Why do some guys want to control women's choice in clothes instead of dating a woman who fit in their "clothing preferences" in the first place?

[Anonymous]

These are the same stupid f*cktards who complain about women who do to the same and try to change them. They are just just hypocritical. I mean both is wrong but dont complain about it if you do the same shit. This happens a lot to women who dress revealing. If you want women with modest clothes, then date women with modest clothes in the first place instead wasting another woman's time who dont dress modest or who dont fit in your preferences. You either accept her the way she is or fuck off from her life. Period.

Do you also do such stupid shit?

(By the way I will remove any opinion who try to change the topic and talk about something else. This is a question about some guys, not all men. So dont get attacked by it, if you are not such a guy. Just answerethe question or say your opinion about these guys )

I never have tried to control my partners choice in clothes

Yes i often date women (or men) with revealing clothes and tried change their clothing preferences instead of dating someone who fit in my preferences in the first place

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+1 y

Date/marry someone you prefere and who fit your preferences and values. You can't change someone, unless this person wants to change too. So dont hurt yourself and your potential partner. I wish you all the best.

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+1 y

Wait Why do i get opinions by people I blocked? How is that possible

[Not_Average]

Is it really that unreasonable for a man to request that his girlfriend doesn’t dress provocative? It’s really not that deep. Sounds highly irrational to take such a defensive stance and bring it to some dire circumstances relating it to control. Women typically dress differently when they’re single in comparison to being in a relationship. It’s a matter of boundaries, and mutual respect. If the girl doesn’t catch on to that transition, then a reminder isn’t that drastic.

This is the vibe I get from you...

”Hey babe I don’t really feel comfortable with your cleavage showing so heavily in public now that we’re together. “

”WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO? OMG you're SO CONTROLLING AND TOXIC. MY BODY MY CHOICE. **Proceeds to dress like a whore at a family Christmas party**

Lol calm down Jesus Christ.

[Asker]

No it is a life style and preference. You can't change someone's preferences or interests

[Asker]

I mean it is ok to give your opinion or advice but she should make the last decision

[Asker]

Sorry for Sounding so agressive

[Not_Average]

Sure, but in a relationship, you work together and budge on particular things to make each other happy and comfortable. If you don’t see why it’s inappropriate to consistently wear clothing that is specifically designed to accentuate your sexual assets in a relationship, then god help you lol.

I mean why would a girl be interested with wearing a push up and showing off her cleavage while in a relationship? Sounds that comes from a place of I’ll intent. What interest does she have to wear that and why is she seeking to advertise in that way?

Seems like a lot of women these days demand a bunch of shit and have literally no wiggle room. If you’re not willing to work with your partner on something as simple as dressing more modestly, then why would anyone want to be with you other than to fuck you? I mean, it sounds incredibly one sided and unpleasant to date someone that is this fixed in her ways.

I’d be humiliated if my girl dressed like a skank with some of the people I’m networking with. Have to keep it classy, I personally wouldn’t like it if my friends were casually looking at my girls tits at a casual BBQ as well.

If a woman isn’t willing to change literally anything in a relationship, then she should stay single. That’s not an idea setup to have a successful relationship.

[Not_Average]

That’s fair reading your second response. Didn’t see that.

[Not_Average]

Demanding is something entirely else

[Asker]

The same reason why some guys show off their abs or have abs. This has nothing to with working together a a team in a relationship. You just want some to war moest clothes for your incesurities. People were these so immodest clothes because of the same reason why people wear modest clothes. For example i hate bras since it is uncomfortable but if I dont wear you see my nippes but idont give a f. By not coverig your cleave, you are letting your breats breath. Believe me it sweats a lot i summer.

[Asker]

People dont wear clothes only to get attention from others, it isalso because of fashion. So some people wear such clothes because they are interested in fasshion. So I think it is red flag to try to control someone's interests

[Not_Average]

I used to be a bodybuilder who lives in sunny CA. I still have a distinctively muscular physique. I don’t show off my physique to others by wearing ridiculous clothes. I wear clothes that make me looked squared away and sharp. Has nothing to do with body insecurities. You can still look classy and good.

I think trying to frame that out as controlling someone’s interest is melodramatic and in every sense of the word. Not wanting your partner to dress sexually provocative is a red flag to you?

[Not_Average]

Walking around with your nipples hanging out all day is straight up tacky. I don’t like to shave, but if I don’t, I look like a bum within a couple weeks. Is my girl controlling if she tells me to shave my beard? I don’t see that as a red flag.

[Not_Average]

Also, I’m specifically referring to revealing clothes. You can be classy and fashionable without dressing like a skank.

[Asker]

I dont walk around with my nipples hangin around. I just don wear bra wtf becausr it is hella uncomfortable. By the way it is not that unusual to not wear bras

[Not_Average]

Also, isn’t there more foundation to a relationship besides attire? What if there was a strong emotional connection, but he didn’t like that she wore such slutty clothing? It made him uncomfortable and didn’t like it. Is her response to say fuck off? I mean, is she not willing to work with him at all? No compromises? That’s ridiculous. There’s been things that I do that bother my girl and we’ve found compromises. Same in reverse.

[Not_Average]

Some girls can get away with it more than others depending on if they’re top heavy, but if I can see your nipples and your tits are just juggling around every step- that’s trashy. I’m not one to be fond of this hippie type of mindset so you’re barking up the wrong tree there lol. I think if people are too lazy to literally dress themselves or keep up/take pride in their appearance, then they got a whole lot of other issues.

[Asker]

Go wear a bra yourself. It is extremely useless and unhealthy. I am not going wear a bra judt because of fools like who sexualize every shit. I dont understand why men can get away with showing off their nipples but women can't although both of them ain't a sexual organ. Female breast is only here to feed the baby and pedo people like you even sexualize a baby's ressources of food. If you want your girlfriend too be modest, be modest yourself like not even showing off your nipples in Summer, otherwise you are hypergamous

[Not_Average]

Well breasts are sexualized whether you want to debate the biology behind it or not. My girl wears a bra everyday and it’s not that big of a deal to her. She’s also very too heavy. I think it’s trashy, but to each their own. You can go braless, not shave, and wear sweatpants everyday for all I care.

[Asker]

You know nipples are not that visiple when you dont wear bras. Have you ever seen women without bras. ? And would you cover your nipples in summer on beach if your girl wants it?

[Asker]

So it is ok for that men can dress like a whore? You cunt

[Not_Average]

Okay lol

[loveslongnails]

I actually went in the other direction. I suggested that she wear things which were "less modest" so she didn't look like a schoolmarm from the mid 1900's. Nothing was forced, but I helped build her confidence and realize she could look good in a lot of things. She liked it, and she made some changes. So for us, it wasn't a manipulative thing or a big fight. It turned into fun for her to buy new stuff.

[Asker]

I am happy for you then.

[Asker]

So she wants to change. As i said people would change when they want it. You did not change/ control her, you just give her your opinion and advice.

[loveslongnails]

Right, I didn't force her to do anything, except in the sense when I said "umm... no, you're not wearing that out anymore!" LOL

[loveslongnails]

But your point is 100% spot on. If a guy doesn't like a girl's style of dress style, don't date her. There are millions of others you can date.

[TessCasie]

It could be anyone or even more lol
a. cause they might be not getting women who dress according to their style. that's stupid but anyways smh.
b. they are just plain and simple dominant possessive men no matter what.
c. Girls love it so they end up being with such a man.
d. He doesn't trust her.

[MzAsh]

Because most men simply don’t have the options. Dating options are scarce. So they take what they can get and then try to change her.

[hahahmm]

*clap*. I applaud your Oscar worthy acting job here. Just know that not all men are suckers. We know a woman dresses like a hooker to advertise that she's available and to try and find an upgrade form the man she's with. That same woman will suddenly dress more modest when she finds a guy she truly wants to keep her long term and be committed to. You probably just have never found that yet so you bounce from sausage to sausage like a fly in a meat shop.

And when I say "dress like a hooker" I don't mean "attractive". I mean begging for every man around to approach. Thirst trap stuff.

[hahahmm]

If you're in a serious relationship you should be loyal. Otherwise stop wasting the guy's time!

[Asker]

You can't dress like a hooker. Hooker dont have clothes on when they have sex. I am not talking naked women. It is illegal to be naked outside anyway

[Asker]

A women with so called immodest clothes can be loyal too. I dont know know what you. So you not loyal when you show off your nipplel in summer

[hahahmm]

Wrong... hookers do wear clothes when they're advertising on the street. Obviously a woman could dress like a nun and be disloyal.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I don't know from what I've seen throughout my life. 9/10 times that situation happens because the guy matured faster than the girl and he wants to feel comfortable settling down soon and not feeling like either of them really have anything to prove.

Which I can understand. Because usually these people are older than 25, have been dating for a few years and at least any time I've seen this situation unfold. They guy was starting to become more professional, less of a child and the girl wasn't.

So yea you're right they should just break up. But that's a lot easier said than done when you already fell in love with the person.

You gotta see these things from everyone's perspective.

[tzdc21]

Well the thing is, when a woman dresses in revealing clothing, then she's fishing for male attention. Now I ask you this: you think it's perfectly okay for her to do that when she's already in a relationship? I don't. There are certain things that you can do when you are single but should not do when you're in a relationship, like dressing in revealing clothing or going to strip clubs or wearing "Single AF" shirts for example.

[homystew]

I believe both men and women would just like their partners to be even more attractive, so they try to change it. It would be fun though, if one choosed the clothes for the other. Then they would find their partners extremely good looking, but not themselves.
What is self confidence, afterall, if we know we are optimal for our partners?
This happens a looot from both genders. Not just one.

[broken_heart_at_48]

No my wife wears whatever she wants. The only thing I give my opinion on is red doesn't look good on her. Any guy that feels the need to control his SO's clothes is doing so because of his own insecurities. Seriously if a guy thinks his girl isn't gonna step out on him because he won't let her dress a certain way is an idiot. If she's gonna cheat then he just needs to end it. Because if she does it once she'll do it again

[TallAnon]

Girl, I'll be happy to date a girl at all, then I can at least tell her my preference at some point and who knows.

[Asker]

Why would say that? I am sure there girls your ideal

[TallAnon]

Sure, some girls like my physically, but I've been single for 25 years. I'm not going to be too picky, I just want something to work out.

[TallAnon]

Me**

[Asker]

How do you end up being single if you are that handsome? So you have never dated someone? You dont seem bad. I can't understand how you would end up single.

[TallAnon]

I've "dated", as in, gone on dates. And girls are fine having sex with me generally. But yeah, I never had a relationship. Hell, this year I haven't gone outside for more than half a year. Covid still going strong here.

[TallAnon]

Feel free to follow me if you want to chat by the way.

[Hangry22]

That will be a hard case when it comes to me cause i have different dressing styles depending on the mood

[Asker]

You can tell your potential partner and i am sure you dress every dat or two days different. So if you have a date with a guy, he would get an idea of your clothing style in few weeks.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Because they like other things about her (minus her clothing style).

[Asker]

If he would like her, he would accept her the way she is. You dont have to like it but accept it.

[ItsTheNephilim]

But he doesn't. That's the motive of him being this way.

[Asker]

Such a relationship can't work. You both would hurt eachother

[ItsTheNephilim]

Well if they'd be willing to understand this why would they even bother about it? Either one of them needs to accept other's preferences (just like many others) or it simply doesn't work. Not worth it.

[Asker]

You either respect's the persons life style or clothing style or leave them alone

[John_Doesnt]

So you do intend to torture me? Well go ahead, I just sure hope you don't use those whips over there on the wall.

[Asker]

Ok...

[bamesjond0069]

If she dresses like a slut i treat her like a slut so obviously i won't date her but ofc ill say anything to have sex with her. Lol. Me being honest where 99% of men will not.

[Snakeyes7]

If anything, I always hear the opposite. A common complaint I hear from girls is that they get all dressed up and everything else but their guy never comments on it.

[Anonymous]

I would assume it’s for the same reason that women try to change everything about men after they get in a relationship with him.

[Asker]

This is also wrong

[Asker]

Interesting point

[TessCasie]

I agree makes sense even though that's totally fluked up

[AFellowWeeb]

yeah this is f up too, some girls hate the fact men like video games for exemple, specially nowadays, tahts the norm, girls just have to get used to it

[AFellowWeeb]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8w1Cbp23S0&ab_channel=TSN

[Asker]

When a man play ganes the whole and the dont do its job, yes then it is a problem then. My male cousin play video games and he is happily married.

[AFellowWeeb]

yes, thats diff

[Anonymous]

When men do this women start to cry that they are being discriminated against. Men can't win with idiots like you. If they did exactly as you asked other women would be crying that these men don't want them because they are women hating patriarchs

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Good question. I never complained about what the girls I dated were wearing.

[hahahmm]

Dating/casual is one thing. Serious/ltr something else.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@hahahmm The same thing applies to my serious relationships.

[hahahmm]

And when I was younger I thought like you.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@hahahmm why should I care how mu girl dresses. If she is a cheater she will cheat no matter what she is wearing.

[pizzalovershouse]

Cuz they can't find a girl that dresses the way they like

[AFellowWeeb]

I dont control what people wear, but im not into girls that dress in a revealing way, not my thing

[egykimo]

He lives her but have some preferences on let's say a too much revealing outfit.

[egykimo]

Loves

[nerdybutlazy]

Well that's definitely a red flag

[BigDog1989]

You answered your own question

[COMMODOREII]

Amen sister!! Great point. 😎👍