Do guys love the same way girls do, especially when they have a crush on someone?

[Anonymous]

I have a crush and I can’t explain what I feel towards him, I feel like I want to love him with every bit of me. I want to hug him and pinch his cheeks, shower him with compliments, spoil him with gifts, I love to bake and cook so I always think about how if I ever date him, I will make stuff for him. I just smile thinking about him and whenever I see him, I get butterflies. I envy people who get to be around him, spend time with him, and talk to him. I often find myself feeling down because of jealousy caused by girls around him. Do guys view girls they like the same way?

[_Maya_]

Like anything some will and some won't feel that strong attraction. It depends on the person and how strongly they feel for them but of course a guy can be head over heels for someone. Is this guy going to feel like that about you? Probably not right now because you say it is a crush and that means that he probably doesn't know and certainly not to the extent that you describe in your details. He most likely is completely oblivious to your feelings. How will he know unless you show him that you feel a certain way? Also he is very much unlikely to match the strength of your feelings right away because it sounds like you have developed these over time to the point they are so strong. He would just be starting out explorinng how he feels about you.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, except men often become possessive and toxic.

[Christian_Cartier]

*protective

[Quigly]

Why you need a pre cup agreement for an open relationship and marriage. Send a message that they don't own you.

[imtiaz45]

Guys and girls may experience crushes differently, but they often share similar feelings of excitement, nervousness, and curiosity. While individuals vary, guys might focus more on actions to show affection, like offering help or engaging in shared activities, while girls may tend toward open communication and expressions of care. Both genders may worry about making a good impression and think about the person often. Ultimately, love and crushes spark universal emotions—anticipation, vulnerability, and hope—though the ways these feelings are expressed can differ due to personality, societal expectations, and individual styles of showing interest.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/EznVrpvpTJg

[slatyb]

Pretty much, although men can be violently obsessive.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

You don't describe girls, you are describing your feelings. Feelings coming from a personality, a construction oriented towards romanticism and/or or idealism. That personality, that construction is wildly spread among genders. Though that personality, that construction is also encouraged or negated by cultures of this planet.

Because if it was gender-based as you assumed, then there would be no male artist in this world. Art would then be... Just a feminine thing, but it is not the case.

Obviously not.

[nevooo]

Don’t think I’ve ever been in love. Hate women too much. They’re good for sex and thats about it. Any man that reduces himself to a puppy dog and lets some woman who would DIVE at the first opportunity to arouse her fantasies is a sad man indeed. Can’t think one a singular downside to being single and having sex with whoever you want, super easy too, tell em everything they wanna hear, make them feel special, go that extra mile for em, and you’re getting some pussy, then you get a a second orgasm when you know they care about you and possibly even teeter on the level of loving you, then you disappear, showing them just how meaningless they were to you all along. Fuck toys are all they are.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Casual sex is boring, risky, numbing, and lonely.
You honestly sound like a loser who is coping because you can't find a mental match and no one loves you.

[nevooo]

@TheSpaceGnome boring and numbing are suggestive to you and your experiences, just because I don’t share you’re dead traditional views on sexual intimacy doesn’t mean I’m a loser, and the fact that you’re so offended by it that you try insulting me is pretty telling of the kinda person you are. there is no “mental match” you sound like you live in a lifetime movie. Having sex, while also getting to enjoy the best things in life and not having to worry about all the cons that come with being attached to a woman is great, sorry you’re not good looking enough/successful enough to participate.

[nevooo]

Glanced over your profile, 15,000 opinions shared, gamer nerd at 37 years old. Yeah, not surpising you’re triggered 💀

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its not traditional views, its common sense and not settling.

You're a deceptive asshole who lowers the number of available women by taking their virginity, ruining their relationship optimism and ability to trust men, making them undesirable for the rest of us as a result.

You also cause fatherless children and the spread of STDs that way.

I know you think its possible to do what you do without worrying about cons, but cons exist, and you're going to have to deal with them eventually when your old wrinkly STD ridden (now celibate) deadbeat ass is all alone and paying child support to a kid/kids you never get to see. Good luck getting any sex then lol.

Mental matches exist when you aren't a sociopath. Its called shared hobbies, interests, and views.

I'm actually very good looking, most women I meet hit on me and I've never had to ask any of them out, I'm simply not dumb enough to abuse that and get in over my head with all the problems sleeping around would bring.

I've been solicited for casual sex more times than I can count, but I'd rather have no sex than casual sex.

[TheSpaceGnome]

As for the gamer nerd comment, any woman who isn't a gamer nerd + artist + science nerd + sci-fi and fantasy nerd + anime nerd + nature lover + cosplayer, is quite honestly not worth my time. So the idea that me being those things is somehow a "negative" is just retarded.

[nevooo]

@TheSpaceGnome not reading all that bro, sorry, maybe someone who has time to answer 15,000 questions like you can waste their time arguing. You’re offended.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Sounds like a cope to me.

Replying takes barely any time, already made 4 drawings while watching anime, chatting with a friend, and hopping on this every so often. Just because you can't multitask doesn't mean I can't.

[bobby_bush_eater]

It depends but for me yes but not for a crush it takes a bit for me.

I would say it has to be probably a date or two before I start getting there but once I get there yes...

I want to cuddle her, spend my Friday nights inside doing stuff with her, I want to meet their family and her father, I'll do the stereotypical boyfriend stuff, and I love doing the gentleman stuff because that's always felt natural to me. I want to get married and have children on one income (me working) so I have to prove myself and I look forward to those moments.

[MrOracle]

That's not love, that's infatuation. Infatuation is exciting, but also short-term and shallow. We are all affected by it, but that's not a good foundation for a relationship.

Love is much deeper and profound, and is defined far more about the sacrifices you are happily willing to make then by giddy feelings in your stomach. Love is accepting and embracing your flawed partner, including their flaws.

[Darwin_n_chill]

Similar but probably with a more sexual flavor. Regardless, sure. However it is just chemicals as some others here have said, and you should keep your wits about you. That doesn't mean you can't act on it though. Just be aware of what you're doing, and don't let the high you're getting from your own glands make you do anything too stupid.

[art84]

There's a girl that likes me but seeing her with other guys just makes me feel like she wants to get me jealous. I am not the type that would fight over a girl if she has crushes on other guys besides myself. Though I am sure that she fantasies about me from time to time and other guys she likes.

[Garud]

Do guys view girls they like the same way? No, never reached that stage in my life.

Yes, suppose I like a girl but if I see her with many men then I will immediately throw away that feeling of me

[RageBabe]

Yes, men are not programmed robots; they feel things deeply as well. I won't even go into depth because, well, it should be so obvious.

[Finchie40]

That’s usually the feelings everyone gets when they are infatuated with someone , but once the infatuation period fades away , those feelings probably won’t be the same lol

[Levin]

All of the greatest love songs are written by men...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/-Dtouh3p0qc

[Dinoparx]

Not particularly, at least I don't. I don't feel like hugging, or pinching my wife's cheeks, or showering her with compliments. What I do feel however, is a sense of responsibility towards her. I have, in a way, give up a "comfortable" life so she can be taken care of. I make sure there's food on her table, there's a roof over her head, and no one dares to put a single mark on her, even if that means it's at the expense of my well-being.

[Anonymous]

I love my girlfriend and we have an understanding that since she is younger than me she can enjoy different men and flirt with the men she wants and even have sex with a man whom we both think can provide good genes to children. So after marriage we will be exclusive but till then she can have freedom and independence

[TheSpaceGnome]

So wholesome! ^-^

Also yes, but you forgot to add the lust aspect to all of that.
That sort of deep emotional attatchment increases sexual attraction/arousal ten fold.

[Luopio27]

I've been called a doormat for having a date site profile or a after effect of a blind date for describing or showing feelings like you spoke of, the way you spoke and the reason you spoke of what you feel!

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Guys can get obsessed with girls too. They can be very emotional about girls, although they don't generally show their emotions as much as girls.

Also, guy love is much more boobs-and-vagina focused than girl love.

[Alwayreckles93]

Be careful just speak from experience you don't want to get obsessed with him.

[MLGbreezy]

I don't know I made a post about love and this girl in my comments is talking like a robot so ima say girls don’t

[Anonymous]

Similar yes. But that's not love hun. That's called limerance. Love is something deeper. That is exactly the same as guys. Because all that is is hormones secreted into your brain.

[paledreams]

I have felt those feels before.
Ah well ❤️‍🩹😃

[paledreams]

I just be getting too old though at 30s plus

[LiamJHayden]

Different people define love differently, and I doubt that even all girls love in the same way, let alone girls and guys.

[Smegskull]

No. Men and women love each other in completely different ways (the greeks actually had different words for it)
Roughly, men love women the way women love their children.

[Anonymous]

guys are more subtle about it and better at pretending they don't care but their eyes always show they're interested

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeahre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[jahaims]

You have lust and infatuation. You probably experience limerance

[beefcakebradybatson]

Probably not because boys and girls are different.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not. Once guys have it it's hard to go away, women are easily swayed away by emotion.

[CarolinaGirl5]

A crush isn't love grow up.

[Alex-Snow]

I think so but everyone shows it in different ways

[Anonymous]

I always wondered the same thing

[moneymagnet24]

Nope because guys have mind...

[Willoughby23]

Loving is for the weak

[MannMitAntworten]

Don’t know?

[Dan290290]

Yeah, same.