I'm just speaking for myself, but I'm not really into making friends. Lol. Men or women. I'm really a loner, and I value my peace. When I was younger and I did make female friends, it wasn't because I wanted to sleep with them.
The friendships would blossom normally... whether it was at work and we were just talking or if it was at a bookstore and we were casually talking about books or if I was in gym class (I do yoga) and I met someone in the class and we started casually talking. With me, there is never an underlying motive. And, to be quite honest, in my adult life, I never had very many female friends for this to happen.
However, I don't think there is anything wrong with sleeping with a friend or wanting to have sex with a friend. A lot of people make sex or thinking about sex so taboo and it's ridiculous. I see a lot of women on social media say things like:
"It's fucked up how men are willing to fuck a complete stranger without even knowing a damn thing about them."
on the flipside I also hear women say:
"It's fucked up how men become your friends and think it's okay to want to have sex with you."
If you are a man and you approach a stranger, a woman you meet at a club for example, and try to to get laid... that's fucked up to a lot of women.
If you are a man and you are friends with a woman and you decide down the road that you want to have casual sex with her... that's fucked up to a lot of women.
So, what is a man supposed to do? Lol. I don't think it's cool to become friends with a woman JUST to fuck her. However, if you have been friends for a WHILE and you both aren't dating anyone and you both aren't having sex with anyone... I don't see anything wrong with seeing if friend's with benefits is on the table. Sex and wanting sex is natural, afterall.
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I won't answer your poll as it's too biased with a yes or no answer. The reality is more complicated than that.
As far as my written answer goes, I've done it a couple of times and here is why:
Situation 1: we developed feelings for each other.
Situation 2: we were both single and got tired of the dating game, but she had needs and persuaded me to "help" her because she said she trusted me. She actually had to persuade me because I was uncomfortable with the idea at first.
Situation 3:
We were both drunk and talking, making dirty jokes, and just having a fun time. Next thing I know she was on my lap talking about "what ifs," then it just sort of escelated. She and I are still friends but never did that again.
All in all sex is only as powerful and meaningful as you choose to make it. To me it's not just a show of affection, it's also a sign of trust that you're willing to trust your partner (or partner for that instance) and entrust yourself to them. Everybody likes sex, and I don't make friends with women because I want to have sex with them, I befriend who I think I can trust and that they are worth my time and won't abandon or treat me like crap.
I wholeheartedly agree! Let's see who's actually genuine or lying. To those who genuinely say no, especially when you wouldn't do it without stable commitment, I think I can speak for every woman born on this planet: We love You! The rest of you better seriously think about having female friends or just dating or sleeping with any woman.
You are not so distant fronmthe truth. That is the way it is unfortunately. It happened to me
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I make friends with women I like, and it is not because I want to sleep with them. Most of my female friends are married, or in a relationship with a guy, or another woman.
They are just friends, and it isn't sexual.
As far as 'sleeping' with them, yes, with some, but just SLEEPING, and not sex!! Just things that happened, and storms and such, and they trust me, and I trust them, and it wasn't anything!
Sometimes, when some break up with their boyfriends, and call me, they get to a point when they want to hug, and be close, and sometimes a few have wanted more, because they are just in that 'place' and need someone. Better just to maintain the friendship, and hold, but not go too far in vulnerable moments!I am not a fan of Friends With Benefits because ultimately emotions always get involved.
However, I am not against the occasional instance of it as long as it's not a regular thing.
So, if I was young, single, and good looking again, I would definitely consider sleeping with a female friend. But that means sleeping, cuddling, maybe kissing. Fucking is something else. I might do that too. I know if I kept it up, emotions would get involved and either we'd become a couple or one of us would get heartbroken. So, I treat the whole this with a leery eye.No, I wouldn't, for various different reasons.
The primary reason being that my female friends and acquaintances are all women who I'm, specifically, not at all attracted to.
I wouldn't be friends with someone I fancy.
I would either pursue them, or cut contact with them if pursuing them wouldn't be possible.If I'm being honest, I feel a lot of girls are that way too.
I would sleep with some of my female friends, it really just depends on how friendship is with a particular girl. I have friendships where we're both flirty with each other and others where I've had the girl try to flirt with me only to be shot down immediately because they either have a boyfriend or husband.
I always found that friends girlfriends made the best female friends because usually there was no interest there from either of us. Apart from one who I'd hang out with regularly but whenever I'd talk to a random girl in a bar or whatever she'd have a fit about it (thus the usually)No, I'm not romantically or sexually interested in any of the female friends I have at the moment. However, if there were a girl that I wanted a relationship with, I would likely befriend her first. That said, I'd try to make it fairly obvious that I liked her, without being too overt, so she wouldn't be completely blindsided if I asked her out in the future after getting to know her better as a friend. That just hasn't happened yet, though.
Firstly, if there's tension in our first interaction that won't go a away then I have a hard time seeing you as a friend unfortunately.
Depends on how Good of a friend she is and how open she is to talk about things in the open.
If she is a really Good friend I won't risk losing her as a friend. But if we talk about it I could be down to explore.I don't know, it's a judgement on a case by case basis. Do I want it to become more then friends?, do I care enough if this ruins the friendship if I don't want a relationship? . Is I even attracted to her? It also depends on how it happens/presented.
No such thing as platonic female friends for men. Maybe women can have platonic male friends, but not men.
As for me, if I had a female friend it’s because I want to get with her and I’m keeping her close and in touch with her when the moment presents itself. Maybe she’s busy with school at the moment or maybe she’s thinking of her feelings about me.I personally have a rule that I would never sleep with a woman closer than a friend of a friend of a friend. It is too messy, and I don't want to ruin any pre-existing relationships. I would not sleep with a friend in normal conditions, at least not one on one. If it was a threesome or the like I wouldn't mind.
I'm not this asshole, really, but if they want to sleep with me, and our boundaries and rules have been discussed before hand, I'm probably not going to say no. It can definitely be detrimental at times, but not if everyone is being an adult about it. Besides, what's not to love about good sex?
I have just one female friend that I actually will/and have spent time with. We kind of toyed with the idea of hooking up. I kissed her once, and it got a little weird, but I think it was mutual that we would rather not. We're still friends, but she's in a relationship now.
I say no because I don't become friends with a chick just to fuck her. I shouldn't have to. They the understanding that if we aren't fucking yet we will. Now I do have one best female friend and we have a legit friendship. However, we have also said we'd fuck. We haven't though yet and that's not the core of our relationship.
Would I sleep with a female friend - yes, if she wanted that too. Is that the only or even the primary reason to become friend with a woman - definitely no. I have several woman friends who that's exactly what they are - friends. We have excellent friendships and want things to stay that way. I respect them for who they are and am reasonably sure they feel the same about me. There is absolutely zero interest for either of us in trying to have a romantic side to things. There are others with whom there has been mutual interest; with them something else is possible. The tricky part is not damaging or losing the friendship in creating something else. So would I be willing to add that dimension to a friendship, yes I would but it's rarely even considered until well after a friendship is established and then only if it's something that she wants too.
I would. But only if it was because both of us agrees and we both felt that it was comfortable for us mentally and we thought that there wouldn't be significant downsides to doing it. And it would only be if I keep she didn't sleep around and was careful with who she slept with.
The only other reason I'd have sex with a female friend is if we planned to take care of another and be partners for the rest of our lives.No, but just because there are almost always at least one of 3 reasons why they're just friends:
1) I'm not physically attracted to them (doesn't mean they aren't fun to be around)
2) Even if 1 is not true, there is something about them mentally that would keep me from wanting to get intimate. Brings to mind one in particular who is attractive but I picture her keeping an ice pick under the bed...
3) They're married, or involved.No! I would not sleep with any of my female friends and i have many. Plus! Am married and happy in my relationship, i will not destroy something beautiful that i and my partner put so much time and effort to reach the place we are in and we both love it.
Well apparently genuine friendships always have some sort of attraction despite it being male or female friends. I guess it depends on the situation, if I fancied the girl and I didn't want to step on her relationship I would just be friends and try keeping it that way. Otherwise I wouldn't try to sleep with my female friends, what would be the point?
It depends. Are we close friends that we grew up together and parents know each other? Or did we meet in the perfect time in life where we needed each other and helped one another get through it?
If first scenario is iffy but I would still do it. All my female friends except 1
She is someone I see as a friend. But if we grew up together and I'm drunk and she's down than yea. But sober I honestly don't know. Most likely yea thoughThe results are a reflection of how evolutionary psychology works, it's been hammered in. It's upside from the male prespective to have as many partners as possible while it's a downside for females. Although I am not sure I agree with the path they are going beware yourself on criticising others for their evolutionary tendencies for you are all the same.
"I feel like lots of guys only make friends with woman or keep friends with women they fancy"
Yea, why wouldn't they? If they're not settled down already then they're going to want to have attractive women around to try and partner up with. It's seriously the most utterly mundane thing.
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