Why do some guys react so poorly to rejection?

[Anonymous]

Read the whole thing or gtfo.
Disclaimer: I know some women react poorly too, you can ask a question about that yourself but I just want to talk about guys for a minute. Also, I'm aware that many guys handle rejection just fine like mature adults. I also know that some women do respond like rude bitches, but I'm excluding them as well.

I'm talking about those guys who call you a "bitch" or "whore" when you simply say "Thank you, but I'm not interested". If you don't believe me, there is a whole subreddit called r/niceguys and a twitter/instagram called @sheratesdogs where women have sent it screenshots of dudes just lashing out for not accepting his advances. Again, there are women who do this too, but I've just seen so many dudes do this, and other guys back them up! Why? Dude, you don't know what that girl wants in life. Maybe she doesn't want a boyfriend/hookup right now. Maybe she's talking to someone else. Or maybe she's just not into you!

I've asked guys out before, I've been rejected before. Did it hurt? Yes. What did I do? I responded by saying "Okay, I understand, thanks anyway" and I move on with my life. You aren't entitled in having anyone like you.

And then they go on a rant about what an upstanding citizen they are and how nice of a guy they are... and... so? Lots of people are nice, you could be a handsome prince who feeds orphans and she doesn't have to say yes to you. If she's missing out, let her miss out! They always justify by saying "Okay, but after you've been rejected 700 times after being a nice, intelligent guy with great interests you get tired of being put down by bitches who want a douchebag to treat her like shit instead of a guy like me." I wish I could say that these guys are the best of the best but a lot of times if you go and check his profile, he's a dick, and seriously doesn't see the problem is him. They blame it on their looks, they blame it on women, they blame it on other men, but a lot of times it's his attitude.

[winterfox10]

I totally get where you're coming from, does this explanation make any sense? For guys, getting emotionally rejected has the same impact as how a woman feels when a guy plays her for sex.

I think it's less about the individual rejections and more about the abuse that frequently comes with the rejection. It's one thing to say no, it's another to punish guys for trying, and that punishment happens a lot more than women realize. Also, women will often complain about how they can't get a boyfriend, which just adds to the guys' frustration. A lot of women will also waste your time by never really rejecting you, some will just flat out lie to you and play you, some are just extremely wishy washy, some will cause you to spend lots of money on them (without ever asking you to, of course), and others will make a point of really treating guys like crap for even trying to talk with them.

The best way to describe the reason that so many men get upset about being rejected is to compare it women's frustration when a guy uses them for sex.

[ShadowofRegret]

I think that men who react that way are immature, but also prideful, they like to think they are the finest male specimens to walk the earth, so when you reject them, their entire world plummets as it comes crashing down before their eyes.

They are insecure, so they build up this exaggerated mental image of themselves, and when you poke a hole in it, they explode.😊

[Asker]

That's a good way of putting it. It just doesn't make sense to have low confidence but be entitled at the same time.

[ShadowofRegret]

Thank you, unfortunately it seems to be very common among the low quality ones, I think they are the male versions of the "spoiled princess" types, I guess "spoiled prince's".😊

[Asker]

I think someone just taught them that girls will want them if they act a certain way and forgot that it needs to be genuine. It works for some, but not everyone.

[ShadowofRegret]

That is true...

[desidoll]

I have been called slut, hoe, ugly and many more for turning down some guys. They just feel that their ego has been destroyed and they suffer from this disease called self-entitlement

[Anonymous]

I recently got rejected and i would had want the girl to had said it clear that she wasn't interested in me rather than give me a sweet compliment follow by a i'm sorry. your sorry i had feelings for you? i don't expect everyone to feel the same way but don't go saying that your sorry when it took a lot for the other person to confess their feelings for you. simply say your not interested, it might seem heartless but the faster the other person understand there zero chance , the faster the person moves on.

[Anonymous]

1. Being able to accept rejection, has nothing to do with maturity. I think it's more about self confidence.
2. You can reject someone without being an asshole about it. Some women actually seem to take joy in rejecting guys. They do it with a gleeful twinkle in their eye. So that can beat a guy down.
3. I can reject a girl, and actually make her feel good about it. (It might require a little white lie, but tough shit)
"Wow, I'm flattered. Where the hell were you when I was looking for a girlfriend? I'm still not over my ex, yet, and I still have a glimmer of hope that we can get back together. But for now, I just want to lay low.'

[MackToday]

If you want to understand the opposite sex as such, look to evolution and biology.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sckWlo1mLFI

[Lance1965]

Some guys learn how to handle rejection while others never will. Guys should learn how to deal with it because it makes the dating game so much easier.

[Asker]

Everyone should. Go into it with confidence, but expect to be let down a little. That's everything in life.

[Lance1965]

I agree 100%. Life is full of disappointments. Deal with it.

[Asker]

But also, don't go into it with a negative attitude. If you expect the worse all the time, you'll always be disappointed.

[Bandit74]

Probably get rejected a lot and eventually get frustrated enough that they start lashing out.

[Asker]

so they just take it out on the most recent girl, that's so childish.

[Any1iguess]

They get frustrated. But part of the problem is their attitude and how they value themselves

[Asker]

It definitely is. I used to go on reddit and see actually average to handsome guys who maybe just need a better haircut or clothes that fit better. That's it. But he's got all these nasty and bitter comments about getting rejected. They just need some self reflection or some confidence. It's not their looks, it's not other guys, it's not women, it's them. But you can't convince them it's themselves. It's a shame, cause, it's a waste of a guy who probably is pretty cool under all the bitterness.

[Any1iguess]

Yeah it's a shame

[Fuentes]

Obviously to help them feel better about it some of us have wide ego's and just the homie 2pac said "she woudn't stop to conversate so i called her biiiiiiatch"

[Asker]

Big egos, with low self confidence do not mix well, I guess.

[Fuentes]

It's like that lol we can't let our feelings get hurt sometimes being rejected to us feels as if a guy called a girl FAT. It hurts too we take a ego blow like that

[Anonymous]

These guys have a poor mindset. They dont have experience with relationships. They want to get attention. We can't help but have to avoid these kinds of toxic people in our life. Life is short and we have to enjoy it while we can...

[Sweatyotterr]

They are mad they got rejected its as simple as that

[Anonymous]

Is there a question here somewhere? Because you start off asking a question and it just turns into a rant.

[Asker]

it's literally at the top, and me explaining because i don't know if you've noticed but people on gag have thin skin and think any question towards their gender somehow means them specifically. sorry if you're on of them.

[Notabadguy]

They aren't matured