If a guy wants to dance with you at the club how should he approach you?

[That1tallguy]

I'm going to guess most girls will say ask her first. I tried different methods and just asking almost always gets me rejected. What I usually do which I found most effective is try to make eye contact then grab her hand or hip and lightly pull her towards me.

Make eye contact then pull her towards you

Ask her to dance

Just start dancing on her

[os2blue]

This is what you do. If you are alone, go look for those guys standing alone near the dance floor. Step 1: Ask one of them to be your wingman. Step 2: Girls tend to be with friends. Approach the girl's friend and ask her to dance with your new wingman because he thinks she looks cute and you're helping him approach girls. Step 3: then proceed to ask the girl you want to dance with, to dance with you. Side note: always say your a sh*tty dancer before you dance.(with a laugh) If you aren't then blow her away. if you are she at least know your comfortable being honest. I would say this is 75% success rate maybe higher, for me.

[That1tallguy]

Why would you go alone? I would assume those guys standing in the corner looking all awkward and shit would be the worst wingman. You gotta look like your having fun. Standing still gives off a bad impression and looks more like your just there for ass.

[That1tallguy]

Still doesn't sound like a bad approach but I would stick with a friend as a wingman.

[os2blue]

I assumed he was alone. If you already have a friend to be a wingman, that's great. I like meeting new people so even if I already have a wingman I'll go and get another. Sometimes my wingman already is busy with someone else or i need more guys approach the big group of girls. 1:1 ratio.

[ThatItalianBastard]

"hey, wanna dance?"

Pretty blunt, forward. But not provocative or standoffish in anyway. Simply getting to the point in a polite yet clear manner. Giving an open ending to whether that option can be taken to heart or cast aside for some other reason. Seems pretty simple to me.

[That1tallguy]

Same applies when you go off body language and eye contact but it's more assertive.

[Rainie_]

On the dance floor you ask through body language. Eye contact, if she looks back with a smile you can approach, start dancing but not too close, see first if it’s mutual, if she’s not into it then move on, if she’s into it/smiles you can dance closer.

If you’re not in the dance floor but at the bar or elsewhere you can ask if she wanna go dance after having had a short convo or so, getting to know her name etc.

[ChronicThinker]

Walk up, ask. Or, walk up, be cheesy and offer a hand.

[rarelambo]

But he said that when he did this he gets rejected

[That1tallguy]

From my limited experience I think body language and eye contact is the best approach. It's assertive, confident yet polite because it still gives her the chance to accept or reject the dance. Unless she's off the dance floor it's honestly unnecessary to ask.

[princessfromjupiter]

I'm gonna be old-fashioned and say ask her! God I HATE when random guys just randomly "dance at me" at the club it's so uncalled for. If we really wanna dance with you, we do let you know (by making frequent eye-contact for example)! If a girl just looks at you once or doesn't look at you at all please just leave her be...

[ElissaIsBelgian]

I love men who take initiative. Alpha males who pursue me instead of waiting until I ask them, have my preference. The man should lead. I’m old fashioned. I love it when he shows a bit of his testosterone, when pursueing a girl :)

[os2blue]

I'm not that good looking but I play the alpha role pretty well. If I go up to a girl usually its a 50% success rate. Usually, because they come in a pack and they stay together. I have a couple ways I get around this issue; but, I would like to hear how an alpha man would approach you in this situation and actually get you to dance.

[PrincessPie]

Just start dancing on her would work best with me, well "with me" not on me lol.

[Sevenpointfive]

dancing is awkward enough to begin with. if you dance within proximity of her, then make eye contact, then smile. you'll already be dancing with her at that point.

[That1tallguy]

You shouldn't feel awkward people pick up on that and won't want to dance with you

[Sevenpointfive]

i don't dance anymore but i was usually drunk doing stupid movements like the rest of the people. it was fun enough.

[BarbieLola]

Feel out the situation- I don’t think you should have to literally ask though. Seems too formal

[ItzYaboi]

Tbh I think the guy in the picture is doing exactly how it should be done. Just lool at her having a good time. What a legend

[That1tallguy]

You mean mclovin?

[ItzYaboi]

Yess.

[MikeAndMolly]

Always ask. Even nonverbal requests are way better than just imposing yourself on someone else.

[That1tallguy]

Non verbal how?

[MikeAndMolly]

Like reaching your hand out to her and waiting for her to take it or not.

[Marharaya]

Start pulling out some sick russian dance moves... girls are suckers for cossack dancers

[JorgeCS_99]

Depends on how you touch them xD don’t be aggressive or creepy ig

[That1tallguy]

Girls like when your a little aggressive

[IsMayoAnInstrument]

Be careful with that man, with today's rape-accusation culture you could possibly get into some legal shit if you make one of these women uncomfortable.

[boulshyte]

i prefer asking, do not touch me or assume anything it creeps me out

[RuthlessAri1984]

Becuz thats the most polite way to do it in these #metoo times.

[Anonymous]

Always ask first to know if she interesting in dancing with you

[casre94]

I prefer if he asks me to dance. Maybe its old school, but it's better for me.

[_itz_sidn3y_]

Give her a compliment. Be like your really beautiful do you want to dance with me?

[Anonymous]

Just start dancing with her...

[raresteak]

Hey cool dude were blood brothers

[ChloeStarfire]

He shouldn’t

[Riyadh3]

make eye contact

[LuWe22]

Just ask please