unhinged.

[Chayce]

Unhinged is the word here😂

[Lliam]

Run! Run fast! The guy is dangerous. It sounds like he has narcissistic personality disorder. He will make your life a living Hell or worse.

[strateguy632]

for his country he is acting normal. if you want western go to a western country. from what you describe dump him now.

[Nikki1989]

Why would anyone fly to another country just for a man. This is crazy.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Once talk to him and listen to his opinion why he thinks that way and decide do u want to end relationship or continue it

[JesseP1nk]

You went to south korea, not in the north right? Just asking because he is fucking crazy :O

[Ninania]

Dude is a walking red flag.

[Anonymous]

F him off and get away from him.

[imnewhere-b]

What are u waiting for to break up with him?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yep. Get rid of him.

[In_Trance]

Seems like a loser

[User1365]

Yes definitely