Why does he want to buy me gifts? Does friends with benefits buy each other's gifts?

[LadyLove2589]

The guy I'm in a sexual relation with told me that he 'almost bought me something' so he asked when is my birthday.

As I've told him that we can see each other for only one last time because I want to. I want to move on to better relationships etc this was just a sex vibe. He tells me that :'I never buy you something nice when is your birthday?' so I'm like no you don't have to. I told him to keep whatever it is he wants to do for me because I feel like he is being very manipulative or I don't know what his trying. He always ask me :'Dont you wanna stay with me until you found the one?' he asked me this tonight aswell. So based on what he was asking me I can see his not genuine or doesn't see me as anything more but he keeps telling me he almost bought me something. And he says even though we gonna do it for one last time he will still buy the gift.

I'm wondering guys? Girls? We have been seeing each other for almost two years now. He tells me he is sorry for the other years he missed. But he feels like he wants to buy me something this year.

Thoughts. Opinions?

Manipulative behaviour

Genuine behaviour

[abc3643]

It seems like you are earning this...
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Congratulations!

Your question is today's Question of the Day illustrating that Friends With Benefits is an illusion because eventually one of them will get emotionally involved as if in a couple.

It's not a question of "if" it's going to happen, but "when".

If it is any consolation, in December 1988 just before I turned 26, I was involved in this intense 2.5 week F W B situation (*) with my roommate. I was very emotionally involved, but, for her, I was just a convenient lay between more "serious BF"s.

So, was I a stupid fool? Yes and no. I knew better, but I wanted what I got into and paid the price. I learned through The School of Hard Knocks just like you are...

(*) This is long before "Friends With Benefits" became "a thing". No one said that 30+ years ago let alone thought it because it would be considered an embarrassment to sink to that level. Apparently, being a slut or manwhore doesn't matter in today's "hook-up culture".

[RSav4013]

Chances are he's probably just trying to let you know that you aren't just a bootycall to him and he appreciates you.

[LadyLove2589]

Lol he texts me every single day. Sometimes I must tell him look don't you just wanna text me when you horny or wanna hook up but yes we talk to each other about anything.

[RSav4013]

Right on lol

[Dinklex3]

I mean.. my friends with benefits is my FRIEND. So yes, I bought him presents for his birthday and I'll cook for him every now and then.
But I don't know what vibe your guy is giving off so I can't tell.

[LadyLove2589]

We don't hang out. But that's so cool. I bet he likes it so much cause he gets everything he needs lol but we don't hang out. We just hook up to have sex because he works a lot and he doesn't actually have the time to hang out and but he text me every single day. I don't text him he always text me to check up on me and now he says he wants to get me a gift this year

[blutwolfe]

He caught the feels and doesn't want you to leave but won't admit it

[LadyLove2589]

For real?

[Gwenhwyfar]

He likes you!

[LadyLove2589]

Yeah right? I think so too hey.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Totally 😊