Why do I find it endearing when a guy gets shy, nervous around me & avoid eye contact?

[Anonymous]

However, I don't think they know that I find it cute. They are most probably embarrassed when they acted like that :/

[cast277]

You like it because it shows you how much they think of you. They have you on a pedestal and their behavior shows it more then any words can. The saying goes. "If your heart doesn't stop every time she looks at you it isn't love." Our bodies know what were feeling more then we are. He is so worried about messing up or that you won't like him that he can't function either because he thinks you're so much better then him or that he is so unskilled in conversation and dating that the threat of getting a chance with you is to scary cause he is pretty confident he would fail. Either way touch him. His hand his shoulder his arm. Break that boundary as often as possible. He will gain confidence and you will both gain trust once he can look into your eyes and tell you what I just did.

[Asker]

i would rather not use physical as a start. Is there any other way i can use apart from physical?

[cast277]

Well yea talking. But it isn't physical as in trying to be sexual. More just reassuring that you are there real and actually recognize him.

[Asker]

if she makes you nervous, does it mean you're head over heels for her?

[cast277]

Basically.

[Asker]

or is it more to come & go crush?

[cast277]

I my experience it's been a "holy shot what do I say? Oh god dont fuck up!" Type thing where they want you to like them so bad they kinda freak under the pressure. His comfort level will rise as his confidence does.

[Asker]

When you're acted like that towards her, would you at the same time act the same way with another girl?

[cast277]

It depends. I mean its possible he feels the same way about her too. Could be you two are similar or peak different interests in him. I'm not saying he has decided to warship you. But it is a sign that he won't be a asshole after the first few dates and ditch once you have sex with him.

[Asker]

Meaning he could have a crush on 2 girls at the same time, and act all shy nervous around both of them separately?

[cast277]

Meaning he isn't committed to anything and has no limit on who he could like. Heck he could have a crush on every girl. But which one does he tey to talk to the most?

[Asker]

Have you crush 2 at the same time, and act all nervous shy around both of them?

[cast277]

When I was younger. But that kinda thing isn't in my character now. I get nervous from one girl right now, but I know its because I want her.

[ravagesavage]

They virgins you can't blame them

[Asker]

do you mean guys who usually act like that are virgins?

[ravagesavage]

I'd say most. It's just that they didn't get a little some to get the confidence to not shy away

[Asker]

also what can i do to help or ease them when they act like that around me?

[ravagesavage]

Just talk all naturally as you do then you make them comfortable but don't show any discomfort or awkwardness and what not or they'll pick up on it. They'll be having that in their minds and they'll just get all paranoid... It's weird af but you catch what I'm saying

[Asker]

will making eye contact & smiling at him works, or would it make him more nervous?

[ravagesavage]

Nah that's like being welcoming that'll work just fine

[Asker]

if he acted like that, is there a chance that he likes me or is like a come & go crush?

[ravagesavage]

Shit who knows I don't have much to run off by to understand your history with him

[cast277]

Personally I hate that kinda mind frame. Just cause someone hasn't done something doesn't make them any less worthy of attention or common respect. We were all virgins once. And we have all had people look at us and think "oh hell no." For one reason or another.

[ravagesavage]

Well you can't deny they haven't done anything with a girl to be comfortable with them. Usually sex takes away all that and change your mindset

[cast277]

Some times. Sometimes it's just the affect the single girl has in him. Maybe he isn't a virgin maybe she just hits him like that.

[cast277]

Hell I'm a dominant and some girls still make me nervous.