Alpha male crying after breakup?

[Anonymous]

My ex recently broke up with me. We spoke for the first time in a month (after 3 months of breakup). He told me he misses me and when I saw him, he was crying, I have never seen him cry and he always says crying is for the weak so I would never thought of him crying at all.
He told me he has been depressed, he can't get to sleep, wakes up in the middle of the night thinking about me. In some cases he won't get out of bed til 4pm. Everytime he thinks of me he would tear up and he would really need to hold it in. I have never seen this side of him because he always gives the rough, tough image and he looks down on men who cry.
My question is do you think he's putting it on because he wants to get in my pants or does he genuinely feel all these emotions?

[FocusOfSuspicion]

Why did you break up with him? That’s the question really, because if you specifically cited his machismo and disgust at sniveling tearful men, then that could cause him to put on a show to keep you.

Even still, I do doubt it. Those types of behaviors elicit either pity or disgust... or both, in most people. As a society, we necessarily frown upon people who are so unmotivated as to remain in bed all day. You could never build a productive society off that kind of behavior.

Insomnia, crying, begging you to take him back, depression... it doesn’t bring about amorous feelings. I would feel sorry for someone like that. I’d want to comfort them. It brings out maternal instincts, and he doesn’t want to be your friend or your son; he wants your romantic relationship back.

It feels counterproductive and so it’s likely genuine, unless as I initially described, there were circumstances that would potentially make it productive. Because why else would he sacrifice his pride by abandoning his principles just to look like the weak man he was so disgusted by?

[Asker]

He broke up with me and he honestly for the most part seemed fine. He started sleeping with many girls pretty much after the breakup and all of a sudden he popped up telling me how much he missed me. He also said (when we were still together ) that if we ever broke up he would have no problem finding another girlfriend so for him to act like this is so out of the blue and it shocked me

[FocusOfSuspicion]

Maybe that wasn’t as satisfying as he thought it would be.

[EWillke]

It's probably genuine. And yes, "alpha males" cry too. Just because we're confident men doesn't mean we don't have feelings and emotions.

My wife would tell you that I'm one of the most manly men she knows but she'd also tell you I get emotional at sad movies and love puppies.

[OneManOnly01]

I don’t think he’s an alpha male. You won’t like him for long, you’ll get bored of him very soon

[havingfun101]

Oh, it's real. He's right to look down on men who cry, men like himself; however, he's also a weak hypocrite. 10 internetz say he was raised by a single mother. Simps gonna simp.

[Asker]

lol how can you tell he was raised by a single mum?

[havingfun101]

How can I tell that you are a dumb girl? Anthropologically, matarchial societies are necessarily primitive, which includes matarchial individuals. Matriarchy = women in charge.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

I feel like this is sarcasm. But in case it's not...

OP, you need to listen to this guy. He probably cries a lot, and knows what he's talking about.

[havingfun101]

Sarcasm is for girls?
I do remember being a baby.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Heh okay sweetheart. Whatever you say.

[havingfun101]

@HungLikeAHorsefly
Scroll up and see that I was right. Understand that psychologically projecting your latent homosexuality onto me won't exhaust the source.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Oh, sweety, run along and go play with the other kids while the adults talk.

[havingfun101]

Me: can read strangers like a book from a few lines of text.
You: calls people 'sweety.'

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Me: mocks dipshits who pretend to be tough guys on the Internet
You: dipshit, pretending on the Internet

[havingfun101]

I'm right and you're a white knight. Stop simping.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

That all ya got, cupcake? For a dude who's so down on single moms, it sure does sound like you never had anybody teach you how to be a man.

[havingfun101]

You're obviously threatened by my masculinity.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

I bet you pee sitting down

[SuccessfulHornDog]

I don't know any guy that would fake that in order to get in a girls pants. I have cried over a woman before and I consider myself alpha

[havingfun101]

Hahahaha! 🧐🤣

[SuccessfulHornDog]

@havingfun101 Settle Down, Francis

[havingfun101]

But I have so much energy, Your Tearfulness?

[SuccessfulHornDog]

@havingfun101 Clearly you have ADHD

[havingfun101]

True, but ADHD is just being a boy, as the prevalence is between 8:1 & 16:1 M:F, at the behest of Affirmative Action hire, feemale teachers.

[R3DthatDude]

Love can break even the toughest man.