Guys, would you feel sad if your crush deactivated her insragram account and you don't follow each other on other social media platform?

[Anonymous]

How would you feel? Let's say the guy and girl don't see each other irl.

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[Anonymous]

Of course. Who would not.

Normally if it was me, I would feel bad. But I see that as silver lining. This will help me in getting over my crush.

However, If i have done something that might have (even remotely) resulted in her taking this decision. Very likely that I will remove my account as well. Never happend to me, but my reaction will be that.

[Asker]

Why would your reaction be that if you thought that she did it because of you.

[Opinion Owner]

I dont like to bother people. If my stupid crush is why she felt the need to get off of instagram and stay away. Its borderline crrepy, it it is not already. I would feel bad.

[Asker]

No in my case the girl doesn't know that he has crush on her. The girl also likes the guy. She decided to deactivated her account because all he did was watch her instagram updates and he was passive. She felt frustrated... So I don't know if that's going to make him miss her lol

[Opinion Owner]

3 things could happen.
1. He is very handsome (since your frieend has crush on him). So he easily can get some other girls. Who are maybe willing to something casual.
2. He is very shy and not handsome (unlikely). So he will take this as an opportunity to get over his crush.
3. He is very shy and handsome. He could be approached by someone and even if he does not get over his crush, he might starts dating someone else.

[Asker]

So what she should do?

[Asker]

The guy is passive

[Asker]

The seems shy and he's very handsome. Despite girls showing him interest he has remained single.

[Asker]

He seems shy*

[Opinion Owner]

Then it is very likely that he is only interested in casual relationships. Or fuck buddies.

If your friend has a crush on him, it is likely he avoid getting with her, because she won't be able to handle casual relationship.

[Asker]

Many of his friends in his circle are getting married... Also he doesn't know that she has a crush on him...

[Asker]

Also we're muslim so sex outside of marriage is forbidded

[Opinion Owner]

I understand. But it is possible that he is sneaking around.

Otherwise, he might just like his freedom. In such societies, dating probably is allowed only if it is gonna result in marraige. So if he is not ready for marraige, he might not wanna waste time dating.

[Asker]

In conclusion my friend shouldn't waste her time on him?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes.

[Asker]

One more question :) they have been following each other on instagram for a year and he watches most of her story updates like 2/3 of them.

[Asker]

Sometimes he has watched them quickly too. She decided to break the ice and dm him.

This is their actual conversation. What do you think of it:
She responded to one of his story update that was about a new movie that he went to watch. She wrote him" Hi what do you think of the movie. I'm interested in watching it. What are your thoughts? "He replied to her quickly like in 2 mins. He was like "I thought it was a good movie and it was kinda dark. It isn't for all people. She was like" yeah that's what I thought too". That was the end of their conversation.

Did he ghost her lol? They haven't talked after that

[Opinion Owner]

No. I assume you are talking about Joker.

So since it was very much hyped, I think it was fair for him to assume that your friend only texted because she was interested in watching it.

[Asker]

Ok now that I gave u that info u think she should still forget him :D

[Opinion Owner]

Let me say it outloud what your friend is hoping.
She is hoping that the guy asks her out and due to society, marries her.

Is it realistic? Is the guy in a state where he can think of family? Does he want that?

If his friends are married, and he isn't (even though he is handsome), what could be the reason?

[Asker]

Not all of his friends lol

[Asker]

I don't know my friend hoped that the guy is shy and likes her lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah okay. But the one that are married, are they more handsome than him?

[Asker]

Some are not and some are on his level...

[Asker]

He one time long time ago came to talk mutual friend of ny friend and he sounded very nervous... But at the same time ge was so bold when staring at her. All of this happened long time ago though.

[Opinion Owner]

My point is, if he wanted a relationship or marraige, he probably would approach a girl he liked.

Because girls are much more nicer, even in rejection, if the guy makes it clear that his intent at the end is marraige. Specially in the communities where pre-martital sex is not a thing.

[Asker]

I thought most guys are scared of rejection...

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. But not in those societies.

[spartan55]

Lol, eh no.