Should I get worried when my boyfriend goes clubbing every Saturday and doesn’t communicate and come back in the morning after 7am?

[Anonymous]

We are both adults, im 27 and he is 29. We dated for a year and a half. My boyfriend still go clubbing every weekend with his mates. In guy’s perspective, Im wondering if he would ever change and lessen his clubbing? It has been an issue ever since and we argued about it. I really tried my best to accept for who he is cos I know I couldn’t change him. I'm actually getting better handling the situation, but sometimes I get fed up when he goes out, he never communicates, and doesn’t come back til morning around 7-8am. As far as I know, he hasn’t cheated before, but I couldn’t help but worry. We have talked about this before, I said I would really appreciate if he lessens his clubbing at least every other weekend but he says I shouldn’t control him and says he feels trapped. Im so worried.. Am I too paranoid? What should I do?

[RenCypher]

Like someone else said, what club is open til 7am? None that I've ever heard of, so where does he say he is all night? And if this is every weekend, when does he ever make time for you? Does he ever take you out or do stuff together? I think it sounds like he's up to no good. And like you said, you already know you can't change him so you gotta decide if this is something you want to continue to put up with. Personally I wouldn't want to and I would get out now! Sounds like he doesn't care too much about your feelings.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

It's not the clubbing itself to be so worried about. People in relationships still have a right to go out with their friends. It's the coming back at 7-8am that'd I'd be worried about. What club you know that's open that late? So where's he at from what, 2-2:30 in the morning till 7-8?

[cavmanier]

I've went out with guys and I don't remember if I can recall one being faithful... It's pretty amazing. I would avoid people that do that. Clubs are set up for people to get sexual. It's 75% of the point of going. Girls mostly grind their asses on the guys crotch and often make out.

[MikeTheBartender]

Bartender for 13 years. Absolutely be worried. Or just dump him. Do you really want to be w a guy who is almost 30 in a "serious" relationship and still clubbing? Single I get it. Dating now way.

[unscrupulous]

What club is open till 7am? He dont say nothing to you at all the whole time he is out?

[slatyb]

Every weekend? Doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend if he never has a weekend for you.

[Avicenna]

Every weekend? That's way too often for a guy living with his girlfriend.

[Pedrodad]

Sounds like he doesn't want to. Make a commitment by not growing up

[outside_Toronto]

Dump him. Why are you dating a child?

[Anonymous]

Damn, can't the guy live? is he your prisoner

[Hoss1981]

Dump his ass

[Anonymous]

I bet he had to be the hunter

[Anonymous]

Don't worry.