Guys is this true for guys when you like a girl or have a crush on?

[Anonymous]

guys is this true for guys when you like a girl or have a crush on?
https://youtu.be/z09vaf59ckU

[Gigglytr0n]

That's true for a lot of men - doesn't matter how confident they are or how hot they are. The only guys that don't follow this set of behaviours are the guys that really aren't interested in dating or getting to know people.

[Asker]

why do guys act like that?

[Doflamingo1]

No, the more confident guys will hold eye contact.

[LohrvsData]

Nervousness, worrying about coming across the wrong way, take your pick. You women don't have to worry about coming across as the "creepy guy." If you're interested and you let us know it, as long as you're not practically tearing your clothes off in front of us, most of us decent men are down with that. :)

[Doflamingo1]

Yeah it’s true, even the most confident guys might do this but, after growing up a bit I just look the women directly in the eye

[Asker]

why do guys act like that?

[Doflamingo1]

Shy, nervous, or maybe self conscious? I don't know it’s differs between guys but, in my case I was nervous

[Asker]

and why you will get nervous?

[Doflamingo1]

Most of the time I would get nervous because I’m attracted to the girl. It’s the total opposite for girls I’m not attracted to, I’ve never had problems with looking them in the eyes. I think because I was ugly as a child, I found it hard to maintain eye contact with girls I found attractive

[BeMuse]

I believe that guy believes that… It’s his own personal position though. He’s not a confident guy, so he is projecting his insecurities onto other men. It’s very short sighted. It doesn’t consider other reasons. I personally make eye contact with anyone. If I don’t make eye contact with you, it’s because you don’t currently have my direct attention. We are not communicating back and forth with one while facing each other. I don’t any issue making eye contact with attractive women whatsoever. I could find you attractive, but be paying attention to other people or be involved in something else. I could just as easily be flirty and witty with you when my back is turned and you are in my general area… Eye contact isn’t necessary. I could also not find you attractive at all and not even notice you. I can make very direct eye contact and speak to you, but not find you attractive at all. Eye contact is just one little piece of body language. It doesn’t always mean what you think it means. People’s behavior is more complex.

[BeMuse]

*one another

[DannyUk2017]

To be honest... If i have a crush on a girl/woman, and talk and know her for a while... if we meet/date and she is looking in to my eyes... i might not look back straight away, byt the more i do look in to her eyes, the more I SEE, and that's a downside for me... as i jump on to cuddles and kisses... because the more i look the more aroused i get, the more disarming situation becomes, and i'm sure one of us will male a "move" even if its direct on in-direct with the "emotions/chemistry" that starts pouring...😁😁

[CaptainOverthink]

If i talk to them directly or in a group then I treat them like any other person, attraction or not. Eyecontact but no more than 3sec then shift focus around to be able to think straight or to keep my audience engaged and feel included.

In the questioned scenario where its about encountering a crush.. and we're not really talking, then I avoid eyecontact as well. But That's mostly because..
1. I'm not super experienced and I will blush a bit.
2. Mediocre confidence.
3. I was witch-hunted a few years ago for not averting my eyes when she told me she had no interest. Never touched her or said anything bad ever. I lost my job.
I know that this one time, this one event shouldn't stop me from trying but I was traumatized and attraction triggers servere emotional responses for me at times, like anxiety and social withdrawl. Making good progress lately though, I'll be back stronger in a year or so. My 30's will have to be my 20's.

[AaronKrieger]

No, if we don't make eye contact it's probably because we don't like you. If we do like you, you'll most likely catch us looking at you a couple of times. If we're trying to hide it, then we'll look away soon as you notice, but keep looking once you've looked at away at some point.

[Some_Goof]

That's what the video said. They'll look but try to hide

[AaronKrieger]

That's if they're shy when it comes to girls

[Some_Goof]

Or somewhat insecure

[AaronKrieger]

That's what being shy is

[t-8900]

Yes men and women are opposites in this way. The girls look at the guys they like and the guys look away from the girls they like TYPICALLY. It takes a lot to lock back up and look at you. You have to understand how some of these good looking women shoot us down. They absolutely berate guys. Thankfully I've become good about it over the years and can throw it back in their faces. But all through my youth this was basically textbook me.

[username1580]

Sometime happen , even for girls , if you like a men but you are afraid of looking unattractive at him , you try to avoid him until you think you are enough attractive. But anyway if you like him you are gonna give him a little look. Same for men.

But it could mean even something else go with your gut.

[RingOfFire]

Of course a shy man who is interested in you might avoid eye contact with you, just like a shy girl might do the same thing if she is interested in a guy.

But a guy who isn't interested in you might avoid eye contact with you too.

So the fact that some guy isn't making eye contact with you doesn't tell you anything about whether he is interested in your or not.

[PhantomMk]

Yea it’s true for a small percentage of guys including myself but it’s mostly due to the fact that if I’m starring in her eyes and she is starring into my eyes my brain is then giving itself mixed signals that really throws my entire thinking process out so what I do is break the eye contact and after a few minutes if I feel confident get to know her once that happens and I’m interested then I know I can make eye contact. Anxiety and Lack of Confidence is why this tends to happen.

[LohrvsData]

Absolute truth. We don't know if you dig us, most men have a hard time reading women. Not all, just most of us. A lot of us are unsure how to approach you unless we get to know you.

[ImpMontezuma]

Yes, in fact I could say that if a guy don't make eye contact to you, he is shy, of course. But that also means that 1) He doesn't care too much about you OR 2) he cares TOO much about you (in the good sense) XD. So if you like him, that would be a sign of a very bad news or a very good news ^^

[syxdeep2]

Shy could be true but when I do not make eye contact it is usually because I do not want her to know that I am interested in her yet. I never show signs of interest unless I see signs of interest from the person I like first because i like to actually stay mysterious. It also drives some women crazy.

[Lindalizz]

what are some signs of interest you're looking for in that girl?

[syxdeep2]

@Lindalizz Lots of general conversation even just texting and how fast someone texts back sometimes. Or if she starts getting closer to me or brushing up against me then it becomes more obvious it is safer to make eye contact. Once I start picking up that she is interested then I will start feeling comfortable with more eye contact in person. After all, if you start making eye contact with someone that might not be interested at all it can be awkward and conversation is the best eye-opener along with subtle space invading like brushing up against me or standing extremely closer than most people.

[Levin]

HOnestly, sometimes it's a bit of unconscious game playing. ie you give away power when you act too interested, and people are more intrigued by people that are aloof. However, this is generally a pretty bad strategy as a guy because guys are supposed to the active ones who show interest and approach. Part of it may also be Simping consciousness. I don't think men should give women so much power in the first place. Especially not by virtue of her simply being a woman.

[Oigit]

I don't like making eye contact with people a lot of the time. I can have a piercing gaze and can get locked into it without even realizing it. So it's not because of a lack of confidence. It's because people can find it disarming. Also not making much eye contact does make it easier for me to focus on the conversation without worrying about it becoming an issue. It's pretty much the entire reason people have nicknamed me Rasputin since I grew my beard.

[scooogy]

I hid from my crush for half a year, until she suddenly caught me. Ironically the last time I felt like hiding from her, I actually wanted to show her a massaging machine for her back because working in a grocery store, she got backaches occasionally. Showing her that I cared about her made her talk more personal with me, which was the start for us to talk about more and more personal things.

[Lynx122]

For me it was true when I was in high school. But it was because I was ashamed that I was attracted to the girl and that's why I couldn't look them in the eyes. I was not comfortable with sexuality.

[Jewelove]

I was very shy in high school too. Then came the 20 year re-union and 2 guys confessed that they liked me but never approached me because they thought I already I was dating someone. Guess I came off as "not interested in anyone" or something like that.

[navyrobin]

But it depends. If he REFUSES to make eye contact with you, then he probably does not like you. But if he looks at you and then quickly looks away when you glance at him, or when he looks down when you lock eyes with him, he does like you. And a lot. He just doesn't know how to handle the situation.

This happened to me a few times in high school. It was very endearing.

[UnionBoy1865]

No guy is the same. I’m sure that this can be true for a lot of guys but no guy is the same. I have a few crushes. Some I sit next to almost every day, I don’t look her in the eyes because we’ve only talked 3 or 4 times and I don’t want to look creepy.

[Jhonny_025]

Yes. Somethimes looking at your crush might be kind of intimidating, but if you notice that he keep sparing at you when you can´t see him, he likes you.

[t-8900]

exactly!

[Reafwavepi]

Personally, I have a problem of not maintaining an eye contact when talking to people, but when I talk to my crush, I don't know how but I manage to look at her straight in the eyes without thinking about it. So, it's quite the opposite for me.

[strawberrylipstick]

I don't make eye contact with ANYONE... I get anxious and it makes me uncomfortable... I look at people's mouths when they talk