Do guys take rejection badly?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

At your age, under 18... yes, most guys or people in general do not deal with rejection well. I will be honest at that age rejection sucked, and most people take it too personal. But the truth is that reacting badly to rejection is something that healthy people grow out of as they mature and get older. Thats not to say it becomes easy at any age, nobody likes being rejected... but they just react better to it.

I rejected girls in highschool, who lost their mind about it. They begged me to take them back, and when I refused, they flipped out yelling, screaming and cussing at me. It was seriously freaky, honestly. It really affected me, and when I was with someone that I felt was taking the whole relationship too seriously, being too clingy, possessive or controlling I cut and run hard and fast. I didn't want to hurt anyone, and honestly, I knew it was only highschooler thing and that I was not going to spend to the rest of my life with her. If she started talking like that it was over for me quick.

But there were a few that blindsided me with a breakup I did not see coming and yeah it hurt. I would like to think I did not react poorly, but the truth is I did not really act all that well either. But at that age people say and do things and then change their minds all the time, I wasn't really like that myself... but lots of girls seemed to be that way. This is why I avoided dating girls in highschool as much as a possible... after middle school it was just too much hassle and drama. But I wow'ed out in my 20's!!!

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

You are very young so at your age boys (and many girls) don’t handle rejection well.

But guys usually get more experienced and get thicker skin as we get older. Reason being men in general are expected to approach, make a move, etc. so they inevitably risk more rejection then women do. Most of us get used to it. There is unfortunately a small percentage of grown men who still can’t take no for an answer but that’s another discussion.

However on the flip side I’ve had women react and say this to me when I rejected them:

- Scream and say “are you gay?” No man would ever get away with that if it was vice versa.

- Threaten suicide when I broke up with my last ex girlfriend.

- Threaten a false sexual assault accusation. This was by far the scariest of all. It came from a woman in her early 30s I turned down.

All in all I find that women can actually be worse about handling rejection then men. They aren’t as used to it. Their egos can’t handle it.

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

that strictly depends on the dude, I have come across both types. only insecure butthurt dudes would take it badly. I had for example a dude approach and ask me for my socials, I said I don’t have any, he asked for my number, I said I don’t give it out, he asked my name, I asked why he’s asking, and he just chuckled and introduced himself, told me he’s intrigued by me and would like to take me out if I would allow him. I did introduce myself back but I also explained that, I am not interested (kindly) and he just kept his smile and told me it was worth it to give a shot and thanked me for giving him some of my time. I genuinely liked and appreciated him as a person for that reaction. I do believe that, when you approach someone, you are taking that risk of getting rejected, so if you cannot handle the rejection well, then do not approach people.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I do not know any guy who is okay with rejection except in very rare cases - I know a few guys who don't like me and want to use me - they don't care if I reject them. Very rarely will a guy who likes me not care if I reject him, unless he is also chasing other girls.

Guy13 · Answer

Unfortunately Rejection by both male and female communicate a version of “NO 🙀, what-did I hear that correctly…don't you know who are interacting with here…. I can’t believe this just happened.”

People do not handle rejection well, especially, when it’s a circumstance where he must follow a procedure or outcome that is in opposition to his desire.

Independence to pursue freely is secondary to the Absolutes of the world such as edicts from superior Agents. We have to negotiate around and through these while maintaining autonomy.

One can not do whatever one wants to do without expecting Rejection and possibly worse consequences from within the structure where we are placed.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

All uys don't react the same to things like that. The answer will always be "so do and some don't." That answer is not very helpful but it is the truth. There is not a simple set of rules that wll help you to understand ALL guys.

Summeroflove · Answer

Some do yes. Some not as bad. Rejection sucks for everyone. But no means no.

Anonymous · Answer

Some always take it badly. Some learn, luckily. Some always take it ok.

I don’t think I’m a natural at handling it, but I think publicly, I do ok… though I’m probably “too nice” about it when the women are absolutely horrible.

My typical go to is something like: “thought I’d ask.” or “thought it might be fun.” Even when it’s really disrespectful - Instead of “Hey, you could have just said no, and I would have been respectful about it. I’m a big boy. The “no”part is fine. I don’t know why you thought being nasty would be a good way to handle things… I don’t know if you’ve had the worst day ever at work, or what… but frankly, you owe me an apology for the way you just treated me. Taking it out on me like that that. I probably won’t get one, but that’s the right thing to do…” and walk off… something like that. I’d love to have that presence of mind.

Now the few times I’ve had to turn down a girl, it’s not fun to do. I don’t take joy in it. I’m respectful but pretty upfront about it. Usually, they seem to take it ok. I don’t know how I’d handle someone who was being temperamental and confrontational about it.

If you want to or need to reject a guy, try kindness and respect first. Don’t pull out the nastiness at least until they’re showing you they’re downright creepy about it / they can’t handle it. And just because one dude can’t handle it, don’t assume all guys will do that, so don’t resort to a cruel answer unless the dude is being downright mean/ too aggressive, etc from the start.

Good luck.

19magic · Answer

I've never been rejected per say, but I do still remember the time the guy I was sorta seeing rejected my offer of sex and being so shocked it really shook me. I don't know why I let myself get like that but I thought at the time, the only reason a guy would spend any time with me was for sex, I felt completely worthless and him saying that he wanted to spend time with me that wasn't sex was so wild to me, it actually brought me to tears.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I think it depends on the guy. Dudes that are more on the desperate side of things can take it very badly... guys that feel like they've invested highly can too (like the stereotypical dude that buys drinks for women he doesn't even know).

Guys that have plenty of options don't 'need' her and probably thinks the sound of her voice is fucking annoying.

Revvl6pro · Answer

Successful players don't give two shits about it. I have a few friends that are like that.

I was out with a male coworker, and he went over and asked a girl to dance. She told him to try and ask her again that evening, because she was busy talking. He just went over to another table, and the girl was happy to dance. So now the first girl comes up and tells him how rude he is. lol

I know that it's easier said than done but, water off a duck's back is a good thing.

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

A lot of guys seem to.

I just get really awkward. Like here I am, this sexy asf absolute specimen offering myself to you.. and you just.. say no?

Umm.. okay? I guess I'll just uhh.. kick it.

Have a good one. >_> 🤷🏻‍♂️

dragoblack · Answer

Yes, especially when they are insecure. My rejection response is "meh, ok" (I'm DemiRomantic & Demisexual, so I'm used to rejection from women that don't want to get to know me first... which sadly is most of my encounters).
from insecure guys, I've seen plenty that flip from kind act to asshole, super quick, especially when the dude's intentions is hookup.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Yeah I think so. Because society teaches us that getting reflected lowers your value when really, it just means that you were smart enough to open up to someone honest that was willing to tell you that they didn’t feel that way about you.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Guys tire of the constant games. Hot, cold. Hot, cold. Guys like straightforwardness. Something women are very handicapped at. 😆😆😆

If a guy doesn't take it well it's typically because he's just woken up to the game that was just played on him.

exitseven · Answer

It depends on who does the rejecting. I have had girls reject me and I really did not care because I was not that crazy about them either. I had a girl reject me that I really loved and I was crushed for a long time.

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

I think most people take rejection badly. Rejection is painful, because it makes people feel worthless and not good enough. These feelings and thoughts can lower a person's self-esteem.

JohnOh1986 · Answer

It's more an individual than gender thing BUT you could argue on average women take it harder, as they're not used to it. Most blokes have to deal with being rejected/passed over a lot.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I did, but I was screwed up. Later in life I didn't when I was ok with myself.  Girls take rejection badly too...

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on the person, personally I couldn't care as my philosophy is if you're not willing to do it, someone else will (and always has). Others take it like a death blow and for the time being feel there life is over.

Adam1978 · Answer

Some do, but as a gender we are more used to it. Females are horrible on rejections.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, definitely. They can be very immature about it.

Justin1019 · Answer

I am pretty simple. If a girl rejects me, I just move on.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I think everyone does... Girls can be really mean too when they get rejected... it depends on the person

SClassWizzard · Answer

It depends, but yes, we tend to take it in the worst way and handle it terribly

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Depends on the type of dude. But most, after getting rejected, will try shooting their shot with someone else. A small minority won’t take it well. And an even smaller minority will attack and end up in the news

Akam93 · Answer

Not all of them. It hurts me when I get rejected by the guy which happens a lot.

Ryfyle · Answer

Depends. A clean suicide yields better organs. His pain is over and some one gets a liver. Win/win right there.

peedy · Answer

Yes..! You girls all you gotta do is sit back and wait and choose, you don't have to find the courage than walk up and put yourself our there

Anonymous · Answer

Most don't, but some weak men can lose their minds over it.

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

I suppose it all depends on the guy. What he thinks in his head or how badly he wants the girl.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Depends on the guy. Are you wanting to reject someone but worried how he will react?

ThatCanucker · Answer

Only so much one man can take before it starts getting to him.

Cassie2002 · Answer

Yes and no some take no well ok. Ones who don’t won’t. Had things happen at work by customers.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Depends on how experienced he is with it. Boys your age probably won’t take it well.

boggboss · Answer

Most people take rejection bad

gangster123 · Answer

Yes.. I think all boys and girls anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I think men are more stoic than women...

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some do, some don't.

sunflower44 · Answer

Depending on if he's doing the rejecting or not

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but they don't need to

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

It literally depends on the guy

wafflemakerman69 · Answer

We do because that shit hurt man.

gone_girl22 · Answer

Some do and some don't

Agape93 · Answer

Sometimes yeah.

sadgirl0210 · Answer

Yes they do

Anonymous · Answer

most do

Sasha0426 · Answer

Some do.

Manuel2 · Answer

Not as bad as women

In_Trance · Answer

Some do, some don't

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