I’m just wondering because I’ve been feeling down lately. My girlfriend broke up with me four days ago out of no where. I don’t know, since then; I just felt like crying at times (not in public of course) every time I think about it and now I’m starting to feel pathetic because of it. I just loved her so much and I thought what we had was genuine. I don’t know what went wrong and she won’t even reply to my texts asking for a reason behind the breakup.
It's actually better to cry over a breakup than to not cry over a breakup. And no, I'm not talking about the "oh you had no feelings for her" Shit. What I've learned from life the hard way is that bulking up feelings inside will affect you over time. Crying, expressing, accepting all the mixed feelings you have atm helps you feel so much lighter as if all the weight on your emotional shoulders is getting off. Embrace it buddy (;
No we may not have the same emotional range as our female counter parts but we are still human if you prick us we bleed if we have major loss we will react emotionally
It is pathetic to not be affected, it meqns you never loved them. How you express that isbup to you, crying is a human expression of emotion so I don't see the problem
No, you kinda need to do it but it is a bad sign of something else. It's a sign of confusion. You wouldn't need to cry if you understood the situation better.
Crying in sone regard, is the body forcing a thought process, it's like an immediate forced conditioning from the mind so it may be able to process certain relevant thoughts better. People at funerals almost always cry, one of the main reaaons is because they go into a type of introspection which invokes memories that are otherwise lost in time. The crying part is basically a shut off mechanism for usual functioning drives, so that other neccessary processes can manage. A person with solid clarity may not need to cry, especially because they would have already devised an appropriate coarse of action.
I may add to, that to my knowledge, some ancient cultures ritualized crying as it was understood to be the most rational form of action. In typical grieving, the thoughts are so immense, the pain is so intense, regular cognition cannot cope with it. Crying is fundamentally the only state where such a transformation is possible. It's like a type of instinctual meditation. It's promoted for the sake of it's practical and natural utility. It allows a natural process of thought to occur that just isn't available at any other time. It's often neccessary in order to come to a realisation of reality. However, just don't mistake crying like a baby with crying.. Babies cry because it agitates people, so they can have their needs fulfilled by other people.
I don’t think it’s pathetic. Each person deals with certain issues in their own way. If my girlfriend broke up with me and I had loved her a lot, I wouldn’t cry but I would feel immensely sad. There are certain things I cry during and other things that, while I’ll feel immensely sad, I won’t cry. I like to think I understand myself well enough now to know what those things are. Everyone is different.
So, in summation, no, I don’t think it’s pathetic at all to cry over being part of a breakup. It’s quite normal for someone to cry over something like that despite believing that I myself wouldn’t cry over such a thing, but again, it doesn’t mean that my emotions aren’t extreme or intense, it’s just how my body works I guess.
I went through a break up just not long ago and i cried so hard like never before in my life, got very depressed and didn't eat anything for 36 hours long. I even had to call a working day off. I slept most of the time apart from crying.
I loved her but she just ghosted on me and left me and then i realized she was just infatuated. We didn't even reach the one year milestone. She was my first everything.
It's not pathetic. It's very normal to do these. But I'll have to get back up anyway because there's no other way.
So if you do these, make sure you're alone in your room and that nobody can enter your room.
It's not pathetic. It's human. Heartache is part of what makes life matter. As a girl who's been begged and guilted back into relationships I didn't want, I have to say that even if she gave you a reason, it wouldn't be good enough. Even though it hurts and feels incredibly unfair, she technically doesn't owe you a reason. For God's sake, let yourself at least release some of that pain. It will damage you to force yourself to hold back any self expression.
I agree here mostly but one thing I'll say is that if he really cared for her he deserves closure. It won't drastically heal him instantly but when the time comes when he does heal, he'll be so much better for having gotten the complete, open, honest, sincere truth. Moving on works so much better that way.
Absolutely not. Breakups hurt, and anyone should be able to grieve until they time heals them. Holding on to such things only make things a lot worse in the long run.
As everyone is saying, it's normal. You really need a closure though. Her not giving one gives you the right to assume the worst: She didn't love you. You can imagine any situation, like her having to move far away soon.
You have to regain control over your life now. You need friends and to start a new activity or hobby. Like: go to the gym, learn to play an instrument, or even something useless like playing D&D
NO. Let it out. There are times when the 'spark', 'desire' and love just burnt out, nothing left to prolong the relationship. It might be difficult for her to explain to you the 'reason' as any reason she provides isn't gonna sit well with you.
There is no reason why men can't cry when they are enduring a big personal loss. It's what humans do. Not just female humans, but all humans. We are made to express our feeling with tears during certain situations.
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That is normal and not pathetic. Everyone can cry sometimes.
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I'm sorry you are going through this please be strong and find the girl you deserve I am going the same thing as you crying at night it's like my heart is ripped and heartbroken. But you have to remember she lost not you.
Why the fuck do people think that men shldnt cry🤦? They're humans just like us women and have emotions, ofc if anyone cries all the damn time it's gonna get annoying tho🤷
First and foremost you're a human being. Being a man doesn't mean you are immune to having feelings and reacting because of them. Tears in this instance are perfectly normal.
Nope. Not pathetic at all. In fact I would appreciate it if the guy who broke up with me... Cry over it. It shows how I am worth it and that I am very special to him.
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