I found pictures of my boyfriend and his ex - what do I do?

[just_an_illusion]

I'm pretty sure he doesn't even realize he still has them we've been together for going on 3 years...the 1st year we were together he actually found one picture and he ripped it up right away and freaked out that he still had it. I found more pictures recently well just 2 but it still kinda bothered me because it was a picture when they were about to kiss. What should I do? should I confront him? help please

[Levin]

I have to say I find this really perverse. There's just something very disturbing about your mentality. And this is just my opinion, I'm sure no one else will agree with me. But those relationships of the past, that have since disintegrated, meant a lot to me. I loved some of those women. They represent memories, the past, they tell the story of how I got where I am. What's to get upset over? I don't agree with the notion of vanquishing them from your life as if they never existed. Some of those women meant a lot to me, part of me will always love them. But relationships usually break down for good reason, you're not compatible for some reason. I broke up for good reason. That doesn't mean those relationships were meaningless, and that one cannot look back on them warmly. They're just memories, to reflect on and to look over when you're coming towards the end of your life (I imagine!). He's with you for good reason.Why get so insecure? Why not just be pragmatic, and accept that they likely merely represent memories for him? Eh, I just don't get it.

[neberle]

So your together for more than 2 years and your freaking out about a picture of him and an ex from before you where together.

Guess what he was with his ex they kissed maybe they had sex I don't know. Does it matter? no. Is this evidence of infidelity? no.

Don't worry about it if you want talk to him about it. If you make a big deal about it it will be a big deal regaurdless of whether it should be or not. So be sure to if you want to mention it just say hey I found these old pictures of you from before we were together and give them to him. He will probably destroy them like the last set if not who cares.

Everyone has a past what matters is he is with you for two years because he chose you not his ex. Even if they were of him f***ing her it wouldn't matter because he chose to be with you not her. Those pictures are from before you showed up and rocked his world.