A lot of people take rejection very personally, but let's stick to guys.
Some guys have lots of confidence and they hit on girls all the time, and get rejected all the time, and it doesn't bother them at all - they know that rejection is part of the game. But other guys don't have much confidence - especially with women - and it's really hard for them to take the risk and ask a girl out in the first place. Many times, it has taken them months - sometimes even years - to ask out a girl that they like. And because they've taken so long, and invested so much emotionally into her (because they've been THINKING about asking her out for a long time, and what might happen if she said "yes", etc.), it's a huge blow if she says "no."
But in this case, I think it's the third common situation: this guy was really just looking to get laid, and was hoping he'd found someone with similar interests, and when he got rejected, he took that personally because sexual rejection is a big blow to most men's ego, since so much of the male ego is tied to our sexual prowess. Plus, you lied to him, in a pretty obvious way, about being a lesbian, and he wasn't buying it, and so he pushed back. Anyway, bad behavior on his part, but also not the best on your part.
When you are dealing with any guy, you should ALWAYS assume their interest in you is SEXUAL until proven otherwise. And that means you need to make it crystal clear that you aren't looking for anything sexual from the start (in which case, I wonder why you're on a dating site at all, given that sex is going to be an assumed part of any romantic relationship?), so that guys know this up-front.
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Some people, men and women, take rejection completely personally. Not sure why. I certainly do not want to waste my time with a woman who is not into me, so I am thankful when she is straight up about it.
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For me my Adhd type nerveous system makes life much more intense and emotional than it is for others. Relationships are no different
why do you care what this guy says if you don't like him just block him. the fact that you're on here whining about this means you do like him
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