Drunk text msg: let's have sex!

this guy that I have been flirting with texted me telling me he is drunk and "lets have sex". saying that I want to have sex with him too. I was kinda disturbed by it so I texted back: go have sex with your girlfriend and he never texted back. later text/called him but he never replied.

he asked me out several times but I rejected him. he's called me bfr when he is drunk and text me as well. once telling me he misses me, the other asking if he could kiss me (all via text when drunk)

what does this mean? does he like me? or not? or just playing me?

PS I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not but he keeps sending me mixed msgs (eg. we would be chatting online and suddenly he disappears and never comes back w/out saying bye) and we like to play mind games which each other a lot! (which I'm really tired of)

btw he is a Gemini guy and I'm a Scorpio.


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  • - You could always just try asking *him* these questions (while he's sober of course).

    - Drunk text messages are pretty meaningless.

    - He obviously "likes" you because he's asked you out several times.

    - If you've already rejected his sober advances, then what does it really matter? You've already decided that you don't want to get involved.

    - If you do want to get involved (you say your flirting with him), then accept his offer for a date (assuming he's single). Or do something nearly every guy would welcome and make the first move.

    - He lacks chat etiquette?

    - If you're tired of "mind games" then be direct: a) "I want to go out...", b) "I don't want to go out..."

    • i liked him and I still like him. I guess there was just too much mind games involved which is why I never said yes and nothing ever really happened.

      there is nothing I can really do now (please refer to above comment) since he is not talking to me anymore. as for chat etiquette. he is unpredictable. we use to talk online everyday. now, not so anymore and since the text incident, we don't talk at all. and even when we use to talk, he would suddenly disappear w/out saying bye. what should I do?

    • Send him an email, leave a message (voice) on his phone, and leave it at that. If he wants to talk to you, he will; if he doesn't, you may just have to move on. I wouldn't read too much into the sudden log-offs. I know more than a few people who simply don't say hi or bye when chat's open, they just don't see it as necessary.

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What Guys Said 1

  • Okay, step 1, stop reading astrology. Most of your life should be better at this point. But regarding this problem.

    He was drunk, people are honest when they are drunk (normally too honest). He at least wants to have sex with you, whether or not he's trying to pull at your heartstrings to get it or genuinely likes you, can't really tell, that's your job to find out.

    I know I personally do things like that to chicks I'm really into only because I am restraining myself all day and then I get drunk and feel like I have to tell them how I feel (or just get horny and ask for sex)

    • problem is, I don't even know if he was really drunk. I mean its all through text and the only reason he texted me because I called him and he never picked up. then comes the text msg.

      anyways, I guess it doesn't really matter anymore because we are not talking. at least he is not talking to me. later that night I even message him telling him I miss him and whether he does. no response. called him and asked him to call me back. nothing.

      any suggestions what I should do?

    • It seems like he's not into you. I'm sorry about that, but it might just be best to get moving. If he is really into you but ignoring you this hard, it's pretty retarded to want a relationship with him. Find someone who'll actually care

What Girls Said 2

  • To me it doesn't seem like he is looking for anything serious. He probably likes you - could be just physical though - but I don't think he is planning to commit to you or wants to get involved in a (serious) relationship with you.

    So if you're looking for more than a hook-up and you're not interested in the whole 'friends with benefits' thing etc., but a serious relationship, I wouldn't put much time in this.

    If you want to get things straight before making a decision and you feel there have been played too many mind games, I recommend you meet up with him and get your answers. Do this face to face though.

  • it seems like he just wants you at his own convience..if you ever got with him do you highly believe he would be faithful to you exspecially when he's drunk?those are the type of questions you need to think about before you think to hard about being with this guy..cuz my advise is he's playing you big time.

    • so I guess all that asking me out before was just all play? then why ask so many times and chat with me everynight?

    • cause he wants in your pants.