Guys, do you think I am friendzoned?

[Anonymous]

so my close guy friend has been texting me when drunk. Last time he sent me some kissy faces. This this it was this convo:

Him- I’m drunk lol. What u up to
me- oh gosh. How disappointing
him- lol what. I was thinking of calling Shelly (a girl he hooked up with years ago but never liked her). But I don't know. My boys trying to force me.
me- seriously. Ur texting me at midnight to ask about a girl. do what u want
him- it’s cuz I’m drunk. I feel bad. I hope we ok. love u
me- I’m sorry. I want to be there for you. I didn’t mean to be pissy. But it’s late.
him- it’s fine. I’m not going to hit her up. They were pushing me to. I’m just kinda lonely and feeling down. Still love u homie
me- I’m sorry. What’s making you down?

We went on to have a deep convo chat about his feels of depression. But it’s safe to say he just sees me as a pal- right?

[smilinjackal]

Yes. Your friendzoned. But it seemed like you want to be, based on that snippets of text you posted. But if you wanted, I bet he would be open to sliding out of the zone with you.

[Asker]

Ok. What sticks out as being friendzoned by him?
Can I message you the entire convo?

[smilinjackal]

If you want to. But I might not be the help your looking for. I am king of the friend zone. Or rather I used to be.

[Asker]

Oh. I think it needs you to add me to message you. Penny is the name :)

[Scropgirl]

Sounds like he likes you. He texted you when he is drunk and taking about that girl sounds like making you jealous or he values your opinion

[Asker]

It’s funny the guys say I’m just a friend. The girls think he likes me 😆 They only did oral together. But he knows he could get sex if he wanted. Also he’s never had full sex. Just oral. And he knows I dint like Shelly much so when sober he jokes about calling her. Just to pick on me. But yeah I get your point for sure. I just have all guys telling me he’s NOT into me. His words are all over—-but the actions definitely tell a different story.

[Scropgirl]

Sounds like you are hard for him to get and that’s what is keeping him around? Hard to say if he is interested or just trying harder

[Asker]

Oh through the years it’s been A LOT. But I’ve always been in a committed relationship. I just became single a week ago lol. And I didn’t tell him yet. Also thinking of getting with a different guy lol. But was so curious to know how this one was thinking

[luvstoned4him]

A pal he likes.. I mean he texts u drunk... late at night? Liquid courage anyone?

[Asker]

I feel like he wanted me to tell him no about that girl. Because his friends were forcing him-but he didn’t want to do it. Ya know? Lol
But otherwise- he text me. About a girl. To only get advice... how would u think he likes me?

[luvstoned4him]

Let's cut the chase. He knows what he is doing.. do u really think a man or even a boy is gonna let his friends desuede him from running after any woman that he wants? Really? Especially a woman he has had sex with before? He's been 'in' her before.. ok. let that sink in..
And now after getting his friends advice, he turns to you.. his 'homie' who just happens to be a female... and tells u that he is lonely and needs to know if u can advise him on whether or not to after shelly his friends with benefits.. this guy ain't lonely.. if anything is horrrrny.. more than anything. I think he is using this shelly story to low key make u jealous as well telling u how he is soo lonely so that u will feel sorry and bone him. I know... I know.. its hard to believe but I have a ton of guy friends who have tried this shit on me. Plus we know people are most honest when they are drunk.. dont be played.

[Asker]

They only did oral together. But he knows he could get sex if he wanted. Also he’s never had full sex. Just oral. And he knows I dint like Shelly much so when sober he jokes about calling her. Just to pick on me. But yeah I get your point for sure. I just have all guys telling me he’s NOT into me. His words are all over—-but the actions definitely tell a different story.

[luvstoned4him]

Actions speak louder than words

[Asker]

Went well. He definitely listened and thanked me for caring. But he talked about that girl he text me over the weekend. He basically wants to be friends with benefits with her. Because he wants to loose his virginity. He said he rather wait to be in a relationship with someone. But it’s not happening and he’s tired of being an old virgin.

But. He also let it slip he wants to hook up with me. Lol. Maybe a joke? Convo

Me- she’d hook up
Him- if hook up with you
Me- lol what?
Him- I’d hook up with you... to get food—

 so yeh. I don't know what’s going on. He’s just horney I guess. But now I’m more confused than ever

[luvstoned4him]

maybe he wants just sex but either way he is interested

[Asker]

Yeh. But he also talked about that girl and others to me. So I assume if he talks girls with me nonstop. He can’t want me. Ya know?

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker or he does it to see if you are into him, as a way of making you jealous. Men dont typically talk about women, sex etc with a woman non top. They have guys for that. So.. unless he looks at you as a man or a tom boy, I have no idea.

[Maz_28]

He chose to message YOU when drunk. He could have messaged someone else but he chose you. He likes you.

[Asker]

I feel like he wanted me to tell him no about that girl. Because his friends were forcing him-but he didn’t want to do it. Ya know? Lol

[Sam_The_Savage]

Sorry it's too long to read
I passed

[Asker]

How disappointing

[Sam_The_Savage]

Lol 😂

[msc545]

Yes, he sees you as a friend. It could be worse.

[Asker]

It’s funny the guys say I’m just a friend. The girls think he likes me 😆 They only did oral together. But he knows he could get sex if he wanted. Also he’s never had full sex. Just oral. And he knows I dint like Shelly much so when sober he jokes about calling her. Just to pick on me. But yeah I get your point for sure. I just have all guys telling me he’s NOT into me. His words are all over—-but the actions definitely tell a different story.

[msc545]

There is a difference between being horny, and liking someone. You deserve better.

[Asker]

So u think he text me because he was drunk? I saw him 3 days ago. We definitely hang out and are close.

[Asker]

I feel like he wanted me to tell him no about that girl. Because his friends were forcing him-but he didn’t want to do it. Ya know? Lol

[msc545]

Hard to say. You could ask him.

[boggboss]

Clearlg lol

[Asker]

I feel like he wanted me to tell him no about that girl. Because his friends were forcing him-but he didn’t want to do it. Ya know? Lol

[boggboss]

Yeah that makes sense

[Asker]

But it’s definitely me in a friend zone?
Is it because of the homie comment?

[boggboss]

Because your best friends and he is asking u advise about a hookup

[Asker]

He was trying to get time to tell him no. Be this boys were pressing him to do something he didn’t want to do.
Some people are saying he likes me because I’m the one he text. When drunk. Late.

[boggboss]

Yes because you are his best friend not because he wanted anything more

[Asker]

Damn. I held out some hope. Because lasting he went me very flirty stuff. Like a kissing face.

[boggboss]

If the most he has sent u was a kiss face thats not that much to show he likes u hun

[Asker]

Oh through the years it’s been A LOT. But I’ve always been in a committed relationship. I just became single a week ago lol. And I didn’t tell him yet

[boggboss]

Lol I see