Why do a lot of hot men end up dating below average women? Are they truly in love with them?

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Gotcha_Writer10 · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong with being "average" looking. Heck I'm a plain Jane myself and have had a few guys take interest in me (though I'm focused on uni so no boyfriend for me anyway). Average girls and guys usually add a comforting sense of security to people. We're good looking enough to satisfy (usually), but simple enough that we tend to try and please more in relationships. Though for me personally, already knowing I'm not a head-turning megan fox looking girl, have accepted it, and approach people openly to who I am personally. I try to be honest, and be a good friend to people so they may appreciate who I am on the inside and accept me despite not being a 10/10 model. I don't beat around the bush, or try to be something I'm not, and people seem to appreciate my humbleness. And because I know first hand the hurt it can be to be underappreciated or ignored, try to welcome people of all mindsets and interests who approach me. I don't bash or tease people for liking or doing certain things (so long as it's legal), and will respectfully excuse myself if I feel their idealisms... conflict with mine. So overall, hot people tend to lean towards average andy's or Ann's because of this. And because we tend to be more level headed in approach to relationships, we don't really date for looks. So the "hotter" person usually can relax that their partner may not be as shallow as some, and will appreciate them for who they are too. And in terms of intimate relations (sex), average people are usually thought to be more conservative (virgin club president forever 😁🔫), so likely hood of them having diseases and viruses are also more rare. Of course, this doesn't go for everyone, I'm just reflecting from personal experience.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It's subjective. Relationships and dating are not about looks. It's about intentions, desires, ambitions, values, morals, etc. If a 'hot' guy wants to marry and the 'hot' woman, doesn't, why should he date or continue dating her? For sex? Because that is all its ever going to be about. In fact, despite popular belief, most guys like that really just want any girl who would love him and value him for him as a person, not for his looks. If all he wants is somebody for his looks, he would have joined a strip club or something similar to Playboy. They have values too. It's best not to judge a person by physical appearance in that manner. You also have to have similar attitudes, etc.

fashionguy17 · Accepted Answer

Well, for starters, looks don't matter to a lot of people. I know, shocker! Lol. On the other hand, really "good looking" women think they have a lot of options, tend to be pickier and don't really have a great personality.

I used to be a male model, and I always tried to get women who have model-like looks. However, they were very... what's the word I am looking for... "shallow"? I always had to do all the talking, always had to work hard to get them to like me, and then they would ghost me over something trivial -- for example, one girl stopped talking to me because I had a passion for creating comics and like anime. She said that is very childish and nerdy, and she wants a real man who enjoys sports or something like that.

I currently have a girlfriend, and while she doesn't look like a model, she is pretty to me. Also, I don't always have to do all the talking, and she likes all the same activities I like and doesn't judge me at all.

Obviously, not all extremely pretty girls are shallow and not all average girls are that great. It really depends on the person, but that has been my experience.

AriesMan · Accepted Answer

What is "average" looking to you is SEXY to the hot man. You would be surprised what I find sexy about various women, and they don't have to have voluptuous bodies, far from it, or even a models' looks, no. A woman with basic EVERYTHING, who has a cute personality and manages to brighten up my day and get me to smile wins my heart over. This is the woman I want in my life because she fills a void in my personality, she does complete me and I hope I contribute to completing her. She may be unimpressive to others, looks and body, but sexy to me! The same applies here with the "hot" men and "average" women.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Maybe because the above average women are way too damn picky and are usually, these days, the first ones to yell, "RAPE!!" if a guy so much as glances in her general direction for a split second! We're mostly probably scared shitless of them!! "Don't even THINK of asking her out, she'll have me up on assault charges in a heartbeat!!" Consequently, I'm hear from a LOT of girls these days about how lonely they are and why don't men approach them!! Can you figure out why? Would YOU risk being tossed in jail and having your life ruined on bogus bullshit charges just because you wanted to ask a guy out?
So, now, the ball's in YOUR court!! It's up to YOU to start the relationship because we're too scared to! It was bad enough when we were just afraid of being turned down by you because, "She's so gorgeous, she MUST have 8 or 10 boyfriends already so, what the point of ME asking her out?". In today's sexual climate, you factor in potential rape and assault charges JUST for asking a girl out and you no longer have any incentive to asking anymore!!

Physics-Man · Answer

I totally agree! I've seen some handsome or at least average guys get with nasty unattractive fat balls of lard. It's sickening. I think these guys can do much better than that! And then they tell me that I should get a girlfriend already! They make it seem as if their girlfriends are stunning babes instead of the hambeasts that they are. I'd hate to wake up next to them every morning or cuddle with those creatures. Now then, I never said I was some 10/10 hunk; I just want to be with a quality girl as I believe that's what I deserve.

Anonymous · Answer

We should address a few things right off the bat. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It is subjective and everyone has different tastes.

Now, I don't know about other guys but for me, as long as she meets my minimum requirements for attractiveness, is all about her as a person at that point. I feel like your personality can completely change your appearance. For example, she could be a 10 (on my personal scale) but then she has some opinions or traits that suddenly take that allure and make her a 1 and the same is true in reverse.

mattdzz · Answer

The attributes that guys look for in a wife are different from that of a girlfriend or a hookup. Hotness may be prime in the initial stages, but hot guys sleep with A LOT of hot women, and find that they have nothing to offer them emotionally, or as a potential wife.
Girls that are just normal-pretty have to build up character and characteristics to make up for the initial advantages of hot women, and those same attributes typically get them wifed-up, while the hot women will lose their looks and hopefully marry and old guy who can provide for them.

DianaWest · Answer

all the men who keep saying beautiful women are not marriage material because they all lack a personality: really? i've come across plenty of plain janes with attitude problems who thought they were the hottest stuff ever. not all NATURALLY beautiful women are egotistical and stupid.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

Looking at it from looks is too simplistic.
Looks are just marketing for who you are as a person. Your looks can be great while you're a self absorbed, shallow person, and then no one will date you.

However, if your looks are poor but as a person you're great, you'll take longer to find a relationship, but the ones that you find will stick.

Getting together can be as basic as sharing essential values like religion, and having everything else be tolerable.

I think there's probably something wrong with your personage if you look at relationships as matching attractiveness levels.

lernulo · Answer

Well I don't know the reason either, but on my perception it's something happening now.
If you take the list of beautiful boys with ugly girls it's longer that beautiful girls with ugly guys.
Times in which I have talked to them, his answer was of the type...
To me, she is the best with the skin of his head on red and a stupid smile on their face.
In fact I was jealous of them, I would like to feel in that way with a woman I can trust.
So, I think love is the reason, and I believe that in love we are showing nowadays more habilities.

Gothd011 · Answer

What is unattractive about the pretty plain Jain (she remind me a bit of mandy moore actually). The guy and his scruffy beard? But i
I think they are an attractive couple.

I also prefer skinny guys that most girls would overlook. They got the biggest hearts most of the time.

real and realistic. If you have enough confidence in your own self to not have to have a hot guy/hot girl next to oneself to feel "attractive"
anyway

AynonOMouse · Answer

As long as she meets his minimum acceptable attractiveness, whatever that is to him, then after that her personality would make a big difference for how interested he would be in her.
So a 4 or 5 with a very compatible personality would be better than a 7 with an okay personality match, or a 9 with a bad personality match.

9teen · Answer

Men have a different perception of beauty than women do. They look for feminine features because that's what biologically attracts them. Women look for the opposite, it is only logical that women view girls with masculine features as attractive, while the opposite sex doesn't and vice versa.

smg99 · Answer

The girl is quite attractive and there are Hollywood A listers who Without makeup, are repulsive like Mila Kunis for example without makeup is so below the ranks, but she’s got a hot guy around her. This girl isn’t even wearing makeup and she looks healthily beautiful. The guy is lucky to be with her, because she’s certain of herself without being over the top.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Man this question pops up all the time. What do you mean exactly? That it shouldn't be possible for someone attractive to love someone average?
How many times must we go over this. Looks do play a part but anyone can fall in love with anyone no matter how they look.

Iwant2kno · Answer

Beauty is complex subject because everyone has a different perception of what beauty is. While you may think a woman is “average”, to others she is “divine”. So perhaps those that pick an “average” woman, authentically find her beautiful. 🤔

Nathansixfootthree · Answer

Lol because women don't understand most men don't want to marry a girl who's slept around, can't cook, has an attitude and wants to be dominant. (Most western women) Below average girls weren't exposed to the life of I get what I want cause I'm pretty, they have real personalities they are usually more trust worthy and down to earth and believe in traditional family values. Social media and attention is not what they live for.

Cask23 · Answer

Because looks matter less to women than charm, chrasima, and social-economic status.

Many good looking guys are self conscious and lack confidence (ironic I know). Therefore they can't pull in 9-10s like a less good looking but extemely charismatic average guy can.

Nivinxus · Answer

I think, values you perceive are very different from other peoples'. It's often better not to judge a couples' decision until you know them better. What they see in their partner may be something only they know, but not you.

megaman242 · Answer

That's silky way of looking at life. Love is part looks and mostly personality, meaning that looks is not as important then the personality. I would hate dating a 10 if she had a shitty personality when I could date a 7 with a great personality. You fall in love with a person, not a face.

BabyBirdy · Answer

Haha wow, the comments are full of men being bitter about beautiful women 😹

crazy8000 · Answer

Don't let lock fool you.
Certain facial features even body features tends to have direct correlation (more than not) to mental thing's, like development levels, mental issues, attitudes.
Those features that is mostly seen as beautiful in a society are usually high risk of on the low side on the inside, mental issues/sickness, insecurity, low developed minds and feelings, attitude problems.

Greendog · Answer

Because the most beautiful women usually become very egoistic and narcissistic due the attention they always get. While the more average looking woman usually has much more inside beauty. Average looks + good personality is better than looking like model + shitty personality

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

Men mostly prefer average women for long term relationships as they find her more stable. With a very attractive woman, they have a pressure of keeping themselves up to that level and are afraid she might cheat.

Although the woman in the pic is well above average

Porcelaine · Answer

Everyone has their own taste what is hot and what is not. What's an average woman to you maybe a goddess in his eyes. In this pic both people are hot. we all see beauty differently.

zerhope22 · Answer

Well both will not stay cute forever.. someday they will no longer look cute.. what lasts more is their love and affection for each other.. adding to that.. it rarely happens and that pic is taken from a Turkish series.. so.. he's not actually dating her.

Bluemax · Answer

Is the woman in this picture supposed to be an example of a "below average" woman? She's well above average to me.

Wharvey98 · Answer

Honestly I think the woman outclasses the man in this case. He doesn’t look all that special, scruffy beard overgreased hair. She at least looks decently attractive, not knockout gorgeous but better than average Able over there.

Larkyy · Answer

Probably because that's your opinion of what is attractive and what is average. That applies to you and you alone. Literally everyone will have a different definition

Logorithim · Answer

Because they know that makes a woman a great girlfriend isn't her looks.

Tdieseler · Answer

cuz dating ain't about looks only... there's something she got that other women dont... dont ever underestimate what others see in others.

Ripper_E · Answer

beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It does not matter what you see, only what they see. That was basically the whole point of the movie Shallow Hal.

unKN1GHTed · Answer

That guy looks like a wolf. He has the eyes of an aggressive person. I suppose that's what women like...

shimmeryns · Answer

I don't see it.. Both of them are equally attractive to me.

itsmatty · Answer

the best looking girls tend to have less personality on average. personally, i am turned off by girls that get constant attention from guys and being stuck-up is one of the most unattractive traits.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I think they are in love with them and not for nothing average girl have a deeper level of commitment than pretty girls when in a relationship. I know people are gonna think I'm crazy for saying this but its true

outside_Toronto · Answer

I'm not really sure what you mean by below average. People rarely over or under marry and when they do the relationship simply fails. And if it doesn't fax fail it has nothing to do with physical appearance.

Like attracts like

MollyTheOriginal · Answer

I've seen a lot more of the other way around, especially because women tend to underestimate themselves as a whole compared to men.

uglycarrot · Answer

Maybe looks aren't the only thing that matters in a person.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest I see it the other way around a lot more. Also he is not that hot to me but that’s my opinion. I’m guessing these hot men are truly in love.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls are the worst judges of what men find attractive. You might think she's below average. i guarantee men don't think that way.

justsay333 · Answer

@Opinion Owner, yh I didn't ask the initial question but thanks for the reply

laurenok · Answer

that's what i've always wondered too lol answer mine now

Anonymous · Answer

men are not like women you dumb ass watch this  start at 1 min

Anonymous · Answer

When you want a partner for life, looks do not matter. Personality wins every time!

emmily2396 · Answer

So who in that image was supposed to be less attractive than the other?

Beta_Wolf · Answer

All women are below average, unless she's a natural ginger, those are waaaaaay above average

YHL6965 · Answer

Maybe because they are not looking for shallow girls? A lot of people prefer personality over looks.

Turkishkurd · Answer

Personality really matters some men don't care about looks.

clampfan101 · Answer

Some guys, like myself, assume gorgeous women are already taken and don’t want to ask them out due to fear of rejection.

loser_boy · Answer

Does looks really matter?  If you only date someone for their looks you really are a special kind of trash. Really?

bhavy24 · Answer

Thats so shallow to date to a woman just on her looks

Anonymous · Answer

The problem here is that you don't understand what is attractive and what is important to men. Most "modern women" have no clue what men want in woman.

bladedshard · Answer

Cause those "average" women are better in relationships. Yes they r in love

Piteka5 · Answer

Looks are not all, tell me of relationship that lasted long because they were both good looking? There isn't one

Karthik_1411 · Answer

Idts😅 It may be their personal choice to do so...😃

Anonymous · Answer

doesn't matter if that guy in the pic were ugly or hot women from certain cultures just want a white man because society views them as rich and Superior

Lance1965 · Answer

What is below average to you might be above average to someone else.

Anonymous · Answer

Beauty's in the eye of the beholder. The woman in the picture's beautiful, also.

MarkTheory · Answer

Men like substance and many "hot" girls are incredibly boring.

esotericstory · Answer

I think they just prefer plain janes over glamour girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Both of them are attractive, wouldn't matter if they werent tbh

EightItemBreakfast · Answer

Most probably because the'ye low maintenance and don't ask for much

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