Firstly, it’s in guys’ nature to feel the need to love and protect those they care about. If he loves (friend-love) his best friend, who happens to be female, then he’s simply being a normal male by caring for her. Also, as a guy, he would know how other guys think and who she should stay away from, given that he doesn’t want her ending up hurt. Now, a healthy amount of care and protectiveness is good. However, those levels can escalate to obsessiveness where the guy really doesn’t want anything bad happening to her, or loves and cares so much that he doesn’t like her to be around, talk to, or otherwise interact with, other malesIn conclusion, possessiveness is not good. Protectiveness, love and wanting what’s best for the other person is part of true friendship. But if the friend is being possessive, then they need to be talked to about the mistake they’re making. If they’re understanding, they’ll back off a bit. If not, then I suggest taking a break from them for a few days, or until they start to realise the error in their ways.
I have one girl bestfriend and I don't go checking on everything she does. But whenever she thinks about skipping breakfast because she's not feeling like it, no way she's gonna escape me. I often take her out to eat after the breakfast break timing is over. And if I see our manager shouting at her for something, I often find myself going in and trying to talk the issue down and pull her out. I'd say we all have different ways of being protective 😅
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I'm sooooooooo lucky that we are friends!!! Thanks a bunch 💎
And quite honestly that occasional thank you that actually comes from the heart... That's worth all the effort gone into caring about a good, truthful friend so if anyone has a friend like that, I'd say go love them with all you have. You won't regret it.
I don't have any guy friends for me to be overprotective with. If I did, I highly doubt I would be though. I can't be bothered to be overprotective over anyone rn. Do whatever the hell you wanna. It's your life. At the end of the day I can only afford to take care of myself. Plus all my friends are responsible and tke care of themselves, so if I had a guy friend, I'd be confident that he's fully capable of taking of himself. So there'd be no reason for me to be overprotective. Take care of your own damn life. I can't be bothered to do it for you.
I wish so fucking bad that I realised this earlier man. If a person doesn't care about themselves. I can't waste my time and energy caring about them. Plus would it even matter if I cared about them or not, if they themselves can't be bothered to care about themselves😂?
I’m not really overprotective of anyone other than my little brother and other children that I know. I have a lot of friends though, male and female, who are very protective of me. It’s kind of annoying, to be honest.
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Thanks for taking the time to leave some feedback!!! I really appreciate it!!! Super helpful 💎
Not in the way portrayed by that photo. It's not my place to tell them how to dress or how much skin they can show, that's for sure. The closest is maybe telling them I have a bad feeling about someone they're seeing or thinking of taking home/going home with, but that's still their decision (unless they're too inebriated to make it of course).
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Thanks so much for the detailed feedback! You ROCK 💎
They can be VERY protective sometimes... Almost to a fault... Like "okay you guys I can handle myself" ... I served in the Marine Corps... I got this LMBO 💎
If I care about you I am protective over you. If you are doing and saying things that are potentially harmful I will make sure you know what I think. of course I can't tell them what to do but I can strongly suggest. Whatever they choose I support anyways I just don't want to see any harm come to them.
Hell no, but only once for me bit that was because shed always wander of and shed never pay attention to her surroundings so yeah saved her from getting ran over once and she didn't even notice the car until i had to litteraly grab her and tell her since she be walking unconsciously
Not overprotective. But if they do stuff that's damaging to themselves I try and talk sense into them but if they don't stop then I just let them. It's their life and everyone has some stuff they do that isn't great for them.
Yes but only when they asked me like i went to the club with a few girls and they told me if one of is gives u the eyes then u have to safe is from the Guy or guys Or girl
They are also protective over me i dont ask for them to do IT but its really Nice and kinda hart warming to think a bout
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Thanks so much for the feedback! I appreciate it 🙋
I am going to treat them as I would my other friends. Now if someone is physically attacking them Hell Ya I'm going to protect them. It's not that I don't think she can handle herself in a fight but I think anyone would help a friend.
In that case we shouldn’t of never been friends to begin with. But lots of guys make that mistake and lots women are more than happy to take advantage of them in the process.
thanks. Now if you are unreasonably out of the guys league (he’s 20 years older, very overweight, not attractive or successful at all) but your are still friends that’s one thing. Also true if he’s married or already in a serious long term relationship. He might look at you as his little sister. But if he is close to your age (40 or below), comparable in looks, obviously hetero, etc. it’s just not a good idea to be “friends”. He’s torturing himself and should know better.
I mean, i just spent the last 3 days helping her with a massive issue in her life, im always at her side protecting her, but I wouldn't say over protective, just protective... though I'm the parent of the group, sp I'm protective to all of my friends
No I let them do what they want. Just keep an eye on them to make sure they're OK. In my experience women can take care of themselves just fine! I've have had to play body gaued for friends that were to drunk but that's cause most guys are pigs not because they need defending
No. I worry for them sure. But they are as sisters and they will do as they wish. Best I can offer is tell tuem things as I see it. Be honest. It is up to them to make the best choice.
No. Not like the picture says at least. I'm too old to give a fuck about my friend dressing slutty. In fact I'll be right there too like 😈 that being said in the face of danger I'll both die and kill for those truly in my circle.
personally i have many female friends. And am the kinda guy who doesn't try control my friends and their personality if they ask for my opinion I would provide an honest one but i dont go on telling them what to do and shit... their lives their shit
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You sound like a great friend! Thanks for the feedback 💙
Not so much overprotective of them but a little possessive but not to a dangerous level. When I was younger I'd get annoyed and irritated (I wouldn't let them know it) when they didn't talk to me the way I believed I should be talked to.
Of course I have a few male friends that can stand to see peeps done wrong and get the captain save a hoe complex and I got to put those pits on a leash in public 🤣
What men see in these specific situations is, like: Daaaaamn more than one woman showing interest right now! Did she get some competition right now or what?🙄
Depends,... if she is a friend. I'm protective but not over. I don't have many friends. If you're my friend, you're family. Now... if you're my woman or my kids... then I'll kill you..😂😂😂😂 and I think anyone would feel the same.
No shit. We have a better grasp of our own limits than others. If you consider a person a friend, thus you'd want what's in their best interests. However that doesn't guarantee you'd know what exactly their interests or limits would be.
Not at all. I'm hardly even protective of my female friends. Of course, if someone is assaulting or harassing them and it seems they could use a hand, then I'd step up to help them out just as I would with my guy friends in such a situation.
But I don't criticize how they dress or anything like that. Well, one time I did step up to the plate based on dress, but it's because one of my female friends was wearing a bikini and at the table, she was laughing and drinking and her boob slipped out. Then I noticed a guy next to me, just an acquaintance, staring at her boob in a sort of creepy way.
So I had like a moral dilemma here. So I didn't want to be like the ass that ruins a guy's fun so I gave him a good 30 seconds or so to have fun looking at her boobs. But after the 30 seconds passed, I stood up and shouted really loud, "I can see your boobs! Yayyy! I will download that and remember that for the rest of my life!"
Then this alerted her to the fact that her boob was exposed and caused her to cover up while everyone laughed, including the guy next to me who was ogling her boobs the whole time.
Define protective... does threatening to hook some up to jumper cables count... guy in question was just a hair away from being a rapist but his daddy was in the legal biz so the kid was like Teflon so the law was out of the question
I have protected my guy a friend from a girl who had a reputation of sleeping around then he got with her an is pregnant the next day. Try to pin it on him.
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Oh helllllllll no!!! I am so glad you stepped in and said something... He was about to get trapped 🎀
I haven't seen her mess anyone up but I kind of want to take her out to the bar and see if someone is dumb enough to put a hand on her without her permission 😂 Does that make me a bad person?
I'm not, I don't really like accusing a woman's dressing as being too revealing. It's their comfort zone. I don't think I would even dare to stop my relatives from wearing thights
Not really no.. i will give advice. If they go against it and bad things happen, i will be quick to point out that if they listened they would not be in the predicament they are in..
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Define overprotective. I will say though I am protective of friends especially female friends.
I used to be that type now I know better and would never just accept any girl as just a friend either something is gonna happen or it is not but not friends
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