Why do guys do this after sex?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy on tinder, I dont typically go meet guys from there cause I'm super shy but I was feeling an urge for sex and I matched with a real cute guy. he told me if I blew him hed give me a nice intimate massage and cuddles and I was just thinking that would be so nice. I ended up going over and we had sex and I blew him then basically right after we got dressed and he ignored me until he told me to leave. no cuddles no back massage nothing. he even hinted to me through message saying we may need to shower after all the sex were going to have I'm going to be f***ing your brains out all night... There was none of that. This morning I was gonna message him just jokingly saying "so I held up my end of the deal wheres the back rub" and found out he blocked me... I immediately got upset. I asked him if he would leave me and he said no. and asked why I said because guys have done that to me before and it hurts. he did it anyway... there's only been 1 guy I've been intimate with that never blocked me and were still friends. why do most guys block a girl after? especially after hinting he wanted me over again.

[MrOracle]

Because they found you on Tinder, which guys use exclusively to find casual sex on. And a "really cute guy" who is hot enough to get you to come over and have casual sex with him as a stranger is hot enough to get lots of other girls to come over and do the same, so he has no problem lying to get what he wants, because he'll be on to the next girl tomorrow.

This is why no one should use Tinder (really, any "dating app" but especially Tinder, which was intentionally designed to be super shallow) unless you're perfectly happy having casual sex with NO FURTHER EXPECTATIONS.

[chadpattan]

I've read your post a couple of times. This is my theory about what happened.

I think this guy is or was in a relationship when you contacted him.

I think this guy had a falling out with his girl, and got on Tinder while they were beefing.

I think this guy, after you had sex, either regretted doing it, reconciled with his girl, or almost got busted.

Most likely - given the blocking - he regretted it.

Here's a question. This went down at his place, right? His bedroom? Did you notice him checking his phone more than usual?

[Pennypolish]

Yikes. Looks like he got what he wanted and bounced. Pretty messed up. He may have blocked you because he may have a significant other. Hard to tell. Take it as a life lesson and ask for back rubs first next time 😉
be safe out there!

[Anoniemus]

Plenty of men lie to get what they want which is purely sex. He’s scum but that behavior is typical.

You should expect to simply get out when the deed is done. Next time, invite the guy to your place so you can kick him out.

[Asker]

but he said wed cuddle after and he hinted at me spending the night...

[Anoniemus]

Men lie. All the time. Just think like a horny man. If you want sex and you know a woman likes to be sweet talked, what would you do?

I would sweet talk her and sell her the moon just to fuck her.

They are absurdly simple in this manner. Be wary of trusting them if you don’t know them well.

[TDCTD]

Fuck... this totally confuses me as well... I don't think there is anythink wrong with a massage and cuddles after sex (honestly does this stuff work on tinder haven't had any success there)
If he didn't wqnt anything serious he could have at least scored a fuck buddy. Only thing I can think of of he didn't like the sex... I still would have given the back massage...

[TDCTD]

And then tell this is a one time thing

[Asker]

so I wasn't good enough then to keep him around...

[TDCTD]

I have no idea what really... what he did is confusing even to me... If it was me I would have totally keep seeing you for sex and cuddles at least (who knows might even fall for you) from what I read he didn't fuck you as well he promised and giving you the massage and cuddles is a total bitch move... Don't think so much about it

[EABsTUQ]

I don't know tbh. I kind of wanna know now. I mean I do know why I would personally do it but I'm not gonna say it. But you know if you want to cuddle then don't aspect get that from the guy you gonna blow but not date. Which is a dumb thing for me to say considering I have the exact thing you want with someone. Well sorta...

[Sensmind]

Wow what a pig - It doesn't take a whole lot of effort to be kind and generous in your lovemaking - Sorry on behalf of men everywhere - Hopefully he is 0.0000001% of men and the rest of us are decent

[TwoToTooTutu2]

Same shit happened to me. Some people are scummy. Just be sure to have more self respect, and don't sell yourself too short. You're worth more than that.

[dthomas89]

You can't be "just friends" with someone you've fucked

[chadpattan]

Biz Markie - Just A Friend

[Laozi]

Because you've no self-respect. That's why people use you as a whore.

[Anoniemus]

The man too right? Two to tango and all that ish?

[Laozi]

Will you please explain what you're saying?

[chadpattan]

@Laozi "Will you please explain what you're saying?"

Suggest you listen to Vanessa Daou - Two to Tango.

[andy530]

He sounds like an immature dick. Not all guys are like this I’m sorry you found that one!

[Jmmmfi4]

He's just a major League asshole. Plain & simple.