I have a crush on my dance instructor, but I don't know if she feels about me. Should I go for it?

[bcanneers]

About a month ago I joined a dance studio that teaches ballroom dancing. To this day I have never felt this happier in my life. My dance instructor compliments me for my ability to quickly grasp the basic patterns of all dances, she even wants me to get into competitions (Dancing with the Stars style). When I dance with her even there is no instruction, she just makes me feel very good about myself. She even tells me that I remind her of a particular student that she use to work with back at her hometown (if that's actually a good thing).

Now I don't know how she feels about me or anything, she seems to enjoy herself every time she dances with me (I certainly enjoy her company). She wrote me a handwritten letter and it expressed that she is willing to dedicate herself to make me a "star student". And out of all the people I dance with even other instructors, she seems to stare into my eyes the most.

The dropside to it is that I know she is an instructor. And when she dances with me she is part of the studio (and not some random person) and I know she has other students and her coworkers she dances with (ok I do the same thing too). I don't know what I am afraid of exactly, I don't just ask any women to go out with me, I only ask the one's that I really like. And I really like her, but she is also my instructor. I highly respect her for that. My emotions are getting out of whack. I don't want to mess it up again. I am aware that's life.

Should I just go for it?

Updates

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Thanks everyone on their comments and opinions. I have done some of your suggestions. And instead of asking her a direct question (do you have bf?) In a way of (does your boyfriend dance) she said no. Her answer didn't down confident

[kennyk]

I think you should start with something small that's not an obvious "date" and won't make things awkward if she doesn't feel the same. Ask her if she'd like to get coffee with you after class, something like that. Come up with an excuse if you have to, you want to chat with her about where to take your dancing career? Just get her out of the dance studio somehow. But then draw the conversation away from dance stuff and find out more about her. If things go really well, you have your answer. If they don't, then shoot, you were just asking her for advice, no awkwardness required.

[ArtistBboy]

I wouldn't do that if I were you.. It could get really awkward REALLY fast, not to mention how much you already enjoy doing the ballroom dancing.

Why not keep her as a friend and see if she has anyone in mind that you could go on a blind date with? If you keep her as a friend/dance instructor - you'll go MUCH farther than if you were to make the drastic mistake of going from "her student" to attempting to be her "date"...

~ ArtistBboy

[superwoman]

i don't think you should jump the gun just in case it gets awkward. but I do think she likes you because if I like a guy I'm willing to go to the extra mile for him. so maybe ask if you could practice with her or something, if she likes you she'll say yes. and if she wrote you a note I think that's pretty big.

[jujubeetzzz]

ask her if she has a boyfriend?

i mean what if she's married lol

[Anonymous]

go for it. life is too short not to take chances