Why do many older men who used to sleep around think young and good women want to settle down with them now?

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I'm on dating sites and one thing I've noticed are the older ex-player men who are now looking to settle down. For example, today I received a message from a 40-year-old man who litterally wrote in his profile that he's been playing around a lot and now feels done with that and ready to settle down with a good woman and have kids... I mean, why would a good (and young, because they're usually looking for much younger women) want an older man who's been sleeping around up until now? That's just disgusting.

Another example was a 43-year-old man who wrote to me. I didn't respond so he wrote again, asking if it's because of his age. I told him yes, a big part of it is his age. He then went on a rant, sending me multiple long messages, where he was complaining about women being too picky about age, that age is just a number and doesn't matter (even though he was 43 and only looking for 18-29 year olds), that he's youthful, that it's so difficult to find a "good" woman without kids who haven't been married or lived with a boyfriend before, that he just wanted to settle down and have a family now and this and that. And in his profile you could read that he was done chasing casual sex and short romances, and now wanted something real... These were just two of the many guys like this I've been contacted by. How could they possibly believe young and good women would ever want to settle down with them? They seem to believe it would be easy for them to find someone. I've read online forums too where in discussions about settling down and having kids some men say things like "I'm not having kids until I'm 45-55". When you point out that women that age often can't get pregnant naturally they just brush it off as nothing and say "I'll just marry a younger woman", as it'll be easy for them to find...

And yeah, I know there are female versions of these men too, I'm not talking about them in this post though.
Why do many older men who used to sleep around think young and good women want to settle down with them now?
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