Guy keeps asking me over past 8pm. Is this a red flag or just how his schedule is?

[Anonymous]

Month in. He’s 30. I’m 26. He works and is in school and studying for a huge exam after completing law school.. so I know his hours are pretty booked. But the last few times we’ve made plans he always says he has something like a zoom meeting with a professor or something at 8 and asks me over for 8:45pm. We usually hang out and have sex so now im nervous he just wants sex. Is this a red flag?

[PrudentGuy]

Your details are all about him. What about you? What do you want from this "date?" / "relationship?"

You both already had sex and you seems to know him beyond "hello goodbye".

Do you want a marriage? Or just a sexual relationship? If the latter, what degree of commitment?

Define it and then share with him. Discuss the "commitment" and "exclusiveness" you hoped for if you were to continue.

Listen to him and you'll have the answer to your question, 100% accurate. This i think is better than guessing because you both are already sexually active.

[nevernevernever]

if it's that regular of a time, he's probably just completely booked, especially if he's just completely booked. if you're nervous about it and you want a relationship but aren't sure if he does you could just talk to him and see where he is with that

[Asker]

Yeah I’ll have to talk to him tonight. Thanks!

[nevernevernever]

*especially if he's in law school* sorry i had a brain fart there

[Asker]

Hahah oh no worries

[spartan55]

Man you girls are dense sometimes.

[Floppy2112]

Yes, it's a red flag. And all he wants is sex.