Do you believe that men who degrade women through texts/in person secretly disrespect all women?

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For example, I’ve heard men at my college say disgusting things about women, talking about their bodies, breasts, etc., yet these men have girlfriends. I’ve also had men with girlfriends send me gross, sexual texts, while they’ve had girlfriends.
I’m wondering, if these men can say disrespectful things to other women when they supposedly “love” their girlfriends, do you think that also think gross, denegrading things about their girlfriends and just hide it?

wynn-ing · Accepted Answer

Is your question about men who degrade women - full stop, degrade women in texts, or degrade women in person? If it's "all 3", the 'truth' is very, very complicated.

People who degrade people degrade themselves. They deseve no respect more than what they give. Men who degrade women and anyone who degrades anyone don't deserve to get the benefit of the doubt in my opinion. But assuming they're the exact same to every woman, is a considerable stretch that they can use to their advantage in many ways. Plus, you'll never know how they act towards each every single woman they encounter unless you're them.

I think that if you can see considerable degradation from them and you can prove it by clear means, you can be justified to think that they secretly disrespect (') all (') women.

"Women" and "all women" are not necessarily the same thing however. The latter is undeniable degradation. The former can be debated. This is key in emotional rant talk - things get assumed and negativity and hate gets pushed to the brim and it seems like they hate all x people when they're really just frustrated with one person or a specific subgroup of x.

There are plenty of reasons why someone would behave much more respectfully and cordially in real life compared to online.

To be honest, it is extremely difficult to say anything for sure.
I do not condone any kind of degradation of anyone. I also don't think that that can be the only treatment they met out to the specific group of people in question.

There CAN be people who genuinely hate all x people. And there can be people who are just frustrated/fanatical about a single or a few of x people and their emotional communication can be very judgmental and full of negative assumptions.

TLDR: Possibly, Possibly Not. Depends on the person. You need more evidence to jump into that conclusion. You can assume, but you need to be able to prove too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend is exactly like that. He likes talking shit about women in general, how they're inferior, exc... how fat chicks are useless, exc... we've both cheated on each other, he's sent other girls disgusting shit, exc...

Some other dude who flirts with me is basically the same way. worse actually.

They both only disrespect women who are fat, annoying, weak, losers, and one disrespects ugly girls. They both assume most women are annoying and weak. They don't disrespect your average chick like that unless they know they're like that. They both think chicks are just cute fragile beings.

When they say sexual shit or degrading things it's often to show their affection, to make you interested (one things girls will be turned off if he doesn't act like that), or to prove that they're alpha to their mates. They both love to troll too, and like edgy and dark humor.

But at the same time, one of them who is absolutely not a feminist in the slightest (he thinks women are inferior to men, exc...) thinks that teen on teen rape is horrible and is real rape. And argues that it's really horrible and thinks i'm insane for thinking thats not really rape. He doesn't believe in rape myths in the slightest either. He thinks actual sexual harassement is horrible and that domestic violence is horrible.

My boyfriend thinks sexual harassement is disgusting and that girls don't ask for it. He thinks women are inferior but at the same time he says some girls can be superior or equal to men, and that women can be just as good as men at practically anything non physical.

So I don't know go figure.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I think they are disrepsecting their GF's doing that for sure. This culture is just trashed...

There is no way around that they may be jsut learning and experiencing the other sex, but there seems a lack of dignity, respect, class, honor that exists in other cultures and times. The problem is... kids need spanked by daddy when growing up.

Women own some of this problem, a big chunk of it. They've allowed themselves... by way of societal changes and things out of their control like disintegration of family units, have lowered their standards and accept pathetic behavior. Not you, but many. If guys can wander around and get this chick or that chick, then why value one specific one? It would only be because of their own internal values... and obviously, they lack them.

Also... we took a key foundational principle out of society... God. It was replaced by self and money. Believe in it or not, it was a linchpin to establishing some form of decency, in addition to fathers smacking asses.

So I'd suggest you get a large paddle and start a whacking em!!!

devilman666 · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure what you mean by degrading and disgusting. Are we talking about men saying things like, "Damn dude, Chloe has a great ass" "I know, and her body curves in just the right ways"? Cause if so then I don't particularly see the issue. Women talk about attractive guys too, don't even try to act like you don't, I've heard many women say things along the lines of, "OMG, he's so hot! I wanna have his babies!". I don't think this makes anyone disrespectful to the entire other gender, I think this would just mean they are highly attracted to the opposite gender?

I will say that if they're talking about these things while in a relationship then they probably aren't very loyal. It still depends though, never know, some guys might talk that way and oggle women but actually be very loyal in relationships and just enjoy looking.

coachTanthony · Answer

Well I would call that... "writing on the wall"  So yes of course  they probably will.

razelove · Answer

Damn, this question looks like it's spurring a war of the sexes. Who knows why they do that? I'd say it varies from person to person, but mostly insecurity. Also what is disgusting? Men and women are a lot different now then when I was younger, and honestly I think it's being so desensitized from the internet. Show of hands, who here doesn't know what a bukake is, and would have had any idea a decade ago? Damn 13 and 14 year olds know what that is now. It's men and women. I can't find a date, but I could go out and find a hook-up in about 30 minutes. Our society is changing, and neither men, or women can have only the good from those changes.

AiahZ · Answer

No, not at all. No more than we women who degrade men through texts/in person secretly disrespect all men. Every sexist (of either gender) I've ever know adored their parents. I know that's not true of all gender bigots, but in my experience since we all have people of both genders in our families, it doesn't seem likely for gender bigots to disrespect all people of the other gender. I also think a lot of the bigotry comes from their experiences with guys/girls they have dated or have tried to date. Gender bigots I've known are almost always respectful towards much older men/women. Maybe it's a guilt-by-association or sexual tension kinda thing.

Yuri1970 · Answer

Loooong time issue that keeps coming up. The "guys" that say/do those things don't respect themselves. They do it to degrade others so they feel better about themselves, when in fact it doesn't. It seems to become habit for them and will bleed over into their personal relationships to the point of becoming overjealous or controlling. If it's to fit into a clique or what they actually believe, it's never correct to tear anybody down because of their gender, beliefs, looks, etc.

Respect yourself and others. Then, and only then, will somebody be able to connect with others.

5points2gspot · Answer

Yes. Any man who can disrespect his mother by calling another female out of their name & mentality abusing her, is doing it to all women. Even their girlfriends. They might not so publicly do it to their queens in the public eye but they are doing it some way or another. & it's very disrespectful due to they were born from a women.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Unfortunately, probably so. They're probably super sweet to their girlfriends to their faces, but probably talk disgustingly about them to their friends, and obviously don't respect them if they're going behind their backs and sending inappropriate messages to other women.

lucas262 · Answer

Personally iv almost no filter, male female, gay straight, black, white cripple etc ill say it all, disrespectful Dosn t come close,

Now do I hold those views of ppl?
No and I treat people with as much respect as they do me and i would say more than most.
Im a genuinely nice person,
Iv had many times when someone would hurt me and i took it because to give it back never made me feel better and it makes you enemies and more often thsn not people can't handle What you throw back at them.

Iv never sent anything inappropriate to anyone except my homies who where kind enough to send me things.

As far as degrading goes i was brought up to be a gentleman, but im no cuck.

I'll call a person any title that fits them.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Yes of course they do. If they loved their girlfriend they wouldn’t think about let alone send other women texts especially of that nature. When they are sending these texts they are already disrespecting their girlfriends so I wouldn’t put it past them to say things about their girlfriends too. And no they don’t love their girlfriends.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I think, its 'degrading women' openly, not secretly.
Further: It can be selective and addressing only specific 'target groups' of women.
Where the question may be asked: IS it indeed 'degrading' in all cases, or just a justified point of view in many cases?

btbc92 · Answer

Yes they do. And is why I tell girls plenty of times do not have premarital sex outside of marriage and be so quick to befriend or marry these men. These people have no respect. Women do the same thing, and those are the kinds of women I stay away from. Toxic. So many women are stupid to marry and date these men. And any guy who tells that doesn't happen is a liar. Because even my own father done it.

chantrllr · Answer

I believe a lot of men and I’m not going to put them all in a large group and label them but I will say a lot that I’ve encountered only respect women they are attracted to and have a chance with. And only respecting women your attracted to isn’t respecting women

Anonymous · Answer

I've had women make fun of me because of the way i walk , never had a guy done this to me. I've had women make fun of me because of how i look and say i look nervous (when im not even nervous its just my natural look) never had a guy made fun of my appearance, I've walked pass girls and they start laughing never had i faced this with guys. I've had girls calling me names like looser, retard because im a soft quiet guy , never had guys done this to me... But y'all are not ready to talk about this, because "women are all angels"

R_Cakes91 · Answer

Ewwww, if you know any of their girlfriends, tell ‘em. Or threaten to tell those pigs that you are not afraid to tell their girlfriends about this. I don’t think this has much to do with degrading women. These men are just pigs.

PinkMichae · Answer

They treat the one they love differently. Every other woman is trash.

Gatman34 · Answer

No. The women who say post #allmentrash claim they don’t mean all men. So what do you say to that? I mean hashtag trends on Twitter so if that’s the case there are far more man haters then women haters especially with the amount of brainwashed feminists nowadays

HerryBells · Answer

If they have a relationship and are sending you explicit texts (some guys just have a weird sense of humour, some are looking to hook up) are mostly looking to have an affair and are not 'most guys' they are the most visible ones. I've had the exact same experience with female colleagues...

These people are just not good people and you should stay away from them

rina001 · Answer

Yeah they're mysoginistic. I'd say everyone is. Even women, even who love themselves and are radical feminist, have a little bit of internal mysoginy. It's normalized in our culture to degrade women. I don't approve of this of course, but this is a big cancer of this society. These guys don't see women as women. But probably as a function or an object. Yes, he may love his girlfriend, but he is still a shitty human being who would hate his girlfriend at any possible moment

Anonymous · Answer

I think some guys don't respect women at all, or are hypocrites who class women into women they view one way and those they do another.

But I don't think that's most men. Most men want to do the same things you consider gross and degrading with a woman they love as they would with a woman they don't know.

That does NOT mean they 'disprespect all women'. What you want to do consensually in bed is not a proxy for whether you respect someone.

Itsonlyme_7 · Answer

There used to be a guy whom I got to know via Facebook back in 2010.. and I have faced the shame of getting that guy whom I really used to like to absolutely go away from my life out of disrespect. He started texting me with adult stuff when I was only 19 and demanded too much of sex-ting. I later found out he is a jerk too.. after almost 10 years.. he is married but when he found out about me.. he stated al that crap again!

Anonymous · Answer

Men are allowed to think women are attractive and we are allowed to discuss it amongst ourselves, that in itself is not degrading, it's called having testosterone. Do some men make it degrading? Sure. But most aren't.

By your standards, women would be degrading men constantly

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