Do men naturally like fragile girls that they can protect?

[Amanda657]

Do sweet and fragile girls that need to be kept safe and you can protect them turn you on?
Or do men prefer strong and independent women?

[Jonn123]

Oooohh! This is a really nice question, actually.

I think you need to clarify the term "fragile". By saying fragile, I interpret it as someone who's in a bad spot mentally (or very rarely, physically) that need me to protect them. That's what I'm going by in this post, not physical strength but mental fortitude.

By "strong and independent women" I sort of sense a negative connotation, most likely because it's become such a meme-y phrase. But if we look aside from that, I think the "strong and independent WOMEN" paints a picture of a smart, beautiful, confident and mature woman.

Meanwhile, "sweet fragile GIRL" paints a picture of a low self-esteem, not very smart or beautiful girl, who most likely has mental illness issues.

By the way: The fact that you distinct the two by saying "Girl" and "Woman" sort of implies a difference in itself; that fragile girls are more than often immature.

I personally think, that a lot of guys fall for sweet and fragile girls. Why? Because they're 1. Easier to get with than confident women who know what they want. And 2. Because the guy can get away with a lot of things he wouldn't be able to with a confident woman.

More often than not, the guys that attract these "sweet and fragile girls" are "sweet and fragile boys" or people with bad intentions. More often than not, mature, strong and independent men stay away from these girls when they realize what they're getting themselves into. HOWEVER, it does happen a lot that guys, no matter how confident or sexy, fall for these women. Why? Because a lot of guys see it as a "I can save her" situation, which can be really dangerous.

So, I'd personally say that emotionally, sweet and fragile girls do attract me more. Why? Well, I'm guessing that it's because I really want to help them (save them), however I've been getting out of this mindset.

But I'd also personally say, that logically, stong and independent women attract me more. Why? Because I know I won't have to deal with emotional baggage, immaturity and so on.

[MyExBackCoach]

A lot of men want to be a hero and protector. So if they are attracted to girls who are "fragile," and need protecting, it's more because it allows them to be in a more masculine role naturally. It also gives them avenues to express their love to her in ways that are natural for them. If a man feels like he is protecting her and being her hero, it is a way that he can show love. When someone shows love and feels they are getting to be their natural self, it usually is a relationship they want and if it ends they tend to seek one like it. For many men, because it allows them to be in their natural masculine state, allows them to show their love, and helps them feel appreciated, it can contribute to the mental state of limerence which I explain in the video below.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/uxtDBgc9Dws

[CubsterShura]

Just be yourself. Some men like the sweet fragile type, some like the stronger independent ladies, but absolutely no one likes a woman who pretends to be someone that she is not.

And tbh I think most women are somewhere in-between the two extremes, I know that I myself am like that.

I'd love a nice protective man. Physical strength is great, but not mandatory because courage is more important than muscles. It is natural for any man to feel honored to be able to protect their women, but if any man is particularly going out of his way to ensure that his s. o. cannot become a stronger and more independent woman, then he clearly lacks masculinity and had issues with his ego. Major red flag.

[CubsterShura]

Thanks for MHO 😊

[MzAsh]

Narcissistic men want weak and fragile girls, but they won’t respect them. Especially when it comes to a crisis and she’s helpless and he finds he has to do everything for her.

[Unit1]

Correct on that one!

[Dongtai]

I don’t know about naturally. But when I think of fragile and little girls that need protection, I think about how it would feel to have a daughter, not what it would be like to have a wife.


When I meet girls like the former they come off as girl-like and not women. Yes I do have this natural instinct to protect but I don’t think that should be a “turn on” or a compass for choosing a partner. When I think of a healthy and satisfying relationship, I think of it as a two player game.


I always imagine my wife being my equal. We help each other and defend eachother. I’ve never seen myself in a relationship where it’s lopsided and my wife was heavily dependent on me. Alone we’re independent and strong but when we merge we become a power couple.


I’m drawn to strong and independent women.

[gekangen]

I think it's very random thing, but even same person can like both.
Independed strong female is... Independed... But it also has two sides, it could be Independed but still clingy or Independed that she finds you nice but not attached.
Same with fragile, can be fragile be be able to go with own life or need constant parrenting.
But fragile can be easier manipulated, so if guy searches for submissive peron then he is going to for her, if no then maybe not.
There is no answer "yes" or "no" is highly depended on person which one you ask and what they want.

[ConfusedOfTheWorld]

Well yeah in some kind, it feels better naturally for the man to look like the strong guy able to "protect" the woman, and women which can defend themselves seem kinda scary sometimes, because of the norms of the society. Like, when a guy sees a muscular woman he doesn't think of her as a female who wants affection etc. even though she might, more of someone who can twist your balls and send you on Everest.
But if the woman is somewhere in the middle then it's perfectly fine I think, because you can be assured that nothing bad will happen to her in case you're away, just a personal opinion.

[UnionBoy1865]

That depends on the woman and the man. Protecting a woman can boost a mans self-esteem, but at the same time being to sensitive or fragile can get very very VERY!!! Annoying. Just like my 1st girlfriend, every time I left her unread for 1 minuet she would start crying and posting on social media that we were breaking up. Men can find it kinda hot when a woman can stand up for herself and actively put herself out there in the world, but some women just take it too far and end up being obnoxiously bitchy.

[Kiss_Me]

Keep in mind there is a difference between NEED and WANT.

I find weak, incompetent, unmotived women are disgusting. Give me a woman that will fight to her dying breath to keep from being raped, can change her own flat tire, shoot a gun, and speaks her mind. However, she appreciates it when I do those things for her.

[zeitgeist057]

I don't necessarily like "fragile" or a girl in need of protection or saving, but I do find vulnerability to be a turn on. A woman can be strong, independent, and vulnerable. In fact, the ability to be vulnerable is better when it comes from a place of strength and independence rather than from weakness and inability to have healthy boundaries.

[KrakenAttackin]

I don't know that "fragile" is the right word but we do like the idea of protecting our lady and we take this duty very seriously.

Women who angrily reject the man as protector are really emasculating him whether they know it or not. "Men" who don't see themselves as protectors don't realize that this is one of the biggest traits of masculinity and something most women love.

[OmNomaly]

Sweet yes. Fragile not so much. I don't want to have to worry about her not being able to protect herself when she goes out.
I'd be into someone that can tune into their sensitive side. Not their emotional wily side.
Definitely has to be a balance of both.

[jgokgotit]

My protective instinct will kick in anyways, especially because most people, guy or girl, do not have my level of training. However, I do not want a woman who constantly needs me to do things for her. She needs to have a head of her own and be capable of getting things done.

[Demosiac]

I prefer a strong independent woman that can protect themselves, but also care about the dignity of her man. A woman can make a man feel like the strongest and bravest person in the world, and I think he'll appreciate it.

Also, even if men like fragile girls, there's only so much that they can do and for how long until they need help. If by fragile girl you mean a girl that can't help, then no. If by fragile girl mean a girl who likes to be protected, but can also reciprocate, then yes.

[rjroy3]

I prefer (emotionally) strong, noncombative, sincere women. Really don't care that a woman is independent as long as she's not destitute.

To me a girl saying "independent" like it's a badge of honor is like asking for a goldstar for being a standard adult human being.

[Unit1]

Not for me.
I want a strong and independent career woman
Being a broke freeloader or hypersensitive is for losers!

[jasco]

By definition any girl who says she's a strong independent woman is a bitch that just wants justification and validation. If a woman then why do you need to tell me that, show me and I may like you. Does a fragile girl entertain me well uh I don't know. I can't say that any girl that I have dated was fragile so more then likely not.

[worldscolide]

All women, even the so called "Strong independent" ones want a man that can take care of them and protect them. Its all instincts.

And honestly im one of those guys that like both worlds, My wife is the strongest person i know but also feels like i can keep her safe and protected.

[TomGarand]

I believe the majority of men want women they can protect, or at least, women who let them be the protector.

But me, personally? I prefer physically strong women, especially if they don't want to feel protected. Action girls, basically.

I hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the guy. I think for the most part, men do prefer reserved girls they can protect. However, I also know guys who want a girl who knows what she wants, get turned on by being bossed around, and want to be taken care of, rather than to take care of someone else.

[PartTimeSaint]

One of men's only sign of self worth is to be helpful.
Yes, men would naturally like a fragile girl to help. That doesn't mean she needs to be helpless is all regards of course.

A strong woman is attractive too! Just give a man a reason to believe he is helpful in some way ;)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nearly all woman need protection at least from men since the average man can seriously hurt a woman physically if he wants to.

I would protect my woman at all cost from danger if I have to, but that doesn't mean I like a dependent woman on my for everything. I expect her to act like an adult.

[psychoticanimallover]

Not in my experience. Most like confident, outgoing women who’ll ride them through the night. And the ones who do want someone to protect are more likely to be controlling and expect traditional gender roles in the relationship.

[Unit1]

We think alike!

[Brian___1731]

Probably a mix of both. We like to be there and protect the girl and provide for them. But in modern age I prefer to date a girl who's working but has time for me where she can be who she wants to be without hiding anything.

[Anonymous]

I think if your sweat and fragile we feel more responsible for protection.
So there's a higher chance of forming a bond as we think about their safety more and thus thinking about them more.

Were maybe a strong fit independent woman we might worry about less.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately/Fortunately depending on your POV, protecting women and children are a couple of the things that are so hard wired into the human male that any of them in prison for rape or Paedophilia have to be isolated from the rest of the prison population for their safety.

[DavidFox]

Personally I’ve been more attracted to confident and independent girls who know what they want and can challenge me to be a better version of myself. Someone who is fragile and in need of constant protection doesn’t sound like a partner.

[TeeBar]

Men insecure about their masculinity will choose the frail female to enhance their "virility".
Confident men will definitely prefer strong and confident females in place of a basket case that will require constant emotional support.

[Satanistincel]

Men that like "strong independant women" are usually homosexual beta males.
I like feminine women, not necessarily physically fragile, because most women are physically weak, short and incapable anyways.
I don't like to protect women tho haha I like to hurt and bully them, it's more fun.

[abc3643]

" Men that like "strong independant women" are usually homosexual beta males. "

Did you have to study for years to be that stupid or are you a prodigy?

Don't bother answering. I'll chalk up such a stupid statement due to your youthful ignorance.

[Satanistincel]

@abc3643 Im a prodigy.
Not my fault if you like to get sexually dominated by muscular women in bed, I guess you like it in the ass? Nothing wrong with that bro 😈

[abc3643]

I'm not your bro.
I'm old enough to be your grandfather.
And your ignorance is illustrative of youth.

[winterfox10]

Strong, independent, and not bitchy. Absolutely no one in their right mind would be attracted to someone who they know is going to give them a bunch of extra shit to worry about

[abc3643]

Exactly.

[TheFlak38]

As long as your idea of "strong and independent" isn't an aggressive bitch with a repulsive personality making people flee for their lives, you're good. Men get pleasure when they know they're providing pleasure.

[AdithyaR]

Personally I find it kind of a turn off if a girl acts all fragile.
I prefer someone who's their own unique individual. It's okay if they're not that physically strong as long as they have a brave personality.

[Anonymous]

As most strong independent women say or prefer a tall , muscular guy cause they feel protected and a rich guy for stability in life , I will say men like fragile girls. As their aren't luring about themselves. Most self called independent girls I have seen are hypocrites when it comes to men.
If anyday can see a actual once sure will prefer way more...

[israelisevil]

Bothe. want a woman who can be strong and fight back in public and against others opposition strangers but when she with just you make you feel in control

[FriendlyEnigma]

That's boring. All my life i learned fighting and martial arts so i want someone who can fight just as well as i can! It's so much more fun dating a badass than a wimp

[MountAverage]

Insecure "men" (boys) with fragile egos do want helpless little girls that make them feel strong.

[abc3643]

No.
We want women who are confident and capable.
We want partners, not projects.

[MannMitAntworten]

Sweet, fragile and all that jazz does not equate to incapable. Nor does physical strength equate being independent.


I just prefer capable. Whatever form this takes.

[Inquisitive3]

Weak men need fragile women to make them feel more manly and useful.

[Barbaric]

That's all women. The ones who think otherwise are in denial.

[Snakeyes7]

Yes. It makes us really happy when a woman tells us that we make them feel safe.

[bamesjond0069]

Not strong and independent thats for sure. Yes we like women who need us to protect them. But it doesn't mean she's weak, we just have to be stronger in that particular way.

[TerminallyChill]

I mean, only if you want the average guy. The most emotionally, intellectually and conversationally stimulating guys USUALLY don't care about tradition or gender roles

[Anonymous]

What do women need "protecting" from?

As a guy, it's feels somewhat good to feel like her protector (needed), but I like strong independent women.

[WhiteGlaze]

Yes and also so they can maintain control but some girls like that so. I like strong women myself. Fragile in bed though

[Hydrogen]

Innocent girls got hotter moans. On the serious note, I like innocent looking girls who are actually devils.

[TonyBello]

strong and independent, a determined woman, who knows what she wants

[Anonymous]

Yes. Because the G. I. Joe women are ball busters and act very manly. Being with them is no fun. So we instead choose women who at least act feminine.

[Maxilicious]

I think both tick boxes, I wouldn't call them turn ons. Like Women may feel nurturing to some guys but enjoy the excitement of a guy on a motorcycle.

[TonyMetal___86]

The fragile petite girl rocks!
The majority of girls needs to be protected by men, loved and taken care of!

[chHaynes]

Naturally I would say yes a guy likes to feel like he can protect the girl nice the guy also likes a girl that can stand up for herself to

[AmeerX]

Sweet and fragile but that doesn't mean she can't be independent

[The_Sal]

sweet and fragile.
there the most loyal and loving ones aswell

[The_Sal]

but there are ones that out on an act of sweetness but are secretly whores

[TallAnon]

You already know the answer. We're designed to protect and provide.

[morganlove]

It’s not a turn on. It’s in our historical dna. Women are supposed to be protected

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Not necessarily fragile girls. Just not masculine girls.

[AFellowWeeb]

I dont mind independent wahmen, the problem is that a lot of these tend to not be really independent, just bitchy and entiteled

[monkeynutts]

No, it’s a big calling card, they can’t be trusted.

[lucas262]

Do women naturally like strong men who will take care of them?

[Solstice777]

I like them better if they are fragile. Women who act strong turn me off bad.

[Younghungguy17]

I would say it depends on the guy but some men like when girls make them feel masculine and needed by being more innocent and fragile

[knight2468]

Strong girl who become fragile with me is that a choice lol

[bklynbadboy1]

I need my girl. to be a little bit of both. Got to have that balance

[Jack9949]

I HATE strong and independent women. I could not date one. I’m sorry