Girls, what do you think of guys who never smile (tough guys)?

[Anonymous]

you know... the guys who never smile/laugh, cause they are too manly. are you intimidated by them? do you think they're hot?

[Doppelganger_Dee]

Im a straight male and I smile a lot. In all of my 27 years of life, I've never once experienced rejection because of my smile. As a matter of fact, when Im out at the mall or in public, girls seem to check me out even more when Im smiling than when Im not (of course, I have to be hanging with someone or watching a funny youtube video on my phone instead of just weirdly smiling for no reason). Every girl that liked me or that I dated would always highlight my ability to smile and always complimented my smile. Smiling usually makes anybody look more attractive. I've seen women who I dont think are very attractive, look beautiful when they smile. I assume its the same with women. Also, smiling makes it easier for people to trust you because people who smile USUALLY mean no harm (not always, but most of the time).

When you are always frowning or never smiling, you make yourself look like a constant threat and not in a good "tough guy" way. You are subconsciously giving off this message "I dont like fun and I dont like you." So people avoid you because there are too many other, more positive people in the world to hang out with. Men should smile more. Its not gay or feminine, its natural and it helps building your "social army".

[Hehe3]

Disagree. Naturally don't smile and added bonus - it keeps morons at bay. More good has come from appearing like a threat or (again disagree) as a tough guy. Smilers often seem shifty, like used car salesmen. And alternately, my compliments always came from those who found my natural state of non-smiling to be mysterious and a bit alluring.

[Brando]

Speaking from personal experience, I can tell you that it generally won't get you a response out of people. I'm not an on demand smiler either and I hardly have people approach me (friendly or otherwise) because of it. People seem to be very put off by me except for the people that I already know. I'm just not a very emotional person (not that I don't have them) and don't feel any urge to walk around letting the world know how I'm feeling.

So yes, you can expect that many people will avoid you like I'm sure you've already experienced. I've experienced it as well so I know it to be true.

[layla223]

they won't get a smile back from me!

i like a man who is masculine and manly and has that dominant heir about him, but I need him to have a soft side too. if I can't see that he has a sweet romantic side, that he's not afraid to show, then I won't be interested.

am I intimidated? maybe a bit. I just would not be attracted to them and id never approach them. it would make me think they are less hot too if they were that stone faced and worried about a tough exterior

[Asker]

i'm not worried about a tough exterior, I'm just not emotional at all. I'm very insensitive and it starts to p*ss me off. even guys are intimidated by me.

[layla223]

personally I wouldn't find you attractive based on the description 'insensitive' - I'm the complete opposite and I thrive off emotions and connections on an emotional level.

[Asker]

i wish I was able to show emotions, but it would be wrong to act "emotional", right? I can't pretend to be sensitive if I feel numb all the time. what to do?

[layla223]

are there any reasons you can think of you might be that way? or maybe you are just like that? or maybe you are being harsher on yourself than you should be on this issue? I'm not asking you to actually answer these questions here, I don't know anything about you so can't judge the situation well. but maybe the answer is one of those. and if that is just your character then I'm sure you'll find a match somewhere. everyone is different

[Hehe3]

Only wimps put on the fake ass smile to woo some diva with demands

[Reira]

All my crushes have been guys who almost never smiled.

They were good at making me smile, though..

The things that WOULD make them smile were perverted, brutal or vulgar jokes.

I like that better. . .

The goofy/happy guys never REALLY interested me. (And still doesn't..) They're awesome friends! But other than that. (At least for me.. About 80-93% of all girls prefer funny guys)

I just guess I like the more serious and mysterious type.

[LadyRae]

I would be frustrated just looking at him! I'd also feel bad for the guy. First of all people need to smile it's good for you! Second of all I need people to smile! I am a laid back sort and joke around frequently. If I couldn't be silly around a guy who was too tough for that I wouldn't be around at all.

[Cyhhgg]

I have an issue with people who say ,"You need to smile."

No.

I need to be inspired to, or at least put in the situation in which the smile was a natural occurance. Not because "you need to smile." People saying this are the worst. Lol Like I need to smile not because it's healthy, but because it makes you feel comfortable. You know, because having an expressionless face without any reasons outside of he must be shy, or depressed is so fucking unbelievable. Lol

[Hehe3]

That's absolutely ridiculous nonsense. Too many people put on fake unnatural face just to appease the status quo and/or hippy-mentality types.

[KarKingJack]

They're alright as long as they aren't in plentiful. We had this one guy in school, and he was huge, like f***ing huge, and he never ever smiled. F***ing straight, mean face, constantly. Never even changed his expression. And some people were f***ing scared of him - I wasn't, I thought he was a lej, haha. I made him laugh, once, along with this other guy. And I mean he really cracked up.

I wasn't intimidated because he made such a thing of it, you know. He actually was so tough that it was unique, and quirky. He was like a Barbarian Mercenary from a generic fantasy film, you know what I mean? F***ing hilarious character. So, if anything his never smiling just made me smile.

[KarKingJack]

At the whole sign of weakness stuff, you sound like my old Grandad, he was a real f***ing tough guy in East Belfast - East Belfast was a f***ing warzone back then too. He could never hardly see, 'cos he had horrid eyesight, but he wouldn't wear glasses, 'cos he said 'See if they sees you out with glasses? They thinks you's weak!'

I mean, like, 10 foot, built like a f***ing tower. He spent years trying to be intimidating though

[Asker]

ha, I'm the same way... I would never wear glasses.

[KarKingJack]

Ahhh. Haha, you would have got on. I wouldn't wear glasses either, but I'm a big pansy so its not really for the same reason, hahaha

[kellyp]

I don't like them at all. They come off to me as "i'm too good for anyone". It always seems like they are just trying to prove themselves to their friends that they are badass and don't give a sh*t. The whole thing seems like an act to me for guys who aren't comfortable being themselves.

[Cyhhgg]

Interesting take.

Wonder what it means if a man were acting this way, that he literally showed who he was? You can think it's boring, sure. But, it's not always an act.

[Hehe3]

100 percent WRONG. And indeed... We ARE too good for anyone. hehe.

[anonymous1422]

elgh. You don't have to be crazy emotional-- but smiling is the most attractive thing a guy can do.

[Asker]

it's feminine. showing emotions is a sign of weakness.

[irykiryk]

Is that true?

I haven't been smiling lately...

[anonymous1422]

some go for the "troubled" type- but I much prefer a guy that makes me happy around him- and you need a smile to bring one outta me.

[magnoliacrush]

Very unattractive. If they're "too-manly" to smile/laugh, I feel like they're trying too hard and they won't be enjoyable to be around.

[Asker]

i'm not trying too hard, I'm simply too insensitive. I can't pretend to be sensitive if I feel numb all the time. what to do?

[magnoliacrush]

Then there's nothing you can do. You seem to understand that about yourself that no one else will be able to understand. Just work with it. If you feel you are incapable of being more sensitive, then you aren't. There's no use for you to try being someone else. You'll just have to find a girl who's OK with the way you are. Obviously you're not my cup of tea but there are girls out there that prefer guys like that.

[Anonymous]

I could never be with a guy who never smiles/laughs and takes life too seriously, he has to smile a lot (but be real about it, no fake smiles) and needs to have a good sense of humor :)

I would be frustrated and think I did something wrong or that he didn't like me at all if he never smiled

[sineadocl]

thats not manly, that's rude and boring. if I trid talking to a guy id at least like a hint he was enjoying the conversation...

[Cyhhgg]

I can agree on one thing, it's boring. But, I'd hardly call it unmanly or rude. Lol Women don't get to decide what's manly. Only men do. Also, I don't consider it rude if I don't give the reaction you're expecting. I prefer things to be natural. And if they're not, it's not rude. It's circumstance.

[hsshannah96]

I like guys who are strong and confident in who they are. But I don’t like when they don’t show emotion, smile, etc

[starlight124]

makes them seem like a robot, like they have no emotions. not very attractive

[Anonymous]

that's not tough, that's robotic and not something I'd ever want around me

[Bruhaaaa]

I don’t hate or mind it that much but many can interpret it as if the guy is mad serious, prideful, and even mysterious. But if I’m interested in him I would definitely want to see expressions on his face especially positive ones towards me.

[cyrus7]

I rarely ever smile, I can't smile on demnd either, looks fake

[Anonymous]

I never smile and I am often told to by women I don't know. It's very annoying. I'm not angry or posturing. I'm just serious. Why is that an offense?