Partner and I have been dating for nearly three and a half years, and I moved in a year ago in June. All well so far, but one thing bothers me, and that is the fact that he always needs to go out and sometimes until 5am.
There have been times where we will be watching TV and he will be on his phone and he will just turn around to me and say: "So and so has asked me out. I am going to go out. Don't know when I will be back."
This would be okay once and a blue moon and if he didn't have a dog.
I have tried speaking about this to him, but he gets defensive saying that he likes to go out with his friends and always tells me to drop it.
The other thing that annoys me is the fact that he sometimes ends up at women's houses. For example, went out to a family memorial get-together at 2pm and didn't come home until 5am the following day and it turned out he met the downstairs female neighbour (who he never bothers with) with her friends and went back to her house. Their chat was inappropriate too. She was talking about her sexual exploits - sleeping with a married man and men in relationships. He didn't seem fussed when I asked why he didn't come back up (I hadn't moved in yet) he said that the "chat was good."
I also want to add here that he came up the flat twice, both times I heard, before going back downstairs to the neighbour's house again.
Recently, she sent him a private message with hearts and kisses asking if he had any wine as she had missed the shops.
He also met up with friends at 3pm and didn't come home until five and again, it was because his friend knew a woman that was holding a party and went back to her house.
His family say it is the family "curse" of being a party animal and actually finds it funny. Even going so far at times to say it almost maliciously at me as if to say that I won't change him which I think fuels his comfort knowing that he doesn't need to worry about his family telling him off.
Is this normal and am I overreacting?
