Why is my ex social media stalking me?

[Emily_Knowles]

This is a very unusual topic to cover but it’s true. I dont get why he’s stalking me literally 24/7 on social media platforms. The main one is Instagram as he removed me from snapchat. Okay so long story short, we broke up I’d say about 3 weeks ago now and since then I haven't spoken to him. Usually I chase after him until I get him back - silly idea I know - but this time I didn’t. Since the break up he has blocked me, unblocked me and blocked me again. He unliked all my photos with like 3 of his accounts (yep he has 3 instagram accounts). He blocked me on his main one again yesterday but it didn't bother me because he did it a week ago. Last night I went out with a girlfriend and posted a few photos of us on my story. Then I noticed he saw my story within 20 minutes of posting it and I was confused into why? (He saw my story with a backup account as he had blocked me) but why block me to only look at my story with another account? Some friends are saying its because he wants attention, he either still likes me or wants me to talk to him? Need input. Preferably by guys

[sunsweet]

It's not quite stalking. He is taking an intrest in something about you, but not nessisarily that he wants you back. He is probably confused at your change in attitude is my guess. The blocking and unblocking, if he knows you're looking at his profile, is either for attention or his own confusion on how to act. Regardless his mind isn't off you because he seeks out your stuff. It could be hard to get over for him. If he isn't making the attempt to get back with you I'd think that says enough.

[Emily_Knowles]

Great response! Thankyou so much

[sunsweet]

You're welcome, I always try to help :)

[Anonymous]

Unless he is making you feel unsafe and following you around, he is not stalking you really.

Does he know you know about his other accounts? If he thinks you don't know, then maybe he is using those accounts so that you don't think it's him. If he knows, then I agree with what others have said. He either doesn't know what to do or just wants attention.

[Emily_Knowles]

He knows that I know so its just all random into why he's doing it whilst making it obvious

[SGL69]

One question does he know you know he has more than one account? If he doesn't then maybe he checking to see what you are doing. If he does know you know then I couldn't say.

[Emily_Knowles]

Yep i do know and he knows that so he isn't getting away with much other than me knowing he's looking at my account on the regular

[ScaryCool]

Why tf does he have that many accounts? I mean I can understand if it's hard moving on that you block someone, but the whole going and unliking things is petty to me.

[Emily_Knowles]

Its definitely too much effort to go through if you “dont care”

[mohamed96]

Something in his mind says (( u should revenge for what happend)) or he is trying to see your next move after breaking up.. to make ur life worse..
Ex.. if u tried to date another guy.. he will try hard to sparate both of u...
So wait untill he calm down.. and dont give him attention..

[Emily_Knowles]

Thankyou!!! Great response

[mohamed96]

U r welcome

[iv4n_gg]

He isn't stalking you. He just doesn't know how to react since up until now you have been chasing him, and now you've gone cold turkey. That does NOT mean he has feelings for you and it is also possible that your are really overthinking this and that he has no interest in you.

[Emily_Knowles]

Okay so looking at my profile every single day since breaking up? Seeing my stories constantly. Creating back up accounts after blocking me just to see my story isn't stalking? Yea ok. Cause it is.

[iv4n_gg]

How do you know he is looking at your account? I look at people's stories all the time too. I have many backup accounts too, which I use to give my friends more likes or views. If he is indeed stalking you, then he is just out of his comfort zone and is used to you chasing him; he may be scared you've moved on.

[Emily_Knowles]

That’s why he used to do. Create accounts to like my posts etc. He’s probably so used to me chasing after him that he’s a bit confused into why I haven't and is wondering what I’m up to and have got a better life? However when we argued he used to unlike my posts etc and he knew it annoyed me. So he could be doing it for reaction purposes also

[sbscotty]

He still likes and/or loves you. Is feeling rejected and needs the affirmation that you aren't happier than he is possibly for his own closer and ability to get over it and move on as to not sit anylonger of memories in the past.

[pcmrsage]

I don't know why he has so many accounts, but I don't think he's stalking you. He probably just didn't block you and when he saw your name on his phone he just went "huh I wonder what she's up to." Sometimes I still like my exes photos, but because I still like her or want the attention, but to signal that we could return to where we were before we dated.

[pcmrsage]

I don't know why that posted as a reply I'm new to this app lmao

[Emily_Knowles]

@pcmrsage when we first broke up he blocked me and then unblocked me. He left it for two weeks. Then blocked me. Unblocked me. Blocked me again the other day. Since we broke up he has seen all stories etc and gone through so much effort to unlike and unfollow me. Its definitely too much effort for someone if they say “they dont care”. Like surely he does if he's being like this

[pcmrsage]

I don't know why he has so many accounts, but I don't think he's stalking you. He probably just didn't block you and when he saw your name on his… [+]

[Emily_Knowles]

Basically he has like 3 accounts. One is his main. Another is an art account and then he has a backup account. He blocked me on his main about 4 days ago. 3 days ago he unfollowed me on his backup and since he blocked me he's seen my story with his art account. I’ve posted everyday since then because i post this regular thing and he’s seen all of them within 20 minutes

[Shaun1993]

Unless your scared of him physically harming you, do what everyone else does and ignore it. He will get bored of it and move on soon enough.

[Emily_Knowles]

Yea I definitely am ignoring it because i think thats what he wants. A reaction

[17mendessy]

I think you’re overthinking. He’s not really stalking you and if he unfollowed and unliked he’s really determined to move on

[Emily_Knowles]

But then looking at everything i post a day AFTER he unfollows me is stalking. And he's been doing it everyday. He cleary has too much time on his hands to be looking at everything i post. Like its too much effort when he could have blocked me on everything from the beginning so...

[Nyanbacon]

You both are toxic and should leave each other alone. he's stalking you because you're letting him by not blocking him and cutting him off. If you didn't want it to happen, you'd put in an effort to get him to stop

[malohtie]

I don't know what kind of problems you have but i think he still think and care about you

[Noahalic]

You are just egoistic enough to think that you are important to him.

[Emily_Knowles]

So dating for 2 years and we broke up 2 weeks ago. Im not important and he doesn't care? Yea okay keep telling yourself that. Its just you who’s bitter

[CheckPlease]

He wants attention!!!

[dzero]

He want to see if you are happy without him.

[Jake47]

Because u didn't block him...😅

[Djmo17]

I think he is stil into you

[Sketti]

Just block him duhhhh

[Jeep_lover]

Block him

[Anonymous]

You probably have a great pussy?

[anametouse]

Ew. Fuck that

[RaduSD]

Uhh...