My boyfriend has naked pictures of his ex?

[JoleneRays]

I started seeing this guy about 6 months ago and in May I discovered he was having inappropriate text conversations AND face-timing his ex. I confronted him and he told me he would stop and has tried to show me how much he cares about me and make it up. He sent her a text telling her they should end all communications because he didn't want anymore interference with our relationship (this all didn't happen until this month, July). A few days ago I found a "photo vault" and in the vault were naked pictures and a video of him screwing his ex. I haven't said anything because I don't know how old they are or when the last time he even looked at the vault... they dated a year ago and she lives in Atlanta (we're in columbus oh) so they probably face-timed a lot while dating which I why I'm not sure if they have been there for awhile and he's forgotten or something else. I feel like I'm being a blind idiot I don't know what to do. I am a beautiful and successful girl but he makes me feel so insecure about myself because of all this. I don't know if I should just leave or ask him about it.

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To respond to a lot of your questions I have asked him if he still wants to be with her and even told him to please go back to her if that's what he wants because in her texts to him she is telling him she still wants him.

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He swears to me that he only wants me and she doesn't compare to me in any way. He has told me he is trying to regain my trust and cares about me. I'm unsure why he would lie to me about wanting to be with her when I gave him the opportunity leave

[Paris13]

Many times when couples break up, it's Hard to leave Them and the past behind------And I see, even the 'Vault pictures' have Now surfaced. I can't say anything myself, for even with Everyone I have dated, been friends with, maybe married, whatever my excuse, I have millions of memories, millions of Pictures, but Not just Trying to give you a 'Million' excuses. I keep them, not to just gawk and google over, but have as just Memoirs. He is most likely doing the same thing... I am assuming...
He is with you now. They have Obviously split up, although stayed 'Friends,' however yes, I would Have to Agree with you that if by 'Inappropriate text conversations and face-timing,' he had no business doing Monkey business with Her if He is with You. However, it appears, if he has done this, has Ended That part of things with her. But it is always Good to be on your guard, as his newbie, to Make sure everything is kosher as a pickle, and Him Not as fickle as One...
As far as the 'Photo vault' is concerned, unless you can explain How you had run across this, better to keep This hidden in the archives, or pay the price for being this "Curious George.' He will start Not trusting you, think you're nosing in his life and have your head up his butt.
However, to be fair, for I always try to see two sides of the coin, should you ever find out again that he has been Face-timing his Ex, give him a run for his money by telling him that he should go back to her then, and Continue to Do the same sex acts that you saw in the pix and the videos. After you have given him his walking papers, walk out the door and tell him: "You're a Two faced Two timer, buddy."
You would know Then that he could never be trusted with her, that perhaps wit this redrick, you were nothing but a rebound.
Keep your eyes and ears open... The picture proof will be in his pudding from thence on.
Good luck. xx

[Stacyzee]

It seems as if he still cares about his ex-girlfriend.
Why else would he have contact with her and keep her photos?
Bring this up (in a calm manner).
Hopefully he is honest with you.
If he isn't, remember "actions speak louder than words"
it is apparent that he still cares for her.
He doesn't want interference to happen in his relationship over his ex, but
his actions are making that very possible.
At this point,
you need to ask him to tell you the truth and to choose.
-Is he with you only to get over her?
-If given the opportunity to have her back, would he dump you and date her?
These are questions that make a big deal.

[JoleneRays]

I have brought this up before and I told him if he stilled cared for her then he should go be with her and he has adamantly told me he does not care for her like he cares for me and she doesn't compare to me in any way. He tells me that he trying his hardest to rebuild my trust in him and I know he is trying hard to show me in his little ways that he cares. Another side to the story is that we dated 2 years ago and he dated this girl during one of our "off" times. He has always remained in constant communication with me over the years though and we have been sexually active it was only until recently that we began dating again (hence the timeline in the original questions). I don't know if he's insecure about us because we have been so off and on, if he isn't over her and is lying about it even though I gave him the chance to leave, or if this is who he really is.

[TheLastGirlScout]

No way is this cool, photo's of them together, like a cute momento pic or something, is completely different. The only reason he would keep those is to jack off to them later. The fact he's still, until recently, been communicating with her is also really not cool! I'd get rid, I don't think he's ready to give her up yet. Fuck him!!!

[halafax]

No offense dear but it sounds like he isn't over his ex. If he is sexting and facetiming his ex then maybe you should reconsider. Anyone who says oh he should be able to keep souvenirs of his ex is just wrong. Its one thing to keep a gift, but naughty pics are another thing entirely. So after he got caught he is trying to make it up to you. Question you have to ask yourself: "If he respected your relationship, and respected you, would he have done this to start?" My answer is no he doesnt, on any front. You would be smart to break it off while the getting is good. Ill bet yo money his facetime chats werent all g rated either. There is a lot wrong here. A lot wrong that isn't going to get better.

[JoleneRays]

I have brought this up before and I told him if he stilled cared for her then he should go be with her and he has adamantly told me he does not care for her like he cares for me and she doesn't compare to me in any way. He tells me that he trying his hardest to rebuild my trust in him and I know he is trying hard to show me in his little ways that he cares. Another side to the story is that we dated 2 years ago and he dated this girl during one of our "off" times. He has always remained in constant communication with me over the years though and we have been sexually active it was only until recently that we began dating again (hence the timeline in the original questions). I don't know if he's insecure about us because we have been so off and on, if he isn't over her and is lying about it even though I gave him the chance to leave, or if this is who he really is.

[halafax]

So why is he still talking to her all the time? I mean there is nothing that says you can't be friends with an ex, but this is a bit much, plus the naked pics and all that jazz.
You need to make a stand and make him show you he is serious.
Honestly this is just not a situation to be in. Period.

[jacquesvol]

As long as he keeps just a souvenir no harm is done. You can't make her disappear from Earth and from his memory either. I suppose you too have an ex-(maybe no graphic material)

[med11]

This is true in totality. I would be willing to bet most men have their own... errrr... trophy case. Regardless Jolene, "jacquesvol" is correct.

[rthomas43]

I can vouch for most men having a "trophy case".

[JoleneRays]

I have brought this up before and I told him if he stilled cared for her then he should go be with her and he has adamantly told me he does not care for her like he cares for me and she doesn't compare to me in any way. He tells me that he trying his hardest to rebuild my trust in him and I know he is trying hard to show me in his little ways that he cares. Another side to the story is that we dated 2 years ago and he dated this girl during one of our "off" times. He has always remained in constant communication with me over the years though and we have been sexually active it was only until recently that we began dating again (hence the timeline in the original questions). I don't know if he's insecure about us because we have been so off and on, if he isn't over her and is lying about it even though I gave him the chance to leave, or if this is who he really is.

[jmmmfi]

Ha you don't live far from me! If it's bothering you just talk to him about it. I'd say if he doesn't wanna get rid of them there's an issue. I know if my girl had pics like that on her phone that wouldn't work with me.

[cavmanier]

I would be long gone, honestly. Way long gone.