Is it suspicious that my boyfriend comes home late every other night?

[Cass510]

boyfriend got a new job in January, he works for sunrun. Anyways when he started that job he would come home around 7-8 sometimes even 9. They travel far and coming home is a journey. Anyways it died down for a bit he got promoted to a lead installer which he was ecstatic about. These past two weeks he’s been coming home at 8, 9ish not everyday but dam near. His phone has died on two separate occasions because when he comes home he knocks out and forgets to charge it. I was upset last Night as it was our 3 year anniversary and he was working in king city so it was about an 1 hour and 49 mins from where he lives so I knew he was gonna be late. He had attitude with me a bit, we talked on the phone on his way driving home but he was tired and crabby. He texted me the next morning saying Goodmorning babe sorry we haven’t had much time I love you very much and I’ll make it up to you this weekend. Should I be suspicious of his hours? Should I ask to see his timesheet? Am I overthinking?

[kylee2437]

You are being insecure. There’s no proof that anything is wrong. He is working, doing his job and even apologized because he realized you two aren’t spending some time. Get out of your insecurities and overthinking and be happy that he’s thinking about planning a weekend with you

[Black_Ivory]

If after three years you do not trust him. Then perhaps you should move on.

I have no idea if this guy's job gives him time to cheat on you or not. But it sounds stressful from what you have written.

So trust is not there, then you might as well break it off.

But if there is no evidence of cheating. No lipstick on neck and collar, no funny perfume smells, and he does not go straight to the shower when he comes home (unless really filthy from job like a mechanic) then I do not think there is anything to worry about.

[MountAverage]

You can't have a relationship without trust. Your lack of trust comes either from 1) legitimate suspicions, or 2) your own internal trust issues that have nothing to do with you. Which one is it?

[Cass510]

Well he hasn’t done anything to make me suspicious. That I know of, and we been together for years. I have this fear always that he’s cheating no matter what

[MountAverage]

So it's #2: Your own internal trust issues that have nothing to with him.

[20yearsolder]

If it's not typical behavior then yes it's suspicious. If you don't trust the guy get out of the relationship

[spartan55]

You already posted this before... look at his time sheets? Are you serious? If you asked me for something like that you would get the gate.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I get what you saying but he has to make money he's the lead so he's the last guy out and you can always celebrate on the following weekend. Maybe he has some thing planned for you. Why do you mistrust him

[KrakenAttackin]

He deserves better than you.