I am so shy! How to avoid being so quiet and speechless?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone:) My problem is that I so shy that can't barely talk with new people(especially if they are males))) I just can't say anything... Also I JUST HATE WHEN SOMEONE TELL ME COMPLIMENTS!) I know that I am kinda pretty, but I don't know how to react when people(guys!) point on my appearance) I feel embarrassed)) What is wrong with me?!)) Please, help!))

p.s. I am 19) just starting University:)

[colt1819]

First off you need to stop caring about what others think about you. Second make small steps to become less shy. Practice, don't be afraid to speak up or say something stupid. Sure it might be hard but evaluate the situation for what it is. Read some self help books, it will help you with understanding your situation better and give you tips.

Now I get why my prof always said that Shy people are the most proud. Its not that they think they are better but they are so afraid to look stupid.

Just remember people are like you and that most people are not going to bash you or think bad about you. How will you treat a person with your problem? You would be sympathetic and try to help them. Most think that way.

[Asker]

thanks:)

[colt1819]

No problem, glad I could help.