I need help, is she waiting for me to talk to her? What can I say? Why do I feel like this only for her?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so here is the problem. I never had trouble talking to a girl since I first hit puberty, but now I'm in 12th grade and most of my friends are girls and have had a few girlfriends. It comes natural to me but ever since me and this girl that I know have started to flirt via eye contact(1st started with a stair and a smile, then to glancing, finally staring at each other and her eyes are wide open but neither of us smile. I don't because I feel petrified.) and body language, It seems like all of the confidence I have just disapears every time I see her. We also have never talked for the many years I have known her. But here is what happened yesterday. We have english together and we went to a computer lab and once I took my seat, she sits behind me but off to the side so I can see her in my peripheral vision on the computer facing the other direction. As I'm working, I counted 7 times when she turned in my direction to look in her bag and taking glances at me as she dose it. But the whole time we are there she isn't working at all, so I take it she is thinking. But at the end of class I decided to try something. I took my time to pack up and took a little while and she remains seated, then as I get up she dose to all the while facing tword me completely while looking down fiddling with her phone. I stood there for a few seconds and walked closer to her and seems stiff. I wanted to talk to her badly, but I woosed out and got mad at my self. So I brushed against her arm to pass by and that's that.

[rachiee]

It definitely sounds like she's trying to get your attention. You're feeling that way because she makes you "weak" in some sense and you're nervous of course to approach her. Honestly to me it sounds like you both are nervous. Can you text her or even message her on facebook? You both need to feel more comfortable around each other because that will loosen up your nerves somewhat and will make it possible for you two to communicate in person much easier and a good way to do that is to talk "behind" something (a phone, computer screen, etc.). Once you guys start talking and become familiar with each other then I'm sure things will take off between you two.

[Asker]

I have her on facebook but she's never on and I don't have her phone number. The thing is though I want to talk in person to apear more confident witch is always a good thing.

[rachiee]

Talking in person is always a good thing but do you feel as if you can do that without backing down because you're nervous? If you think you can then of course I'd suggest talking to her in person over text or computer, but that's only if you feel like you won't chicken out.

[Asker]

I feel like I can do it, I get better every day. But every single time I am about to say something it litteraly feels like I'm choking and when that happens I guess you can say I panic? its really hard to describe since this is the first time this has ever happened.

[Anonymous]

are you sure she was looking at you? because I have thought guys were looking at me out of my peripheral vision and it turns out they weren't... (now I don't pay attention to that anymore)

Ask her about your english homework or the book your reading - since you have a class in common you have something you can talk about

[Asker]

100% positive, I was next to the wall alone.

[Opinion Owner]

yah but the direction her head was facing is not indicative of the direction her eyes were going

[Asker]

I should also mention that this was just for 1 day out of 4 weeks of this, but also locked eyes twice during that time so that's how I know

[lovesickchick10]

she likes you, but she is shy! So she is defently waiting for you to talk to her first! I do that with the guy I like all the time, but I am really shy so I never talk to him unless he talks to me first! So first just try to talk to her about silly things like the homework or ask her to help you with your work or something in english! Then just start making random comments about what she is wearing or how she has her hair! Girls love compliments! Hope this was helpful!