Is it true that guys like more the girls who are distant, who are always busy, who seem like they have several other dudes on their options list or seem like they just don't even want any man at all? We oftentimes hear that men are chasers by nature and that a girl who is too available, too responsive or too into the guy, will become boring real quick and he will move on to the next girl who is hard to get, who he has to work for, who is unknown and exciting. Because men enjoy the chase, enjoy feeling manly like a predator after the prey. I honestly want to hear from you guys, is there some truth in that? Or is that completely bullshit?
"Is it true that guys like more the girls who are distant,"
No. No self-respecting guy is gonna push to win over a woman who is distant, because that's a signal of disinterest and he doesn't want to look desperate himself.
"who are always busy,"
No, that gets boring too.
"who seem like they have several other dudes on their options list"
1000% no. Every half-decent looking girl has a lot of options. If she actually tries to convince the guy of this or show off about it, then it comes off like she's either trying to make him jealous and is highly manipulative, or she's an attention whore. Completely unattractive. Only the more desperate guys, the guys you don't really want, will fall for that.
"or seem like they just don't even want any man at all?"
No. It's not that she seems like she doesn't want a man at all - it's that she's very careful about who she chooses to sleep/get with. The opposite of an "easy" girl who is more indiscriminate.
The indiscriminate "easy girls" or the "attention whores" are the most likely to either cheat or run off to find a new man at the slightest sign of trouble. The woman who is more careful is more likely to be loyal. That's what he's looking for, and that's the real reason we don't want an "easy" girl as a girlfriend.
Really then, you should have high standards and not be too quick to fall for a guy, but you don't have to be cold, dishonest or manipulative in any way. It's better if you're not at all. You just have to have strong boundaries.
Guys like girls. Guys like girls that are beautiful on the inside. Confident. Independent,,, girls who are not afraid to say how they feel in a civil tone guys like girls who can talk with there eyes. There touch guy like girls that make the guy prove to them they are worthy of dating then and there going to be there for them if needed guys like girls that make them look at themselves and make them look deep with in guys like girls that are passionatevsweet and loving and caring. But that make the guy prove to them that they are the same way
That may have been the way back then... However I don’t know if this can be true but I think if you have a guy chasing you and you don’t show no type of interest he’s going to automatically think you’re not interested in him and he’s not gonna even try... On the other hand if you want somebody to chase you because you want to get that reassurance that he likes you you have to show some type of interest so he doesn’t think otherwise, Also put a time on it you don’t want to have them chasing you too long he’ll give up
Did you get this theory from an article you may have googled? I feel that women don’t know how men think and feel about women in situations.. A woman cannot get into a guys mind to totally understand there way of doing things.. In these men are telling the truth about a chase they hate it it’s a waste of time not only that pussy Comes easy for them so why would they want to chase it when they don’t have to otherwise
Not really, I heard this from several women, and if you look up dating advices and stuff on YouTube for example, I'm sure you are going to find more people saying such thing, men and women. I personally don't think that's 100% true. In my personal experience I have been more successful when I actually was open and honest about things. But still this is an idea/theory that goes around a lot, and I have been curious to hear real people's opinions on it.
ch3lly what women told you this? Only men who are abusive and/or losers are the ones who still do that chasing shit. With todays politics good solid man is going to chase. If you always have something better to do than talk to me then go do those things, don't string me along.
predators chase prey and kill it and eat it. They don’t date it.
you can't be in a relationship with someone who views you as prey.
There ARE people of any gender who just like to chase it he chased. You can play games with them. No one ever gets any one and starts a new chapter.. they just chase. Get caught game over.
I may crush on a girl I can't have, but I'd never chase after her unless I knew I could possibly get and keep her attention. Once I have her attention, I'd want to know if the feelings are reciprocated, that way I can know whether or not to stop chasing.
I will admit, I do like the mysterious aspect a girl has from an outsider's perspective. When I don't know anything about her, I can't deeply dislike anything about her. It's like I view them on a pedestal. Different from everyone else. But then when I get to know them, they lose that "purity" and are seen as more human. Then my attraction towards them may fade.
a lot of these are just I'll informed, no offense.
Yes, all men chase ideal female archetypes. Women with multiple men interested in them are probably attractive on a fundamental level, personality, looks, charisma, possibly even financially.
Women are sexually selective, which I've said a lot today, haha. You have twice as many female ancestors as you do men because of this. All men begin with a rough idea of a perfect since and settle a bit beneath it unconsciously. A very small percentage of highly successful men fulfill this fantasy through other means
No man will ever chase after a woman unless they are desperate or a rapist. In actuality, men prefer women who are straight to the point. If you like us, say something. If you dont, say something. Men hate guessing.
Leading a man on only frustrates them. A frustrated man gets dangerous and can lead to horrible outcomes. Why do you think there are a lot of guys now a days who would rather fantasize about anime girls rather than real ones?
I honestly don't know where you girls come up with this 'predator-prey' metaphor, but unless your idea of courtship is a guy stalking you and ambushing you until you're his, y'all really need to rethink that.
I don't think any guy actually thinks of himself as 'a predator' because I'm pretty sure that has very negative connotations. And I'd hope you all don't think of yourselves as a piece of meat for guys, as I'd like to think you have more self-respect than that. But maybe a lot of you don't. I don't know.
I personally don't like girls who are aloof and play hard to get because I'll get discouraged pretty easily. But I also don't like it when girls are too eager because it overwhelms me. I prefer it when they show their interest consistently but do so in a way that let's me progress things at my own slow pace.
Men enjoying the chase is absolute bullshit. I don't know who made that garbage up. Both men and women would get a dopamine rush when accomplishing something if that's what some of these people mean, but that has nothing to do with being a man. Using the term hunting for food with looking for a meat is absurd. But basically, the opposite of what you said is attractive. What you said is not attractive.
Well not exactly "can't have" Where i live and in probably the whole country you can see so many either ugly people or so many a**holes that just don't deserve the people they are with People keep telling me that i look kinda nice and also that i have a very big heart and i take care of everybody i love And this is still not enough to get an average looking girl Nowadays it is dependant on a girl if you have a chance or not But either way: i won't change for somebody no matter how beautiful she is and thats a fact
yeah i think that is true i can name several ff line and1 or 2 on GAG that i know i will never have but them talking too me makes my day complete. but in all honesty i think the 2 on GAG have to many dudes too really take any serious but hey they talk too me so my day has been better for it.
Very few want that, just as very few want the opposite: a clingy girl who is slavishly devoted to him. Most men want a happy medium: a girl who makes time for him but who also has her own life, her own friends, and her own interests.
It's rare to find people who want any kind of extreme - most people want something closer to the average.
I can't speak for the aggressive criminally minded perverts, but the truth is, as men, we never really grow up. We like the girls who want to play with us. When a women makes it clear that she is not interested, I feel nothing. Don't like or dislike her. She's just not interested, that's all.
But when a woman I'm attracted too shows interest, nothing turns me on more than to show her a good time.
Completely bullshit honey. Men are not attracted to women that are not attracted to them. Period. Your NUMBER ONE trait a guy looks for is YOUR level of attraction and desire for HIM. EVERYTHING else is secondary - your looks, your tits, your hair, your makeup, your personality, your job. For without your interest nothing is going anywhere fast.
It is a little more complicated. They want a girl like this:
They would love for her to be available. However, since she is 10, she is not available unless the he is also a 10 and even then she may choose some other 10.
No, I don't like wasting my time so why would I waste it trying to get something I can't get? It's stupid and I don't know why so many girls think this is a good idea to play hard to get. You are telling us "I am not available" so basically "No" and most guys know that no means no. Besides, if a guy actually insists, you will get in a relationship with a guy who always insists and will constantly try to get his way. Is that what you really want?
Nope. I will generally become curious as to why she is distant from a position of what’s wrong with this girl and start keeping a mental tally. They become more of a science experiment to play with than a romantic interest that I take serious.
To me it's complete BS. I don't enjoy 'the hunt' at all. What makes a girl/woman exiting comes after that, and before. All this hard to get is nothing more than a massive turn off to me. Especially when I already know she's into me.
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In my opinion total BS.
She can play games, hard to get, but in the end he will find easier to get pray.
Not saying, that girl need to get in bed with everyone at first look, just keep balance.
Games never worked on me, I just move on, when I see what is going on and it looks like gold diggers behaviour to me.
I mean it is like the rarity thing which rare things are more attractive. Like the caviar for example, like hundreds of years ago it is so worthless cause there is a lot of sturgeon. Now when amount of sturgeon when down, people spent thousands to eat caviar cause it is rare. Same apply to people, to a certain extent.
I think they just want a girl that has the same interests as them. It seems girls and guys both don’t know what they want so it’s a continuous circle of wtf do I want.
Lol no, if a woman wanted me to chase her I wouldn't because I personally dont play those games. Ill make time for you if you make time for me. That simple.
We all want something or someone we can't have at some point in our lives. But then usually we get smart and realize that they weren't good for us anyway. That's why we couldn't have them.
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