Is pressuring for sex in the first week of knowing each other a sign he only wants to hook up?

[Anonymous]

in person he doesn’t talk to me a lot and he kind of just touches me up and has me on his arm, but he says he wants to be with me and keeps hinting at sex (i met him on Tuesday and it’s now Saturday, we have hung out once)

i heard guys usually want sex early but how do i know he’s not just lovebombing me for sex only? he has declared his “undying love” for me after the first hangout and says he’s in love with me and addicted to my body.

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+1 y

he also told me he hadn’t touched a woman in 4 months the first day of talking

[BasedBaeBecca]

Yes, this is definitely a red flag. In general, if someone is pressuring you for sex, especially in the first week, it is a sign that they are only interested in a physical relationship. The fact that he is also lovebombing you and declaring his undying love for you after only one hangout is also a sign that he may be trying to manipulate you.

It is important to trust your instincts and make sure that you feel comfortable. If you are feeling pressured or uncomfortable, you should set clear boundaries and stand your ground.

[Jessica405]

Too much pressure. You both should just be talking. Getting to know each other, if it is going to be a serious relationship.

Seem like he is more interested in sex than he is in you.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'd be just as worried if he genuinely fell in love with you that quickly, yet I really think it more likely that he's love-bombing you to get laid. Be wary of people who say things like "I love you" so quickly; they either don't mean it or have no idea what they're saying.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yeah. To put this into perspective: He’s not into you - he just wants to get in you. I hate the overused term red-flag but this actually, truly, is one.

[Asker]

it’s so crazy cus the first 3 days we’d talk for hours on the phone until the sun came up

[Kylie_Bug]

It is never a good sign when you feel pressured and that soon, too.

[Jersey2]

Guys will test the waters and see of you are ready. I don’t think it is a sign in that regard but it could be depending on how hard he pushes it. Its shouldn’t be that big of a deal if you say no.

[Asker]

i said not yet and now he’s really dry and not asserting much 😬

[Asker]

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[Anonymous]

It depends how much he is Pressuring you.

If he is Verbally or Physically Abusing you then you need to leave him.

It's up to you if you think he is Pressuring you to much.

You can really only do 2 things about it, Leave him or Give in and have Sex with him because if you make him wait to long, He might think your just using him and he will leave.

So if don't want to have Sex with him then why are you with him?

[Asker]

im a virgin and i’ve just met him 5 days ago…..

[Opinion Owner]

So you don't want to have Sex with him?

[Asker]

omg i don’t know the guy at all…. who on earth has sex after 5 days of knowing someone that’s abnormal for a serious committed relationship !

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay.
Well then he is Probably a Player then and he has Probably slept with other Girls fairly quickly before so he is Probably expecting the same from you so if you really like him then you will probably just have to put up with him Pressuring you otherwise you can just tell him you want to stop seeing him.

[Asker]

nah tbh, but we ended up making out (i was very drunk but he was sober) and he asked for sex the next day and i said not yet and he seems really dry now so oh well

[Opinion Owner]

Of course he would be dry, You just rejected him.

I still don't know how you feel about him.

[Asker]

he won’t hang out w me anymore lol

[Opinion Owner]

That's because He thinks your wasting his time.

The fact is no Single Straight Guy is going to Continue Hanging out with a Girl that much unless there is Possibility of Sex or a chance to meet other and hangout with other Girls aswell.

You sound like a Nice Girl, But if you don't Give him much then He is not going to bother with you because us Guys aren't that interested in Friendships.

[spartan55]

No, no, no, no... that dude wants the pie much too early. Yes he is love bombing. One hangout? Tell junior to take a cold shower and chill out.

[JacobJordan]

No but it is a sign that he is abusive and will be a horrible partner. Shitty guys always make it super obvious in small ways that they are shitty

[abc3643]

It's a sign that he is young and immature and classless.

[SotiCoto]

It is relatively normal man-behaviour. It doesn't necessarily mean anything.
You should probably let him know in no uncertain terms that he is being too pushy though.

[Paul09]

Huge red flag. Move to another city. I'm not even sure why you ask, when you know the answer. He obviously just thinks if you as his sex tool. I doubt you want that.

[laly520]

I don't know seems like he is there for the sex only

[nawtee_me]

Let him know you want have sex with anyone for at least a month of dating. You both need to talk about it. If he just wants sex then he won’t wait a month.

[Fireguy17]

I would say yes.
It will happen if and when the time is right for both parties.

[Wiredone]

Nobody should be pressured to have sex. If someone is pushing you to have sex, get rid of them.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, he is only interested in sex and he's being very obvious.

[Steven2839]

As a Male, I personally think it is, as most guys are slightly nervous about the subject for a few weeks/months into the relationship.

[MaterialisticMember]

Yes he only wants sex

[riverrat3]

Becareful, he said the L word very fast

[QuietRunner]

yes he wants to hook up

[CozyCoffin]

Yeah.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[ThebestIndian]

Yep, It’s a sign