My boyfriend is controlling. He gets mad over the slightest issue, abuses me verbally and blames for all of his issues. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Hi. So I have been with him for two years now, we are in a long distance relationship and communication gets pretty hard at times. He is possessive and controlling, for him I deleted all my social media accounts and stopped talking to everyone (I even use whatsapp from his other number only to text him). He is short tempered and he gets mad easily, like today I just put on new nail polish and he abused me verbally, asking me who am I trying to attract by putting on nailpaint. When I told him that I like putting them on but I will leave it if he wants, he called me toxic and started saying how I have ruined his life and gave him nothing else than anxiety and depression. He has said so many times in the past but after he calms down, he would say sorry and that he didn't mean them. Now... I don't know. He told me his life wiuld be better off without him. What should I do? Should I... Really leave and let him have a better life as he says he would. I left my college because he asked me, I am dependant on him for everything. If I break up, I will have no where to go. Please help me.

[Anonymous]

The best sex I ever had was with my ex. He was an abusive controlling psychopath but he had a dick like a firehose, was amazing in bed and I was so turned on by the danger that surrounded him. I remember I started dating a guy and we were upstairs having sex at a party, I wanted to make my ex jealous and It worked. Anyway he barged in through the door when my new guy was cumming and punched him in face, he was lying unconscious on the floor ejaculating on the carpet. I was shouting and screaming at my ex and he just stared at my naked body, I tried to hit him and he just grabbed my wrist, closed the door and dragged me over to the bed where he forcefully bent me over and had sex with me sticking it up my ass for the first time and I was so afraid and excited at the same time and super turned on from the previous sex. It really hurt and I yelped and screamed for him to stop, I called for help but nobody came. He just pumped away, as he was about to cum I felt the urge to rub my clit and had the most intense squirting orgasm, like I soaked the bed completely. When he had finished he just pulled up his jeans and walked out leaving me face down in a bed of my own wetness crying with his cum oozing out of my anus.

He's in jail now. But the best sex I ever had was with him. Sometimes when I miss that big dick and my current boyfriend is away I pull out a plaster cast dildo moulded from my ex's huge dong.

[Asker]

Excuse me?

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry I didn't answer. Get out of there. Even if the sex is amazing your life will be miserable.

[Anonymous]

Don’t say you have no where to go
You can turn to your family or any close family member you know
You are early 20s so young life is long you can’t survive long with him. We both know 1 day you are leaving him so I suggest you do your best and Run away Now! Before it’s late you have a baby or more and more added unnecessary troubles etc.
You are alone take your passport some cash and leave asap because it’s clear this relationship has failed and it’s better you leave now that you are still so young and alone then older with kids around and more stress

[Anonymous]

Lol you really need someone to answer this question? Of course fucking leave why is that a hard concept to understand. He sounds like a POS. Imagine when you two are finally together, verbally will probably turn physical. If he’s so sure you’re the reason why his life sucks then wtf is he still doing w you. That why he’s a bitch ass cause he knows he can treat you this way, that you won’t do a damn thing about it. Leave!!! GTFO!!! Stop letting yourself be treated like that. You’re dependent on him to the point that he’s going to make you feel like no one else will want you. You’ll keep coming back even if he abuses you physically, taking the blame for it cause you cooked his steak well done and not medium rare so he beat the shot out oft oh lol it’s funny but it’s not. Ditch this poor excuse of a man, have some respect for yourself.

[ByNature1986New]

You both have communication issue. It’s a skill. I would recommend exploring ideas how to communicate next time so it doesn’t escalate. Sit down and tell that you want to make sure he doesn’t get hurt anymore and you want same for yourself so you have an idea. Let’s talk about how can we talk differently. Offer him some time so he could vent to you but dont talk just listen, once he is done, ask him what else honey. Guys are emotional things too and unfortunately nobody teaches them how to express frustration so all he might need is routine session of your listening then introduce that you might need those sessions from him too

[Avicenna]

No way should you stay with him

[TrippyStarry]

I’m sorry this is a happening to you. I would assess the situation. How often does he argue with you? Does he get violent? How is life otherwise? Do you get to do things you love or is it constant misery? You have the right to be safe and happy but before taking a drastic step, ask yourself if it’s worth it.

[Anonymous]

He got upset over nail polish? Are you shitting me? The guy sounds like a complete psycho. You shouldn't of left college because of him. And you shouldn't of deleted your social media apps either. That guy is a complete psycho.
Yesterday i got mad because the guy the woman I love is seeing said something very special and sacred to her which i told her first 5 years ago that he told her and i got extremely upset about it. 5 years ago i used to call the woman i love a beautiful goddess. It was in reference to the first time i saw her in person. And he was wearing a knitted hat which also pissed me off because when i first started talking to her i asked her if she could knit me a sweater in return for helping her with her music. This was 5 years ago. It just felt like desecration and utter betrayal. Something special and sacred getting turned into a cheap publicity stunt by her.

[Anonymous]

When you say you depend on him for everything, what do you mean? Because unless I’m mistaken (Which I very well could be) it sounds like you rely on him emotionally. To which I’d say break those ties. Maybe he’s done some emotional damage on you but nothing you can’t fix on your own. You’re not codependent and you don’t need him. It’s time to get comfortable in your own company.

[Mooon99]

I mean um wtf? I can't imagine what happened if you two ended up marrying each other.. let me say this not sure if there any story that you didn't tell but judging what you stating right now that guy a total disaster.. I say leave him while you still had a chance maybe contact your brother or sister talk this matter about with them..

[abc3643]

You mean your EX-boyfriend.

Find someone to live with and then dump him ASAP.

[DancingQueen16]

I think you should leave him before things get worse

[TheFlak38]

Think about the thousands of nice guys you friend zoned in favour of the controlling asshole.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to have anything to do with him?

[noohair]

Do you want to marry this type of guy and wind up miserable?

[barn_stormer]

you left college because of a stupid guy? you fucked up.

[slatyb]

Simple. End this. What are you getting out of it?