She's getting upset when I talk to other girls. She has a boyfriend? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

She breaking my heart. She would always get so upset if I left. I never really knew her but she wanted me bad. I wanted to meet her. I told her friend I wanted her number. I don't what's been said but she is so upset. It's not right I want to date and she's acting like she's losing me. WTF? She has a boyfriend! She hasn't even given me a number... Lately I've been getting dirty looks from her female friend. I asked if anythings wrong and she says no? WTF going on? Should I feel bad? Stop talking to girls? Not fair she's having sex and I've waited for her for so long... I should be able to check other girls out until she gives me a number... Should I tell her this?

[ConfidentNerd]

As I discussed in another question, girls want every guy to think of them as their #1 girl. Sometimes, even, I get jealous when guys that I haven't even dated and aren't interested in have girlfriends for the simple fact that I'm not amazing enough to be the light of his life.

Honestly, it really doesn't make sense but it's a natural feeling. The dangerous part about it, though, is that most people aren't aware of it and I don't think your friend is either. She just wants you because she can't have you. When you look at other girls it means she's no longer your #1, and therein lies the jealousy.

She has no right to get jealous and you shouldn't feel badly for it. If you're not even dating her and she's already ordering you around, that's bad news. Imagine what she would be like in an actual relationship? She'd have your balls in a vice faster than you could say "Oh god my balls."

[monmon]

Well, I think she is stuck between you and her boyfriend…and he is a safe place to go to and you >> maybe she is not sure about how you feel towards her!...Plus I think she is takin a bit too far…yeah she can get upset its normal if she likes you…but she doesn’t have the right to tell you not to date other girls…and you have full rights to go and date ..Feel free, because you not even going out!

[Asker]

I just feel I'm cheating or something since I feel bad and I like her. Should I write her a letter? My female friend says she will write it. I figured I would just give her my email and move on...

[Asker]

I don't think he told her I wanted her number and she acting like I'm trying to make her jealous on purpose when all I'm doing is looking for someone to date...

[monmon]

Aha it?s a good idea to write to her even better if you talk about it in person and understand exactly what she wants and tell her what you want and if there are any differences or disagreements it will be clear what to do next at least you have done what?s up to you and you can happily move on or this chat/ message may lead to a great solution where both happy! And trust me don?t feel bad, because you are not doing anything wrong! But I know how you feel been there! Anyways...wish you all th

[truecolor]

I agree... Don't let this girl manipulate you into feeling guilty. Talk to others and have fun until she really gives you something to make you feel that there is something between you . It is not fair for her to do what she is doing, sounds like a manipulation to me...

[Asker]

I'm thinking about writing her a letter. Is that ok? She does give me I love you looks..

[Asker]

It seems real since she almost starts to cry and acts in love..

[monmon]

I love you is only an opinion and a thought and it can be changed...Only it becomes ?a fact? when she says it out loud and that time responsibility comes with it!

[Asker]

Ok, Every girl stairs at me because of it both guys and girls. Most give me loving looks but since she hasn't been around I'm getting I hate you looks from some. If I write her a letter and say I want to chat online it's still safe. And she knows she can always go and find out if she evere did. When she's in the mood... But at least I can move on. I'm thinking about not going back to that place once I do. It's to public to me. With all the girls checking me out where she works it can only go bad

[monmon]

Yeah I guess do what you feel comfortable with .good luck and hope it goes well! :)

[Asker]

I've had so many bad experiences with women being emotional it's just to hard to know what feels right. Women have nothing to do with what's right. Women have logic to them. But I guess I have nothing to lose... I just want to make sure I have a way out just in case she anther of the many...

[monmon]

Yeah I get what you mean...But listen don?t let all these bad experiences, let you down..or get the wrong picture everyone is different, in face everywoman is different emotional, girly, confident , shy and it goes on and on so you maybe havint met the right person yet and don?t let people tell you what to do and don?t feel bad, if you know the thing you did wasn?t wrong!

[popovnik]

I don't think this is the type of girl you want to be around. She is referred to as an "attention whore", someone who guilt trips every guy to be in love with them. She'll leave you behind just as quick as she'll leave her current boyfriend behind.

[iloveyouyouloveme]

totally agree with true color. . .she's manipulating you. forget her.