Girls: Would you date a guy who's a homebody?

[Anonymous]

Would you date a guy who's a homebody, but likes going to amusement parks, the beach, the movies, those sorts of places from time to time?

Yes

No

Updates

+1 y

I find the results from the poll very contradictory to what I've seen girls go for. Most girls I've met go for the confident outgoing extrovert. A homebody like myself doesn't get as much as a first date from my experience. So I really don't understand this.


If a guy was a homebody how should he approach you when he does go out and where would he find you?

[Ugliness]

I did once. I take it that homebody implies one who lives with his mother, hangs onto her every word and often goes everywhere with her.

I haven't actually caught any guys like that but I've known at least three girls

First one was a disaster. We were sort of going together in college but it's like nothing was sacred to her. We both lived with our parents back then and she would give every nasty detail of her day to her parents at dinner time. So apparently after telling her mother all about me, her mother declared me inferior. And she took her mother's word as gospel.

Little did I know that she already knew my future wife and when they came across each other, also in college, my wife to be stayed far away. We never met. Not for another nine years when our paths crossed again (it was meant to be).

I know of two other girls in town they are rarely seen without their mothers even though they are at least in their forties. These ones would be hard to date. None of these girls has ever been married. I doubt any have ever been laid. If this isn't what a homebody is then well, it's another class of person that is probably impossible to date.

[Asker]

"I take it that homebody implies one who lives with his mother, hangs onto her every word and often goes everywhere with her."

No not quite, a homebody is someone who enjoys things at home like cooking, video games, working on their car/house. They are the opposite of an outgoing person who would enjoy things outside of the home like camping/rock climbing/sports.

[Ugliness]

One who doesn't get out much. That's me. But I try. I get out to my brain injury groups.

[Vtartaud]

I clicked no just to see this topic, but I thought you were just misspelling Homeboy :D

[Anonymous]

I'm a bit of a homebody myself, so I wouldn't mind. I like going places- especially relaxed places like the beach- but I also like to stay home. As long as he'll spend equal the time in my home that I'll spend in his, it's fine. As long as there are fun things to do at his house, that is! Being at someone's house (or having them at yours) is always awkward when you can't think of what to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Of COURSE it's contradictory to what you've seen.

a. While many girls are fine with the idea dating a homebody, you are right that it's mire difficult for homebodies and introverts to begin relationships or get dates, both because they are probably more likely to be shy and because, as you said, they tend to go out less often and thus will simply have fewer opportunities.

b. EVERYONE thinks it's hardest for THEM to get a date. People are naturally most concerned with their own problems,

[Opinion Owner]

since those are the ones they face directly. The truth is, a lot of people in a lot of different situations have trouble dating for a lot of reasons. Of course, if you've never been on a date and your roommate goes on a date every night, it's probably safe to assume that you have more trouble dating than they do. But it's not always so simple. You see someone happily on a date, and you think "Why is it so easy for them?", but you don't know how hard it was for that person to make the first move

[Opinion Owner]

or how much rejection and insecurity they dealt with previous to that moment.

So try to accept the fact that your struggles are not unique, nor are they insurmountable. I wish you the best.

[Asker]

Thanks for the reply, it makes a lot of sense.

[Anonymous]

How could a guy be a homebody if he likes to go to those places? Anyways, I would date him. There's nothing wrong with being home if you don't have anywhere to really go to. I mean I would be more concern with the way we would meet...

[Asker]

He would be a homebody if he seldomly does those things and prefers to stay at home and do things at home. Which differs to an outgoing person who prefers going out rather then being at home.

[mormollio]

Yes! If he's a gamer that's even better, then we could stay home and play games all day. My favorite place is the movies and I love amusement parks, they're great every once in awhile. That'd be the perfect guy for me :D

[Anonymous]

Sure. I'm antisocial a lot of the time because people annoy me. I don't mind staying in as long as we aren't just watching TV and doing nothing all day.

[BelovedDoll]

That type of guy sounds like he`d be matching my own lifestyle. It`s important for both partners to have similar lifestyles or else the clash will cause the relationship to fail.

[jjjezka91]

yes I most certainly would. because I would know he isn't out looking to improve his game. lol jk. but that sounds like the best kind of guy, honestly.

[hsshannah96]

It could be a red flag though that he’s leading you to his house so y’all can have sex

[tyt_2012]

Hell yes! because I`m a homebody myself, I prefer to stay in most of the time.

[foreveryoung2010]

Dang it, I put no. Until I read your description. Then yes. I wouldn't want to date somebody who ONLY wanted to stay home and NEVER wanted to do anything. what you described though sounds perfect.

[queenofpeen]

Yes, in fact, I prefer guys like that. From my experience, I've been extremely incompatible with extroverts.

[lt2192]

Personally I prefer guys who are more outgoing because I tend to get lazy if I'm not constantly motivated. It's alright to stay home every once in a while, but just as long as they don't overdo it.

[Brendi87]

yes and no. I can do winters and certain rainy days inside but summertime definitely outside 8-)

[hsshannah96]

Same. I love the pool I have to be outside swimming

[hsshannah96]

Yea but he did not say he would go there at all when he talked about how he’s more of a homebody. He just stated that he is more of a homebody

[star709]

yes, that is only because I am the same way.

if I wasn't then nooo

[sofixx]

I'm a total homebody since I was 16 since becoming a mom I was skinny and hot party girl now I'm fat and comfy! I have 6 kids and and my lesbian introverted Friend. I would love a introvert boyfriend!

[DesiVega]

currently am dating one, its amazing because I'm a homebody as well

[Anonymous]

...why not...but he has to be prepared to go out some time...

We can't be at home all day long. xD

[elizabeth24]

yea seems like a great guy

[MissAnonymous01]

Hell Yes! Sounds like my kind of man :D

[sofixx]

Yes my kind of guy or girl!

[BackAgain]

I would since I'm also a homebody

[SnackG]

A girl like that would be awesome too.

[theAlineCee]

yes because I am.

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna select yes just to see the poll XD

[Asker]

Fine by me. I didn't think guys would be interested.

[udolipixie]

No

[Gettinghelp]

I've voted yes :)

[InMyHeart]

sure, why not.