Do men naturally like fragile girls that they can protect?

[Amanda657]

Do sweet and fragile girls that need to be kept safe and you can protect them turn you on?
Or do men prefer strong and independent women?

[Jonn123]

Oooohh! This is a really nice question, actually.

I think you need to clarify the term "fragile". By saying fragile, I interpret it as someone who's in a bad spot mentally (or very rarely, physically) that need me to protect them. That's what I'm going by in this post, not physical strength but mental fortitude.

By "strong and independent women" I sort of sense a negative connotation, most likely because it's become such a meme-y phrase. But if we look aside from that, I think the "strong and independent WOMEN" paints a picture of a smart, beautiful, confident and mature woman.

Meanwhile, "sweet fragile GIRL" paints a picture of a low self-esteem, not very smart or beautiful girl, who most likely has mental illness issues.

By the way: The fact that you distinct the two by saying "Girl" and "Woman" sort of implies a difference in itself; that fragile girls are more than often immature.

I personally think, that a lot of guys fall for sweet and fragile girls. Why? Because they're 1. Easier to get with than confident women who know what they want. And 2. Because the guy can get away with a lot of things he wouldn't be able to with a confident woman.

More often than not, the guys that attract these "sweet and fragile girls" are "sweet and fragile boys" or people with bad intentions. More often than not, mature, strong and independent men stay away from these girls when they realize what they're getting themselves into. HOWEVER, it does happen a lot that guys, no matter how confident or sexy, fall for these women. Why? Because a lot of guys see it as a "I can save her" situation, which can be really dangerous.

So, I'd personally say that emotionally, sweet and fragile girls do attract me more. Why? Well, I'm guessing that it's because I really want to help them (save them), however I've been getting out of this mindset.

But I'd also personally say, that logically, stong and independent women attract me more. Why? Because I know I won't have to deal with emotional baggage, immaturity and so on.

[MyExBackCoach]

A lot of men want to be a hero and protector. So if they are attracted to girls who are "fragile," and need protecting, it's more because it allows them to be in a more masculine role naturally. It also gives them avenues to express their love to her in ways that are natural for them. If a man feels like he is protecting her and being her hero, it is a way that he can show love. When someone shows love and feels they are getting to be their natural self, it usually is a relationship they want and if it ends they tend to seek one like it. For many men, because it allows them to be in their natural masculine state, allows them to show their love, and helps them feel appreciated, it can contribute to the mental state of limerence which I explain in the video below.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/uxtDBgc9Dws

[CubsterShura]

Just be yourself. Some men like the sweet fragile type, some like the stronger independent ladies, but absolutely no one likes a woman who pretends to be someone that she is not.

And tbh I think most women are somewhere in-between the two extremes, I know that I myself am like that.

I'd love a nice protective man. Physical strength is great, but not mandatory because courage is more important than muscles. It is natural for any man to feel honored to be able to protect their women, but if any man is particularly going out of his way to ensure that his s. o. cannot become a stronger and more independent woman, then he clearly lacks masculinity and had issues with his ego. Major red flag.

[CubsterShura]

Thanks for MHO 😊

[MzAsh]

Narcissistic men want weak and fragile girls, but they won’t respect them. Especially when it comes to a crisis and she’s helpless and he finds he has to do everything for her.

[Unit1]

Correct on that one!

[Dongtai]

I don’t know about naturally. But when I think of fragile and little girls that need protection, I think about how it would feel to have a daughter, not what it would be like to have a wife.


When I meet girls like the former they come off as girl-like and not women. Yes I do have this natural instinct to protect but I don’t think that should be a “turn on” or a compass for choosing a partner. When I think of a healthy and satisfying relationship, I think of it as a two player game.


I always imagine my wife being my equal. We help each other and defend eachother. I’ve never seen myself in a relationship where it’s lopsided and my wife was heavily dependent on me. Alone we’re independent and strong but when we merge we become a power couple.


I’m drawn to strong and independent women.

[gekangen]

I think it's very random thing, but even same person can like both.
Independed strong female is... Independed... But it also has two sides, it could be Independed but still clingy or Independed that she finds you nice but not attached.
Same with fragile, can be fragile be be able to go with own life or need constant parrenting.
But fragile can be easier manipulated, so if guy searches for submissive peron then he is going to for her, if no then maybe not.
There is no answer "yes" or "no" is highly depended on person which one you ask and what they want.

[ConfusedOfTheWorld]

Well yeah in some kind, it feels better naturally for the man to look like the strong guy able to "protect" the woman, and women which can defend themselves seem kinda scary sometimes, because of the norms of the society. Like, when a guy sees a muscular woman he doesn't think of her as a female who wants affection etc. even though she might, more of someone who can twist your balls and send you on Everest.
But if the woman is somewhere in the middle then it's perfectly fine I think, because you can be assured that nothing bad will happen to her in case you're away, just a personal opinion.

[UnionBoy1865]

That depends on the woman and the man. Protecting a woman can boost a mans self-esteem, but at the same time being to sensitive or fragile can get very very VERY!!! Annoying. Just like my 1st girlfriend, every time I left her unread for 1 minuet she would start crying and posting on social media that we were breaking up. Men can find it kinda hot when a woman can stand up for herself and actively put herself out there in the world, but some women just take it too far and end up being obnoxiously bitchy.

[Kiss_Me]

Keep in mind there is a difference between NEED and WANT.

I find weak, incompetent, unmotived women are disgusting. Give me a woman that will fight to her dying breath to keep from being raped, can change her own flat tire, shoot a gun, and speaks her mind. However, she appreciates it when I do those things for her.

[zeitgeist057]

I don't necessarily like "fragile" or a girl in need of protection or saving, but I do find vulnerability to be a turn on. A woman can be strong, independent, and vulnerable. In fact, the ability to be vulnerable is better when it comes from a place of strength and independence rather than from weakness and inability to have healthy boundaries.

[KrakenAttackin]

I don't know that "fragile" is the right word but we do like the idea of protecting our lady and we take this duty very seriously.

Women who angrily reject the man as protector are really emasculating him whether they know it or not. "Men" who don't see themselves as protectors don't realize that this is one of the biggest traits of masculinity and something most women love.

[OmNomaly]

Sweet yes. Fragile not so much. I don't want to have to worry about her not being able to protect herself when she goes out.
I'd be into someone that can tune into their sensitive side. Not their emotional wily side.
Definitely has to be a balance of both.

[jgokgotit]

My protective instinct will kick in anyways, especially because most people, guy or girl, do not have my level of training. However, I do not want a woman who constantly needs me to do things for her. She needs to have a head of her own and be capable of getting things done.

[Demosiac]

I prefer a strong independent woman that can protect themselves, but also care about the dignity of her man. A woman can make a man feel like the strongest and bravest person in the world, and I think he'll appreciate it.

Also, even if men like fragile girls, there's only so much that they can do and for how long until they need help. If by fragile girl you mean a girl that can't help, then no. If by fragile girl mean a girl who likes to be protected, but can also reciprocate, then yes.

[rjroy3]

I prefer (emotionally) strong, noncombative, sincere women. Really don't care that a woman is independent as long as she's not destitute.

To me a girl saying "independent" like it's a badge of honor is like asking for a goldstar for being a standard adult human being.

[Unit1]

Not for me.
I want a strong and independent career woman
Being a broke freeloader or hypersensitive is for losers!

[jasco]

By definition any girl who says she's a strong independent woman is a bitch that just wants justification and validation. If a woman then why do you need to tell me that, show me and I may like you. Does a fragile girl entertain me well uh I don't know. I can't say that any girl that I have dated was fragile so more then likely not.

[worldscolide]

All women, even the so called "Strong independent" ones want a man that can take care of them and protect them. Its all instincts.

And honestly im one of those guys that like both worlds, My wife is the strongest person i know but also feels like i can keep her safe and protected.

[TomGarand]

I believe the majority of men want women they can protect, or at least, women who let them be the protector.

But me, personally? I prefer physically strong women, especially if they don't want to feel protected. Action girls, basically.

I hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the guy. I think for the most part, men do prefer reserved girls they can protect. However, I also know guys who want a girl who knows what she wants, get turned on by being bossed around, and want to be taken care of, rather than to take care of someone else.

[PartTimeSaint]

One of men's only sign of self worth is to be helpful.
Yes, men would naturally like a fragile girl to help. That doesn't mean she needs to be helpless is all regards of course.

A strong woman is attractive too! Just give a man a reason to believe he is helpful in some way ;)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nearly all woman need protection at least from men since the average man can seriously hurt a woman physically if he wants to.

I would protect my woman at all cost from danger if I have to, but that doesn't mean I like a dependent woman on my for everything. I expect her to act like an adult.

[psychoticanimallover]

Not in my experience. Most like confident, outgoing women who’ll ride them through the night. And the ones who do want someone to protect are more likely to be controlling and expect traditional gender roles in the relationship.

[Unit1]

We think alike!

[Brian___1731]

Probably a mix of both. We like to be there and protect the girl and provide for them. But in modern age I prefer to date a girl who's working but has time for me where she can be who she wants to be without hiding anything.