How to deal with being rejected and guys often losing interest?

[anonbrunette99]

like what are the main reasons for it? It happens to me all toooo often

[btbc92]

Well, the question you have to ask yourself is WHY are you trying to date and what are your intentions for dating? Those are the main questions YOU have to ask for yourself. As to how to deal with it, and what are the main reasons for it? I'll explain why. Bear with me it's going to be LONG but it's for your benefit and not for me to judge unrighteously, but to be in their shoes even though I am a female like you.

1. It's very clear that you are trying to date complete strangers. Guys, you don't really know. You may not even know their name. Who they are as people, what they are about, and let alone what type of person they are LOOKING for in a partner. If you tried dating close male friends. Its usually because as most people do, they can usually tell if their overall attracted to you or not within 5 minutes. And even though it should NOT be about looks, the overall problem is that if you don't already make it your business to get to know who they are and how they operate you will disqualify yourself from the guys you really want to be with.

2. The other issue is that some of the ones your approaching may not even WANT to date you, or anybody at all. They're either emotionally available or they are not to keen on your physical looks. And if you're attracted to emotionally unavailable guys, unless they're just guarded, you're going to be on the losing end while they either manipulate your feelings or can't feel remorse for what you're experiencing with the pain.

3. Speaking about looks, not to judge, but it does look like you put on a LOT of makeup than necessary. And that often signals to men that your:
a: insecure about your real looks without makeup
b: high maintenance
c: overspend on makeup instead of practical matters
d: your scaring them away

*The point being is you're a beautiful person without all of that makeup. And the colors your wearing is far too bold. And that can send the wrong signals, especially if it doesn't fit your personality or attracting the people you want.

[anonbrunette99]

I love Make-up, it’s a hobby of mines! it feels unfair that people hold a stigma to it. I have no issue walking around campus with no makeup on but more often than not I do like to put in effort and be bold. I don’t approach guys myself, I wait till one I find attractive or interesting in some ways approaches me and from there, he usually will eventually just start ignoring my texts aka rejects me or loses interest maybe because he wasn’t that into me, only wanted the one thing or maybe I was being too hot and cold who knows. the weird thing is I try to give every guy that approach’s me a chance as I know what rejection feels like and it pains me a bit to think I could be causing that feeling for someone else... so now I have a bit of a reputation you see. (I don’t sleep with them) but I’m knowing for having had lots of “talking stages”

[btbc92]

See, that is why you have that problem. You focus on makeup is not something most guys like. They can care less about makeup. 2ndly you only wait until you find the ones YOU find attractive to approach you. That's why you don't have anybody really interested. Because the ones who may be interested, and I do not means the one who just wants sex, you reject because you're not attracted to them. Like I said before. Guy's primary reason to date you is sex. That's it. They'll play the sweet boyfriend card but they want sex. Won't give it up, why are you so special? That's their attitude towards you. Sorry to say. You have to change your mindset if you expect to get somebody to want to be with you.

[btbc92]

You can love makeup but most guys hate it especially if you don't need it. And you don't need it. I'm telling you. Either learn to compromise or just forget it because the guys you're attracting are shallow men because they see by your makeup choices, again that you're just as shallow. You're sending the wrong signals. Until you understand that, you will keep getting the same kinds of guys, while the few who may like your personality may be too insecure or embarrassed to be around you. Telling you be personal experience. Many have said they prefer girls without makeup if they can help it. They want to see the real YOU, BARE.

[anonbrunette99]

I mean. I think it’s not unreasonable to reject guys you aren’t attracted to, every woman does it? it’s unfair to the person to date them if there’s no attraction whatsoever, when they can find another woman who will find them physically attractive. I do plan on stopping to attempt to date strangers or entertaining strangers that claim they want something serious - overall bad idea. A lot of my friends / family say, it’s the guys I go for and how I seem to have a naturally cold attitude, I don’t really show any interest at all unless I am 100% sure that person is feeling the same and isn’t just wanting one thing or leading me on. I’m kinda overly wary perhaps because of the way I’ve been treated in the past, which is perhaps due to my “heavy” makeup choices.

[btbc92]

But see if you think is not reasonable then how come you don't got a guy? Can't Always Get What You Want. Yes you got to fix what's going on in your pass if you notice was affecting your future, because regardless of what we would want but thanks to be. The past will always affect your future. If you know that you're having a lot of personal issues, you should be addressing those issues with a professional.

[anonbrunette99]

i think you miss understood I said perhaps they treated me a certain way due to your theory of guys seeing girls who wear “heavy” makeup a certain way. and I stick by what I said. there could be a thousand different reasons as to why I don’t got a guy.

[InfobotsMom]

If you keep on getting the same negative result from your actions then it suggests that something needs to change. You need to take some time to reflect and to strategise. Something in what you are doing or putting across is not keeping guys interested. You need to try and work out what that is and you sometimes need to step back from the dating game to do that.

[Anonymous]

be glad that as a girl, you don't have to risk rejection as much as guys do, you aren't expected to open your mouth first in front of a guy.