Is it possible for a man to be severely controlling and paranoid in a long distance relationship, restricting you from doing things like going to the gym, but claim he is not like that in real life and distance is the reason for it?
I was in long distance relationship with a guy who became increasingly paranoid and controlling, and very very possessive. He started putting a lot of ultimatums in front of me: either I never post any picture on social media or he would leave me, either I don't go to any celebration that included males or he would leave me (including my master's degree ceremony). He started even micromanaging my old social media pics, my clothes, even banning me from going to the gym. He would also be hyper paranoid and think that if I ever forgot to update him about my day or I received any notification, that I was cheating on him. I always had to defend myself, even though I had been loyal and committed for two years, we basically spent most of the day together on the phone. However, he never felt secure. I couldn't bear it anymore, I felt really invalidated and left.
After leaving, maybe only a week after, he texted me that he missed me and that he found a job in my city, when I didn't react the way he wanted then he told me he found a girl who's more loving and respectful than I am, he told me he doesn't have the same issues with her because she's near and that I could have been patient until he would be near and then he wouldn't have been so controlling. Basically he blamed me for all his issues.
Is that even possible? Why did he become so insane with me and doesn't have the same problems with people near him? Is it because the distance didn't let him have total control over me and he hated it?
