Why are so many hot guys single?

[Anonymous]

Is it because they can easily get laid? Do they enjoy playing the field? Dr Mikhail Varshavski, the sexist doctor alive from Instagram is single. How the fuck is that even possible?

[DanHart]

It's the same with especially attractive women to begin.

It's probably the factor of intimidation that hinders others from approaching a hot person in general, as getting rejected from someone like this is most likely somewhat lethal to anyone's ego.

Then, there are prejudices:

-He/She is arrogant or self-centered
-He/She has no or a shitty personality because they're used to special treatment and getting away with bad manners
-He/She will not be faithful anyway
-He/She could have anyone - why do they even pick me?
-If it's a guy, girls might think "he might be homosexual , esp. when he also dresses well and is well groomed
-He/She is most likely stupid
-He/She is fake to the core (or a fake account /catfish on those dating apps)

Personally, I get tons of "Likes" on those dating apps, but only a very few even respond to my non-creepy, normal messages.
If they do, they either ghost on me after 1 day or start playing games :

One girl proposed meeting up very quickly and she just didn't show up, so I asked her what's up - she then said "I'm not coming unless I know who I'm meeting" (I wasted 2 hours on that girl) - assuming I'm not real.

Another girl sent me a "Super Like" and claimed "she doesn't know whether she has time on the weekend to meet up" - I was like "At age 20, anyone of sound mind knows whether they have time or not, especially since you're a student meaning that you must have some brains at least" - That girl was dumbfounded

Another girl at Starbucks had sent her guy friend to tell me she'd like to have a date with me & would like to get to know me- surprised as I was I just said "yes, okay !", but before the guy could come back to her, she and her other 2 girl friends had stood up and left o. O !

Girls my age generally don't even believe me when I tell them what my career path is and that I meanwhile speak 3 languages at a high level (German, English, Dutch) and that I'm at a top university.

They don't believe that I read books that are 900 pages long and are non-fictional to increase my knowledge in my field - they don't believe that I'm seriously learning Japanese and that it's going really well

An older woman I'm dating atm, told me that I'm too sophisticated for girls my age and that I'm too much to handle for them and that I'm too intimidating - I couldn't believe it !

However, I do have people from the modeling industry follow me on social media...

[DanHart]

Nonetheless, I define myself by my achievements and not my appearance, which is what really matters to me - which again is a factor of intimidation for many girls my age -

The woman I'm currently dating is almost 6 years older than me, but she's very impressed by me and also doesn't play "games" or other silly stuff...

[Bandit74]

My guess is that a lot of them enjoy playing the field.

[mooky06]

Because they know they don't have to put that effort in to get women. Because women who are attracted to those types will go to them. They're probably not wanting to commit, and just to mostly have fun

[Sbgirl]

probably the same reason so many hot women are single; and their all probably too scared to ask each other out...

[justbanANNAz]

who knows? it could be anything. just remember that not everyone is even looking for a relationship.

[serious]

Well, yes that's 100% possible, and I believe that there are many men who are extremely attractive, good looking, handsome and yet they only remain single. There can be reasons such as:

1. They are very shy or they are highly reserved. They hardly interact and like being alone.

2. They never approach women and they are content being themselves and with who they are.

3. Their personality on the whole could be such that they are very nice, sweet and are soft spoken and I have observed that if a man is 100% nice, sweet then these qualities don't really appeal to a woman, so this could be one reason why such men are always single.

Of course I am saying in general, it may not apply to all women.

There can be many more reasons also.

[NotTheFBI]

Well I would't consider myself as a 'Hot Guy' but I'd say more along the lines of Fit & Handsome. That said usually the answer to that question is a bit strange and not too different from the reason women have the same problem. Contrary to belief Men can be used as sexual objects the same way women are. When a guy is looking for a serious relationship that may not be the case for the lady he's dating. Sounds weird but usually the truth does too. Other times it's because they had too many relationships end badly for them so they decided to sit on the sidelines for a bit.

[Real100_24_7_365]

Truth brother... I'm in the exact same boat, I feel like a piece of meat, so when women say that I completely get what they mean. I'm in my 40's and it's happening more and more lately (18 year old + blatantly saying then want to sleep with me wtf?). I try to be the 'decent guy' but when they realize I am decent yet attractive it's cognitive dissonance for them (they are confused) as they wanted me to be a ass*ole to treat them like a 304 sl*t... that's messed up. Damned if you do and damned if you don't, so now I just hold the line. Women are as shallow (more so lately with social media and rampant narcissm) then ever and they are bold and disrespectful (they would crucify a man for the things they say and do to me if the roles were reversed - they'd end up in jail for sexual harassment seriously!). But we live in a era of "women can't do wrong' so I'm SOL and it's ok for me to be harassed/abused because I'm a man. FML forget dating lol

[raio81597]

Actually it's harder for hot guys to get dates and or commitment from a woman as she most likely feels insecure with him and would fear losing him to another as he would appear to have more options. This isn't necessarily true, but in a woman's mind it can be so she won't even try for him or make a go at keeping him long term as she may believe he'll move on and she'll end up alone. Many of these guys also rely on their looks too much as well and lack a centered personality.

[Real100_24_7_365]

Spot on, keep it 100%! I have been called hot, handsome, too hot etc. I was never a douche or with multiple women and faithful AF. Yet like you say, it's harder for me to get dates because of the woman's insecurity, not mine. Example) 3 weeks ago I had a woman who had intense mutual chemistry with me (which rarely happens for me as I don't go around trying to get laid like most women assume handsome/good looking men do). She was a client and we interacted several times but I always was very professional and not once did I make a move or inappropriate comment, no IOI from me as with current culture it is not advisable. So she sends me tons of IOI's which I don't ignore but kind of matter of factly just say 'Oh really, ok' as to gauge the interactions. Now she stated many times she was single, bored of sitting at home alone, though I was so intelligent, charming, incredible fit, handsome even. I mean finally at our last interaction I said this "Ok K***** I'm not sure if it's me but are you sending me some type of message as in this MeToo era I don't want to assume anything?' she said definitely I wasn't misinterpreting the signals (who could?). So the flirting continues on her end and I told her I would be interested in getting to know her over walk/drinks etc. to get to know one another and gave her my personal phone number (I already had hers through business but left it to her as to avoid harassment).

[Real100_24_7_365]

continued...
Anyways as we were ready to part ways she walks up to me and hugs me face to face with her body pressing tightly against mine (for like 30 seconds or more, seemed like a eternity). We parted ways and she was odd after the hug as I was willing to walk her to her vehicle to chat more but she seemed distant all of a sudden. Anyways exactly (1) week later I text her in a professional manner to follow up and said "Just touching bases to see how everything is and that you're happy with everything". She started immediately saying "touching me already, hmmm I love that" etc. etc. and much more graphic and sexual which I won't say on this forum. Anyways I tried to keep it charming yet non-sexual on my end (just saying thing like, hmmm interesting really now?) and finally she asked me when I got off work so we could meet up. I pick her up and we go for a walk in the park to keep it casual. Then she springs it on me that she started seeing a guy right after we met and promised him she wouldn't do anything 'bad/naughty' to be good if she was hanging with a male 'friend'. So I said "why are we here then if you have someone you're into?", she said she just started dating him and wants to break up with him as he does drugs, but can't bring herself to do it, then says he's good looking etc. so I said "then you should perhaps be with him", she responded well I should really break up with him as we just started seeing each other and I want you so bad.

[Real100_24_7_365]

continued #2...
By this point she is touching me a lot on the arms, back, face etc. and saying literally "I can't look at you, I just want to f*ck you so badly right now, you're too sexy/handsome etc." and I was floored. Next I try to keep it non-sexual and trying to get to know her, she's avoidant and keeps going back to sexual vibes, also saying she's looking for LTR, making sure I am as well. Then I finally say "yes I am attracted to you as well, we should spend more time to get to know each other, but you are with someone and us flirting like this is wrong... perhaps we should just be friends until you make a decision about where you want this to go and if you are going to stay/break up with the guy you are seeing, I'm not into love triangles or drama". Anyways, she was super insecure saying literally that I probably had my d*ck in a woman that morning and probably tons more during the week, also after we part ways that I probably would have another woman that I would be f*cking with. I was blown away... I was insulted beyond belief... she said I was too smooth, charming, intelligent and had my shit together and that I would play her. Her insecurities not mine... after I dropped her off (where she hugged the crap out of me with her breasts in face) she said call me soon so we can try to make this work as she wants me and will figure out the situation between her and guy she started seeing. I text her the next morning before work stating respectfully that I wasn't into love triangles or drama, that if she was ever single to contact me and if I was single as well we could try to see where it went. I wished her happiness and the best... she said the same in return (but she did state "wow honesty, ok and I appreciate your real no game 'tactics'" which pissed me off like it was a game).

[Real100_24_7_365]

continued #3...

Needless to say she put me on block after that, I know because I sent another business related text and it didn't go through and no response... So point is this, not every handsome/hot/good looking guy is a douche bag (I was a chubby kid that had a personality and grew into my skin one day); like every attractive woman is a slut 304 people are people and painting all them because of a few hoes and douches is not fair to anyone... oh well that's why I don't even bother now... I get that all the time... you're playing me, you're a player, too this and that, too good for me, above my level, you'll leave. Wow, insecurities galore, but now it's me alone by choice, I essentially ignore IOI's now from women... whatever guess I will have to get to know them on a personal level so they judge me for who I am not my exterior (never judge a book right?). This has happened at least 5 times in that last 2 years... I finally open myself to finding someone and they sabotage it. Mutual chemistry is hard to find for me as I'm very discreet and selective now with who I reciprocate interest (no 304's need apply).

Cheers!

[Hades77]

Because, like many very gorgeous women, men are actually looking for a relationship, not something based on anything appearance. Being extremely attractive doesn't mean anything, it's what inside that matters and makes the person, in which the person wants a relationship based on a emotional structure. That's how I see it anyways.

[Notorisch_Arschloch]

Why's a multi-millionaire always get a new car whenever he's tired of the old one?

Newer and better rolls off the assembly line every day.

And a woman's beauty lasts less time than a car retains it's value... And cars lose a quarter of their value once driven off the lot...

[GeekySnowboarder]

I think of myself as attractive, maybe not hot but when I clean up well I notice girls checking me out... or at least I would guess that's what they are doing. But every girl I have approached or had feelings for has rejected me and many have been open about not being attracted to me/ being below their standards so I'm just single cause no girl has ever given me a chance yet.

[Jager66]

Guys used to shack up so they could have sex and children because they are bored.

Now being single is better than ever, casual sex is ok, it's starting to be uncool to have a girlfriend and the risks of shacking up with a woman are worse then ever. If your a hot guy with something to lose then being anything but single is probably a really bad life choice.

[CountVronsky]

I can think of a good number of reasons:
1) Very high standards.
2) They don't have many chances to meet new people in their circle.
3) They don't want to share their life with someone else.
4) They have a high sex drive that they want to satisfy with several women.

[Pyrofox]

Cause guys are sick of taking the first step only to get rejected and then to hear on here that girls are complaining about being single. Which is a total wtf moment.

[rose004b]

I thought guys complain that only the 'hot guys' never get rejected?

[Pyrofox]

@rose004b Nah its the fear of getting rejected by a girl they like. It seems many of us manage to hit on girls who are taken as some how they are the only ones it seems who are open to chilling with guys. Or else the others are just too much like a sister or tom boyish to date.

[kstout6]

Bingo, you got it. Plus, being a piece of meat does not mean that you are relationship quality. You have to think about that as well.

[kstout6]

Why the fuck am I listed on what girls said?

[frozenhorizon]

Is that doctor really that hot? He looks good but your description is amusing hahahaha. But how is it not possible? Just because people like you doesn't mean you want to be with them.

[Asker]

he is extremely hot and intelligent. he could be with any woman!!!

[Tarvold]

You are assuming that men and women want the same thing. We don't.

Modern relationships are rarely beneficial for men, so when men are attractive and have the benefit of choice, we often choose to keep our options open.

[xslope]

It's possible to be hot, doctor and a total douche. But for some guys it's just that they do not really want a relationshit and they prefer staying single if they just get laid enough.

[pavlove]

yeah, enjoy being with loads of women. it's actually better this way... a lot of hot guys are manipulative and narcissistic in relationships i. e they cheat or they are only with the girl to get something out of her like maybe just proof of dominance

[Real100_24_7_365]

Sound like you're a beta simp that's hating on your brotherhood. Not all good looking men are like that, sounds like you're pandering for female validation with your comment. Just like not all women that are attractive are sl*ts not all attractive men are douche bags... generalize much? Learn to judge a person on who they are as an individual otherwise you're a sheeple like the rest. Oh well who cares it's your grave if you want to dig it. Cheers!

[SofiaWW]

erm... can i also get like... one those hot guys with some piza

[iFarted]

- Some guys have other priorities they're focused on
- Some guys are really introverted
- Some guys are shy
- Some guys are really socially awkward

[iFarted]

Forgot to add that some guys enjoy not being tied down to a relationship

[MyUsernameRules]

Maybe these guys don't want to be in a committed relationship? Many guys like to meet different girls and have healthy casual sex.

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Most probably they're enjoying themselves, pursuing their goals and just unwilling to tie the knott. Looks aren't everything anyways.

[Kylesar]

A committed woman would cut him down, spend his money and try to change him to accommodate her

He wants freedom

[lv4lv]

They get tired of shallow women and want a real relationship instead, but that rarely comes along.

[Real100_24_7_365]

I've always been tired of shallow women, always wanted real relationships but got used for many years (even up to this day - but I reject these women) as a f*ckboy piece of meat... Guess what your comment is spot on, genuine women rarely come along even if the so called 'hot guy' is looking for one, as women are objectified so are men... sad.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Because us guys aren't always interested in being with one girl. Too much to focus on otherwise

[MoonlitSonata]

When any girl will spread her legs at your will, the ones that resist your charms are the ones that intrigue you. These are a rare occurrence.

[Polocrew]

Yea duh, Why bang one when u can bang em all lol I am not having girlfriend till like I am 30 and retire from my NFL career

[This_is_my_username]

Least you got a plan :)

[Polocrew]

@This_is_my_username Hell yea I do, I even have back up plan.

[This_is_my_username]

well you know what they say if plan A fails worry not as there is 25 more letters in the Alphabet!

[Polocrew]

@This_is_my_username Not really, It's my senior year and already am verbal commit at towsons so All I gotta do now is wait for it and go full speed and sign up for drafts second year of college.

[This_is_my_username]

Congrats!!! forget about the Alphabet then and go straight to victory!!! yayay :)

[yunggRooster007]

I don't know whl that is but I'm decent looking and am single Dx

[Anonymous]

Probably either like their independence or they're shy.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes just between relationships or taking a break or dating but nothing serious. There are a lot of hot single girls to.

[Anonymous]

we alpha men only like girls to have sex with. No relationship no fuzz. Just happiness from both single life and relationship. #PerksOfBeingAlpha

[This_is_my_username]

Lool had to look him up😂

[Asker]

did you enjoy the view?

[This_is_my_username]

Yeah, he's pretty damn hot :)

[angelagunning]

Its because hot guys are all FARIES!!!

[BertMacklinFBI]

life is not the way it seems to be

[Saudigirl]

Because they are cocky & think no one deserve them

[Anonymous]

More girls to hookup with I guess?

[Iron_Man]

Because its a head case kind of deal

[Anonymous]

same reason hot women are

[Anonymous]

enjoy diff pussy once older ill settle