What does it mean when a guy puts so much effort into meeting up for sex?

[Anonymous]

He says he has no feelings, and we live an hour away from each other and told me it’s other girls that were trying to talk to him but he didn’t entertain them. So why not try and hookup with someone local if that’s all he wants?

[Zally]

he wants you to think he has options, so you chase him. Just show him that you actually have options and chances are his insecurities will kick in.

Why he thinks having options is important seems like a red flag to me.

[Asker]

He said this back when we were together but why do you think that’s a red flag?

He wants me to chase him even though he’s not into me anymore? Why?

[Zally]

If what he says is true, and he has opinions and doesn't have any feelings, then either he has feelings because he's making the effort for your time, or he's lying about having options because if he had no feelings then why all the effort? Something doesn't add up.

If I had no feelings and there was sex down the street and sex an hour away, I'd just fuck the girl down the street. I mean. With no feelings why would I care either way? More convenient for me.

Unless the sex down the street sucked compared. Then I would tell the girl an hour away that the sex I was having kinda sucks and try for girl an hour away.

No point not being honest 😅

[Asker]

You may have a point in saying that he may have feelings and doesn’t want to admit it. I still think he does only because when I had called him out for using me just for sex and not wanting me for more, he said that I misinterpreted him. But not only that when I asked what I misunderstood, he ended up asking me about what I like and what I think about him. I told him how I thought he was different and he’s becoming the kind of guy who uses a woman for sex and nothing more.
When I said though he was different and genuine, he was like “Thought?” Like why would he care what I like or think of him if he doesn’t have feelings?

[Zally]

Yea it sounds like he does have feelings, and I'm willing to bet it kills him every time he leaves after sex knowing that he self sabotages himself. The girl he wants is right there, and he's wasting time that could be spent happy

Know that if you meet someone and move on, you don't owe him anything.

I use to be just like him 😅

[Asker]

Yeah became dismissive when he asked me if he was gone from who I thought him to be and then when I tried to press him on it more, he was like never mind. When I asked him if he didn’t like the fact that I said he was becoming that kind of guy, he didn’t answer but was dismissive about it.

[spartan55]

Because he lies. If you don't want to get used for sex then why are you?

[Asker]

Lies about what?

[Asker]

Never said I told him I didn’t want to hookup either by the way or in this question

[spartan55]

Lies about the other girls. Then why are you suggesting he gets with other girls then? Makes no sense.

[Asker]

I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I wasn’t suggesting he get with others, I don’t really want him to honestly.

[spartan55]

Have fun getting used for sex. It won't end well.

[Luckycharms12]

Dude wants sex and his texting the other girls and wants to make you a little jealous. So you think he is a keeper if other girls want him

[Noodle_fan]

probably because he can't find nearby people who as attractive as you

[Asker]

Is that a good or bad thing?

[Noodle_fan]

depend on what you want? if you want to hook up too , then it is good thing