Gym behaviour - Guys are you zoning out or intentionally staring?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so i am slightly over weight and this time rather than fad diets i have joined the gym. I have been going 5 days a week for 6 weeks now, I do cardio first then hit the weights targeting different muscle groups each day, but still feel self conscience. Especially while using the cable machines, i have headphones on and tune out but during my rest periods i can feel the guys looking and it puts me off not knowing if they are looking on purpose and thinking why is she here or she is so fat or just i am in there line of sight. Most of them are regulars and have been there everyday since i started. I know i should just ignore it but its hard when you feel so self conscience. Most other females there are just using the cardio machines and do not touch the weights so i can not tell if its just me... i really do not want to feel like this as i am so enjoying going and notice my arms and legs are getting nicely toned - its just my belly. So my question is guys why do you look and what are you thinking?

[ImSoSquishy]

at the gyms i've been to, there's only a few people are zoning out, and majority of them are intentionally staring at others. the people who tells other people they are over thinking and etc. are just saying it so you don't feel self conscious about your exercise form and techniques or think there's something wrong with yourself or your outfit so people are staring at you.

while some people do purposely follow me around the entire gym and stare at me, i do know it's because i'm one of the few regulars that knows what they're doing so people want to learn by watching as they're probably still too shy to ask for help or whatever. i have stared at other people in the past too but that's only because those people were doing exercises with bad form, knees/ankles caving in during squats or lumbar spine rounding up during deadlifts and overall looks very cringey is when i usually stare at someone. other than that, i usually just focus on myself and zone out or i'll just open the news app to read the news until the timer goes off to notify me it's time to do my next set.

[Danny_dan92]

Before I answer your question I want to let you know that you’re doing your workout routine wrong.

Secondly there are times where kn between sets I’ll stand and glance around. If my eyes happen to link up with the eyes of a female then she should be aware that it’s not intentional. Afterall I do not continue starring, cause for one that’s some creeper shit

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply - good to know! Please could you explain what i am doing wrong though?

[Danny_dan92]

You gotta do cardio AFTER you do weights. You see, when I first started working out I was doing the same thing you do.

The problem with doing cardio before you life is that you burn yourself off. You deplete all of your glycogen stores so when it comes to lifting. You can’t do anything, because you’re so burnt out. It’s better to maximize your stored energy for the lifts, for in order to burn fat you gotta increase your muscle tone and mass. Trust me. You won’t get “BIG” it’s genetically impossible for women to get buff. But what will happen is that you’ll be very fit and tone.

[Danny_dan92]

Anways, after you’re done lifting. You finish off with an intense 15-30 min cardio sesh. And I’m telling you right now. You should be losing 3-5 lbs every month. Keep in mind tho that the first month or two are gonna be slow when it comes to weight loss, and that is because of the fact that your body is barely starting to get in shape. But once the ball get’s rolling you’ll start seeing results coming in like crazy. Stay motivated and eat right. Also get good sleep. Hope this all helps

[Asker]

Thank you so much!! I had no idea, i have been doing 30 mins intense cardio first and then weights, i am seeing a toning difference but no weight loss yet. I will defiantly switch it round. Thanks again i really appreciate the advice :)

[Danny_dan92]

Muscle burns fat. So just keep it up. Eventually you’ll start seeing the difference

[Danny_dan92]

Also not sure what muscle groups you are hitting. But if you are the type of girl that doesn’t wanna do arms and shoulders cause you think it’s gonna make you look “manly” I would not think that way. I’ve trained women and men. And as long as you do not take steroids there is no way you will look manly.

[Danny_dan92]

Also do one muscle group a day. Don’t be one of those girls that does

Legs
Legs
Legs
Legs
Abs

[Asker]

Haha now that i am doing right i think:

Monday - Cardio, Back and Biceps
Tuesday - Cardio & Abs
Wednesday - Rest Day (yoga at home)
Thursday - Cardio, Shoulders, Chest & Triceps
Friday - cardio & legs
Saturday - Rest Day (yoga at home)
Sunday - Cardio & Abs

any advice if i am doing this wrong though would also be great?

[Danny_dan92]

Woah woah woah... mother of god. Ok lemme tweak your schedule

Monday - Back, abs & Cardio

Tuesday - Arms & Cardio

Wednesday - Rest day

Thursday- Shoulders, abs & cardio

Friday - legs & Cardio

Saturday- Rest day

Sunday - Chest, abs & cardio

[Danny_dan92]

The problem with your current schedule is that you’re doing too much in one day. It’s better to focus on one specific muscle group a day.

[Asker]

Ah ok maybe i did have that all wrong too :(
Thanks you so much again, really glad you replied. I will amend to your schedule and hopefully start to see some changes soon , really really appreciate your advice :)

[Danny_dan92]

😂 don’t mention it. I used to be a little bowling ball when I was kid. Then through trial and error I learned what works and what doesn’t. You’re gonna make it. Just focus and you’ll see that by next year you’re gonna look so much better. Do not rely on weight scales for results by the way. Look at yourself naked in the mirror before you take a shower. (Sorry if that comes off vulgar) but it’s true. Muscle weighs more than fat. So yah you could lose a pound or two of fat and gain even more of muscle and you’re gonna get on that scale and think nothing is working and it’s gonna make you wanna give up.

[Asker]

That makes sense, i do feel very tired some days. Please could you help advise on one more thing for me?
How many different types of exercises should i do for each muscle?
At the moment i do 3 different exercises for 3 sets x 10 reps for each muscle group - weight varies as can lift more on tricep and bicep than i can on shoulder and chest?

[Asker]

Same, my weight has always been up and down, so determined this time to do it right! Haha no it doesn't sound vulgar i have been doing that, i can see a slight difference so with the changes you have helped me with, should start to see big differences soon :)

[Danny_dan92]

Oh dear lord 😂😂😂

Alright, never set a number. With every set you need to do as many repetitions until failure. Meaning you literally cannot do anymore, this in turn will cause more muscle breakdown which in turn will inevitably lead to more muscle tone and more muscle tone = more fat loss.

So stop doing the whole 3 set and 10 reps each.

As far as sets are concerned mix it up here and there. For example I would suggest do anywhere from 3-5 different exercises per muscle group of the day. And for some of those exercises do double. Like 8 sets. I know I know. It seems like a lot. But trust me, when you wake up the next morning super sore you’ll remember this conversation and thank me.

Most people say that muscle sorness does not equate “gains” but trust me. Yes the fuck it does. Because that is caused by lactic acid being released into your muscles due to physical exertion and is what also is a bi product of muscle breakdown. And if you are getting good sleep and eating right...

[Danny_dan92]

You’ll be getting stronger muscles everytime

[Asker]

Oh my days.. i have been doing it all wrong hahaha... Well not only have you REALLY helped me you have also majorly answered my question as to why i get looked at lol.
Thanks so much again :)

[Danny_dan92]

No problem 😄

[alexandremp]

Hey, being in a gym it is kinda boring so people just look at things that move. It is not on porpose and i can assure you, everyone that are in the gym have insecurities (even if it just in their heads). Girls look too, it is normal and is not because people are pervets. I am sure you look too to other people, you just dont notice it.

[GingerGuy]

Yep, just looking, at anything and everyone. Not judging anyone.

[Asker]

Hey, thanks that's good to know! I did not mean that i thought they were perverts, i felt the opposite really that they were judging me for being slightly chubby lol. I do look but mainly just to see what other exercises i could do and comparing myself to what i call the girls fashion parade ( the slim ones with a full face of make up and tight clothing ) rather than the sweaty blob i feel haha

[Asker]

@GingerGuy - Thanks :)

[alexandremp]

Guys look to guys too 😁 too compare ahah and thinking, i wanna be like that someday ahaha

[Myk13]

First, congrats on getting started. That’s the hardest part.
Guys that are regularly working out are going to naturally be drawn to a woman that works out regularly as well. Keep it casual, it’s ok to flash a smile. If they approach you, kindly decline. The regulars that are serious, will help with your routine if needed. You might even connect with a good workout buddy. Which is nice to have on the days that you need a little push. Best of luck.

[Asker]

Thank you! Your right, it's the same faces I see each day, actually had a laugh with a couple guys today about a girl in the shortest shorts that left nothing to the imagination... turns out the guys at my gym find that as funny as I do lol

[Myk13]

That’s great. The longer you continue, the more comfortable you will get. As you slowly get to know everybody else. You’ll get so much more out of life if don’t over analyze everything. If something is on your mind, good or bad, say something. If people are rude, kill them with kindness.

[Asker]

Thank you, great advice :)

[Nick_mx]

I bet a lot of them find you attractive.
Have you tried to smile back at them?
This looks like flirting.
Enjoy it.
If you feel harassed be safe, but otherwise enjoy the attention

[Asker]

I'm starting too smile an say hello to people now I don't feel like the newbie lol

[trick1988]

It could be that your just in there line of sight and there zoned out. It could also be that they think you're cute.

[esotericstory]

They just wanna see what exercises you do as a woman.

[Riichy]

Guys will be guys especially in s gym totesterone
Flowing and people will stare

[AlmostMorty]

Fuck em. If they are looking at you because your "fat".

[weirdoweirdo]

Im zoning out all the time

[Asker]

Thanks, good to know!

[Femanus]

Guys love gyms cause the girls