Honestly i joined a site recently for making friends, and i have been talking to this girl who is beautiful and seems to have a really good personality, we added each other on facebook and have been chatting for about a week (i've not met her yet but we're meeting soon) she has a really good job which is highly paid, intelligent (has degrees), is overall very popular has lots of friends and a really nice person, but she says to me she gets no attention from guys in general and if she does its just time wasters, but she is so pretty (i wouldn't put her on here as she wouldn't like it, she looks very similar to the girl i've used but prettier) but i was really surprised she gets no attention from guys on nights out, when i go on a night out i get attention from guys and i'm nothing compared to she is, it just baffled me, could it be because guys are intimidated by her?
Why would a woman who is really attractive, get very little attention from guys?
a woman with a lot of intelligence and who makes a lot of money actually has an aura that says you are not worthy to most guys. Generally it has more to do with the intelligence part not the money part. A smart woman generally finds dumb guys super annoying. Most guys know this so any guy that actually hits her up to talk is generally intelligent because they can keep up. If we compare it is kind of like if you were to have 2 pets a cow and a dog. the cow is dumb as shit. the dog by comparison is pretty much a genius lol. That would be my best guess. As the intelligent person I have seen this type of woman and I am definitely more at ease with them than with most other girls I am attracted too. Something about not having to worry if something I say will go past there head like the voyager 1 flying out of interstellar orbit is really nice. When we can have a conversation on something that is only a theory and both of us are on the same page and I come out of that conversation with my brain feeling like it got a work out... That is sooooo hot lol
I'm assuming she's in that picture? Let's be honest, she sure is hot. Well, hot, let's rather use the word attractive. I don't really know why she would get less attention from guys, but it might be due her popularity. Being extremely popular and being in the most powerful group of girls at school is something you can't go up against as a guy. I mean, you can't talk to her in person, everybody knows everything immediately. Almost the kind of feeling that she might be out of your league. She would've been out of mine, sadly. Beautiful, intelligent, popular, great student, a person who I would've fallen for. I did in the past. But I was rejected due to low popularity. Most likely, the group wasn't convinced enough. I was insecure too. The pressure of being in a group is something powerful. That might be the reason why she hasn't mush attention. I would've been certainly interested in her, but what can I do from here? Guess I'm just daydreaming again. (At 0:53 at night.)
OMG that always happens to me at school. My friends have told my that I'm really pretty and I've been asked if I have had a boyfriend or why I don't have a boyfriend. I am not bothered by this, its quite amusing actually. I have also been told that I am scary even though I haven't done anything to anyone. I do kickboxing but hardly anyone knows about that. A friend told me that before we were friends, she was intimidated and scared of me. Another one had told me (they know about my kickboxing) that even if I didn't know how to fight, I would still be scary. I have also witnessed the fear of me first hand. There are a group of guys in my class we fool around a lot ( play fighting, fake arguments etc.) and one of them is a 2nd class black belt. Our teacher re-arranged our seating plan and we were sat next to each other. As we were moving to our seats we looked at each other and for a split second he seemed like he was afraid. It's annoying when people react like that but mostly its upsetting that people are so quick to judge.
Because they feel like less of a man beside of her and they'd rather pick off one more in is league congrats that's learning how a man values you you're some kind of trophy to feel like a big man he's beside you and you're half hot as they maybe
He's shallow too I'm this same deal to many men it'd drive me nuts too myself
As that's pathetic and most fears me too wtf dude in a girl get over yourself XD it's weird then I realised the issues its about myself as the kind of woman I am
And more about how it's himself so I stopped caring and referred to self as I'd ranted do that than care about some dopey badtard staring at me he's seriously that kinda guy hubby? Nods I see ALL now ty
FYI seeking man's affection and needing to be empowered by his attention is for a babies refer to woman's faith and define it for yourself then men equals zero a man will be easier to find in your league
I've noticed that its easier when a girl is by themselves for a guy to interact with them compared to a girl being in the middle of a huge group of girls.
There is a very good chance that her looks are intimidating to most guys. And if she were to be hit on, it would take a guy that is very confident in himself and can assure himself that she will say "yes" to a dated etc.
Maybe she's the kind of girl who doesn't go anywhere without a pack. She's too busy being with her friends to put herself in situations where guys could easily hit on her. She's too busy, always talking, or just doesn't give off much of a personality when she's out.
Maybe she is really involved with her friends and guys never see her alone for a moment to talk? So she never needs to talk to new people too. Or she has guy friends and people assume one must be her bf? Or she probably does get a lot of attention but she dismisses everyone below a 9/10 as a time waster I. E. She's out of their league. Tbh this is probably the most likely as very pretty girls do tend to have an air of entitlement and also seem to be very rude. She's probably polite to you but maybe watch how she interacts with guys when you hang out?
Yes, so there is a category that you can put men in and it works every time, here goes, 1-10 of men will never ever approach a woman, especially if he finds them attractive, 11-78 of men won't initiate a conversation with a woman, but will keep one going, and may seem somewhat timid, 79-100 of men will run up to every girl they see, so in this category of men, the 79-100 are more than likely fuck boys, time wasters, and players, the middle faction are nice, well groomed, a little insecure, and overall then better of the bunch, the first faction, are very insecure, a little childish, clingy, and co-dependant, so roughly 20% of men will start a conversation and just want in your pants, the rest are more than likely looking for true love.
Honestly though, be careful she’s not a closet serial killer or something when you go. If no guys are taking interest in her it might be they didn’t live to tell the tale! 🤣
Generally if the looks and the smarts are there the only thing left is personality.
We seem to get on pretty well lol so her personality is decent from what I can tell and I mean I can see her Facebook account and all her friends on it and pictures and soo can’t say I’m too worried about that! But I’ll keep a eye out just incase 😂 if I disappear you’ll know why
I'm calling bullshit. A girl like her will have a ton of options, she most likely has very high standards, or she's no good at picking the right guys to talk to. If she means that she doesn't get approached when she's out on nights out, then either she doesn't look approachable because her body language is closed, maybe she has resting bitch face. Maybe she's always with a big group of girls and again doesn't look open to be approached. Guys won't come and approach a girl most of the time if she's with a bunch of girls facing inwards for example, they'll go for the girl who maybe seems kind of bored and is looking around.
I'd have to disagree with all three posts saying that guys are intimated, yes some guys are intimated but the truth is really attractive woman and really successful woman get hit on all the time.
If people are not hitting on her it's most likely to do with her body language. 55% of communication is done through body language alone. Not saying this is her fault she probably doesn't even realize that she is communicating to others with her body language that she is unapproachable. I would have her first look into how to have open and inviting body language then try some experiments with you and her out together and let her try to mimic how you look and act while your body posturing and movements.
When a man see a attractive woman he's first thoughts are. 1. Gold digger (if he have money) 2. He think that she have high choosing level 3. That she boyfriend for sure 4. A big chance for rejection , that's why they don't bother. 5. Problems
There is such a thing as too pretty I guess... Men usually go for women that they think would be easy to score, so mostly women in their league... If she is as pretty as you say she is then it's probably because she's at a higher league than most guys...
When u want some friend u need to come at thier level... forget how u looks and how much u r intelligent... search for common interest and things to share and enjoy... if a person failed to do so and waiting that someone come and ask then it's long wait cz usually people not persue others... that may be the reason.. being attractive can help in getting attention but being friendly is other thing... yes it is a risk to find out a right person but for that it need to be taken.. men are commonly seeing for time passing but such people can easily be pointed out..
I've been truned off by girls who were very pretty, but immature. I've passed on approaching girls because I thought they were out of my league. I've also haven't approached girls at times because I didn't think it was appropriate. So, who knows. She's also highly competent, from what you've said about her, so that may be intimidating as well.
Hmm. Well she does get attention from guys but like she said, they are a waste of time meaning they only approach her for a possibility of sex.
A girl can be attractive and intimidating at the same time, its just the approachable factor that gets in the way. Maybe its her body language and lack of eye contact that makes guys not want to approach her.
Its not what we can do, its what she can do, after all its her problem. If she likes a guy and wants him to approach then she has got to give the greenlight for the guy to make a move. Smile at him, making an eye contact, give subtle hints. A player will approach her regardless of what her body language says.
It could just be the way she carries herself. You seem more approachable maybe? She might give off a "vibe" that's off putting? There could be many reasons, and maybe nothing to do with her either. Every guy is different and has different perceptions. My advice for someone like her, is for her to do some approaching. Don't wait or expect guys to all the time.
Example just looking at this picture, my thoughts, there's no smile, she doesn't look like an overly friendly person. I'll probably get rejected right away.
Could be intimidating, but in all honesty, it is more likely that she doesn't live her life in a way that brings her in touch with commitment focused men. I don't know why this needs to said, but so many people seem to think that they are just going to run into Mr/Ms Perfect at bars and clubs. THAT"S NOT WHERE COMMITMENT ORIENTED PEOPLE SPEND THEIR TIME.
That is an excellent point! Or maybe nobody tries to ask her about anything involving a "relationship", because they just assuming she's already got someone special? Or maybe it's the price to pay for beauty. (Don't you dare start thinking YOU'RE not pretty)
They probably think that she is too good for them and that they don’t have any chance with her so why bother
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The girl in the picture looks very average tbh completely, also looks like she lacks personality character ( I know this is not her in the pic) I would never approach this type of girl unless she gives me a signal for some hook up or a ons
Maybe she isn't approachable. Maybe guys feel intimidated. When I see a beautiful woman who doesn't seem approachable, it is intimidating, guys don't like facing rejection. Nobody does for that matter. That's the only reason I can think of.
Men try to break women like those, some of them go as far as to publicly humiliate them. I think she should just continue to stay single, work harder to reach higher social status and find a man there. Women with such great credentials should never sell themselves short. The right man is waiting for her, he isn't settling either.
To add to this, I think narcissistic egomaniac's would be the only ones to approach a really pretty girl. Which is why the relationships she has had with men have been bad because these guys don't care about love, but rather just see her as a trophy and treat her as such.
Yep, i would feel myself very intimidated by her looks alone, but if i got to know the "extras" about her, like the degrees and being very popular, yep i would consider her not for me.
Maybe some guys are not interested like she is extremely pretty like prettier than me but it also depends on her personality some guys assume that girls that trie hard r like mean “popular” girls lol
Yes + no sexual possibilities does she exude conversations high brow vs fun A-B cup? gets bored easily & fast
When you meet, dig into what turns her on, even if odd like race cars and begin sharing that (advertising that) to others, as she should be doing to find a "crowd" = more guys that can relate to her
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Intimidated? Lol no. That's just something y'all tell yourselves. Honestly its because attractive girls (AKA girls who spend HOURS obsessing about their looks) usually are massively entitled and think their time is worth more than yours because of how they look. If she likes the way she chks looks thatr at she
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Simple, the guy thinks she's too hot for him. I always assume these women have impossibly high standards and even if they were interested they would have to many options and would always be questioning the guy unless and he was a 10/10 and had a good job.
Guys are scared and fragile creatures we don't trust that the interior matches the exterior. Basically the hotter the girl the worse it hurts to be rejected
You would think so but at that point all the guy has to say is that it was a dare or that it isn't much of a loss. Besides that the hotter a person is the more well known their rejects are.
Yeah but tbh it sucks either way. You feel this weighted void like mass in your chest and its not bad at first it takes a couple of days then it grows and becomes more painful.
That's such a rats thing to say when an ugly girl rejects you. And why would you even open yourself u to rejection if you think theyre ugly wtf? Go big or go home bruv
Basically, yes. Surprise surprise, guys are not too dissimilar to women in that if they don't think they're "good enough" for a girl then they won't make an effort.. It's that simple.
Looks is only a card of presentation, nothing else. Emotionally she might be unestable, that projects in your corporal language, people subconsciously notice it and keep away.
there's a pretty girl at where I go swimming but she makes that anoyed face with a little smile like if she was looking at me wierded out and trying to be nice at the same time. if this woman does that unpurposedly tell her to stop that shit.
either way her not being approached means she is not making the proper facial expressions, body language to seem inviting to others.
Tell me who she is... she sounds like an awesome person! I'll gladly give her some attention. Kidding... one thing I've noticed about guys is that they usually only have the nuts to hit on gills that are attractive, but not "too attractive", if you know what I mean. Maybe they're scared that if they get that girl, they'll assume that other guys are all over them. Maybe they're just intimidated by her beauty?
I doubt it is intimidation, I've seen what at the time must have been the most gorgeous woman and men seemingly wouldn't stop approaching her. There will always be enough confidence in a few men. There is always a reason for such strange occurances, maybe she is cursed. So beautifully the Goddess got jealous. Have you video chat with her? maybe she is really a he. Can't be to careful. Let me know when you figure it out, I'm curious to know why that would be.
Same issue, guys would always appoach my boyfriend and ask him when if I dumped him yet but they would never ask me, he was the only one that had the balls to try... And I'm not a lesbian I don't like pussies.
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I've never heard of something like this before and I agree with what someone over here said that it's bullshit.
I'm considered very attractive and I get a LOT of attention from guys everywhere I go. Sometimes it even makes me uncomfortable. If you're attractive you're bound to get attention. It's impossible not to.
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Intimidation is when guys will give you attention but won't approach you/make a move on you. Like someone here said, it's most likely that only you consider her very attractive but guys don't.
It's probably because most guys figure it's a waste of time and there's no point in going after her cause where in a world if a men is seen as ugly with a good looking girl, the girl would constantly be pressured to dumb him because she is worth more than him.
We guys are just as affraid if not more than girls to be turned down so if i Saw a beautiful girl out in public i wouldent dare talk to her and i would obviously think that show already had a 10/10 Boyfriend
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There is no such thing as a woman such as you described who doesn't get tons of attention from guys, UNLESS she has personality problems. My best guess is she is a feminist with a chip on her shoulder. I don't care how good looking she is... no man wants a feminist.
@Stephen5577 Am I the victim if my family chooses the dark chocolate mudcake not the white one i had in the trolly and walked halfway round the shop with?
We can't make assumptions unless we know how she treats guys. We all don't know how she has treated guys, not even you. Not saying she is, but let's say she plays guys hard. We wouldn't know if she played guys unless we knew what she did in person. I know you are friends with her, but she might not be telling you information about her past experience with guys.
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She is cute I would date. Maybe guys are too scared to go up to her or they are not that comfortable going up to her.
Because they think she's probably conceited or bitchy or out of their league which is not the case at all. All people are different, I've found there to be more conceited less attractive people than really attractive people.
It goes both ways, we assume the opposite sex is attractive enough to break off the relationship with you and quickly initiate a new one with someobe way more attractive than yourself.
It that were actually her I'd see the ring and run, but some girls seem like they don't wanna be bothered, and why he after the hot girl just to get rejected. Have her make the first move it necessary
Her personality is a big reason, to you it may be nice, but everyone has different personality they like, and being online often changes a person's behavior as this girl may be very shy in real life, it could also be the type of guys she surrounds herself with.
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