Mutual attraction. In my head or real?

[Anonymous]

I catch him looking at me, quickly turns away.

Blushes when I'm in his view.

Will stare into my eyes until I look away.

Fidgets around me.

Lingers near me when talking with another group of people.

Laughs and repeats what I say in meetings.

Shows up for my meeting.

Looks under his brow into my eyes and gives a half smile, sly smile like.

3 years at work this has been going on. I have fallen for him. Too shy to do anything. He seems a lot like me.

Is this just the way he is or does/did he have a crush/thing for me too?

It's in your head girl!

He liked/likes you too!

[Anonymous]

I'm having the same problem. Its been going on for over a year now. I really thought he liked me.

This guy couldn't keep his eyes off of me, made eye contact and was always trying to get into my personal space. He gave me all the non verbal signs there are. Even trying to initiate conversation.

I don't know what he's deal, but if he were really interested he would have made a move by now.

I didn't think that married or attached men behave this way, especially grown men, but they do. Because of my ignorance I fell for someone that was just feeding he's ego.

I've become obsessed with him, trying to figure him out. Now I just want to forget he exists, because its stopping me from meeting other men, that may be interested.

This guy does sound like he likes you, but before you get too wrapped up in him, get to know who you are dealing with. I feel like a complete fool, I should've known better. Hope it turns out well for you.

[Asker]

So this guy is he a coworker and is he married?

[Opinion Owner]

No not a coworker, but someone that works in the same building and I deal with daily due to the service that he provides. Don't know if he's married, but I'm assuming he is, or at least attached; he doesn't wear a ring. The weird thing is that he's not even someone that I would ever be attracted to. He's an older guy so never would I have thought that he would play such games, but I was wrong and I feel like the biggest jerk on the planet.

[Opinion Owner]

This is just my situation, that doesn't mean that the guy your referring to would be the same.

My advice is before you get more emotionally involved, find out if he is in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

How did it turn out? or are you still trying to figure him out?

I had a guy do the same things to me...and not making a move. He is in a relationship is why...not married, but has a girlfriend. And yes, married people at times don't wear rings and show interest in other women. I have more married men show interest then single ones. It has given me a pooor outlook on marriage if these men are so willing to pursue someone else.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ya, I agree with the girl below, watch and see if he does this with others. If not than ya he probably likes you. Also, make sure he's not married or in a relationship lol.

[Asker]

I don't think he's married, God would a married man act that way at 36? He doesn't wear a ring but I should ask around, sigh that'd be bad cause I like him. Relationship wise I have no clue, never even thought about it, figured he'd have to be single to be looking at me in the eyes romantically. I'll def. check around, sigh.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Sadly.. yes a married man would -_- it's despicable but some do... but ya, go figure that out if you can.

[Asker]

Checking with coworkers as we speak, stay tuned for text back..I know one of them might know but didn't want to sound like I was interested.

[Asker]

OMG, she thinks he's married but can't confirm! She's checking around.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Why does she think he's married? O.o

[Asker]

nope he's not married. she thought maybe he was.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ah, well that's good. Now what about a girlfriend?:P need to make sure he is available after all.

[MrCommodore]

Its definitely mutual attraction, there must be chemistry between you.

Usually a married or taken guy won't do this, unless his relationship is over or troubled.

[mali007]

does he act like this with everyone? if no than he most likely likes you. And based on your descriptions about how he acts around you he likes you! go for it.

[Asker]

Thanks for answering. I really have not noticed him doing this with others, in fact he actually talks to them like normal but with me he seems studderish, like quiet around me - which made me wonder if he likes me or hates me for some reason but I do like him.

[mali007]

if he hated you he wouldn't act awkward lol, he would be more rude/standoffish... How about this.. analyse how he acts towards other people... and see if he finds an excuse to be near you or around you sorta like test him.. and let us know how it goes.. best of luck xoxo

[LolaPop756]

So what happened? Any updates?