Last boss called me ‘missy moo’ , new boss calls me ‘bub’, & a good girl when I close deals. What’s this about?

[wittymilf]

I’m a grown woman very business minded and very capable in the work place having been in management in large companies for years. I’ve never called guys ‘good boy’ or any other child like nickname.. and I’ve never seen my most recent employers use these terms with male colleagues either. What’s going on here?

[hahahmm]

You have to be more assertive. If you don't like being called a name, you politely ask the guy not to call you that. Otherwise he will assume you're okay with it & he's probably known women in his life who LIKED being called "girl" and didn't think it was a big deal. If he keeps doing it after you ask him to stop then that's a real problem.

And no, men don't view women in 100% the same way they view men because there's usually some aspect of sexual attraction or POTENTIAL attraction so it's not the same. Of course he might not talk to you the same as a guy. Yes, some guys keep things 100% professional in how they speak but still, gender is a reality. You don't magically become unisex when you go to work.

[hahahmm]

Some women use the attraction thing to their advantage. Some don't want to. Your choice which way you want to go but don't be one of those who is okay with flirting one day and then reporting the guy to HR the next day.

[wittymilf]

Um.. I feel there’s a another double standard in there somewhere 😂😂. Like it’s ok to assume she’s flirting and call her little cutesy names but be careful coz the little girly might tell HR on you one day 😂😂

[wittymilf]

Also ok.. I’m not mad at you but... saying some women use ‘the attraction thing’ is taking away any responsibility for a man to choose not to be attracted to someone in the work place.

[hahahmm]

Eh. In cultures where men are allowed to be men it's not a problem if he flirts. As long as he keeps it respectful and doesn't touch. If you say only men need to change to make women feel a certain way while claiming women don't need to change anything that sounds like a double standard to me. If you go to work showing tons of cleavage in a work environment where that's normal you can claim it's all men's fault if they treat you different. But I'd say, you shouldn't be surprised if 100% of men aren't able to tune you out and be professional. Maybe you're not being professional too. Of course women don't wan to have to dress like men (not showing curves, no makeup and so on). You insist it's your right to look attractive.

Personally, I can tune women out... but not all guys can.

[hahahmm]

*can't claim

[Raveagit]

What odd metaphor mixing... I honestly don't see the problem with some atta-boy, and good girl, though that-a-girl would be less confusing, but bub is strictly for mildly insulting men. Missy moo is just odd and overly personal.

I'd shut it down unless you are interested in some weird dungeon roleplay in his basement.

[wittymilf]

Haha, I think I’ll just call him Daddy n see where we end up 🤷‍♀️🤔😂😂

[Raveagit]

The dungeon awaits!

[ZackBan]

Oh good you're still alive, had me worried for a sec.

And I have no idea why anyone would all someone missy moo outside of a kinky sexual context so maybe it's their idea of suggestive flirting. Check your response and see if there's any hope there.

[slatyb]

What's it about? It's about keeping you in your place, subordinate to men. If I were you I would be looking for other employment. Your current management does not take you seriously and it's hard to imagine you will be promoted by a company that tolerates managers addressing women as "girl".

[Smoothing]

That is unprofessional. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you shouldn't take it. Regardless of whether it's coming from good place or not. It is how you feel on account of those words being uttered that matters. If you don't feel good, it could start affecting your work regardless of how professional you might be.

[Smoothing]

I don't know what "bub" means but "good girl" is flirtatious but not every woman sees it that way and only a certain age group of men use it. So again it is more about how you feel when you hear it that matters not the intent. You should be addressed in a way that makes you feel comfortable.

[recvcv]

OH WOW LOOK A VERY GROWN VERY BUSINESS MINDED AND VERY SEXY MILF TYPE OF WOMAN GUYS ANYONE GETTING IN THE LINE TO ASK FOR HER DESPERATE ASS FOR HER NUMBER? NO OH GOOD CUZ SHE IS EXTREMELY ARROGANT PFFFFFFFFFF hahahahah.

[wittymilf]

Um 🤔 I think your cap lock buttons stuck angry guy.

[recvcv]

maybe u need to be more relaxed and less arrogant, cause obviously ur desperate, well there's a lot of desperate guys in world too why not choose one? also just quit it! with the mUH STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMEN'' type of bs

[wittymilf]

Um bro I’m married plus I’m not a snow flake. Unsure why a person would quit thete job because there boss uses an endearment 🤷‍♀️

[recvcv]

than why do you care becuz what yo boss say is. care about what yo hubby say instead yo.

[wittymilf]

I don’t work for my husband 🤷‍♀️

[recvcv]

howd ya feel if yo hubby said sain thing to you innit fam.

[wittymilf]

My husband can say whatever he like to who ever he likes 🤷‍♀️

[recvcv]

thats most guys for ya

[Peru_My_Heart]

My boss ( female ) calls me honey or son. I don't read too much into it tbh.

[wittymilf]

I’m mean I take it with a smile and it feels like a compliment on work well done. It does set a subservient tone though and possibly a more personal than professional vibe.

[Peru_My_Heart]

I think it might be cultural thing. Where I live , this is how people talk in general so it's rarely seen as unprofessional.

[Tstrbrainer]

Sexist double standards.

I can feel that your employers are really into you, that's probably why you are being called cute names.

Anyway, if you don't want to be addressed like that in workplace, don't smile when they call you that name and tell them straight to the face

[zozo7880]

Sounds weird to me. Also sounds like a harassment lawsuit in the making.

[wittymilf]

I live in NZ we don’t really do the lawsuit thing much. But I agree that it’s odd. I don’t not like it but it seems a bit demeaning like I’m not getting the respect that male colleagues get.

[zozo7880]

Sounds like being a girl and a professional at the same time comes with a lot of bullshit. Maybe the way you talk to them/joke around with them at work makes them feel comfortable saying those types of things. Your name is wittymilf afterall.

[wittymilf]

Well I don’t go by Wittymilf at work 😊, but I do have a casual demeanour about me. They know I’m not going to file a law suit 🤔🤷‍♀️

[loveslongnails]

It's called inappropriate white male superiority behavior. Did you not know about this? I'm surprised he hasn't gotten around to commenting about your wonderful boobs yet.

[KyceG]

Not really sure what some of these terms are since I am not from New Zealand, however I’m assuming they are being a little un professional and flirting with you, considering you are a gorgeous hot blonde milf.

[KyceG]

I wish I was your boss.

[TaureanBull81]

Your boss either is being condescending and rather unprofessional so you could take the matter further.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Maybe they feed off your friendly personality? Not saying it's proper behavior, but just an educated guess on my part.

[HouseofWise]

I guess it means you are a female cow that is named bub that closes deals


or maybe its just nicknames that bosses give you cause they prefer you over everyone else

[BeachLuvR97]

Do you have an uptight demeanor that causes them to want to joke around so that you ease up?

Guys do give each other nicknames. Girls even give guys nicknames.

[Guido]

There is no place for that in a professional work place. It's alright to have fun and a few laughs but silly names when complementing a good job is just dumb.

[Waldoe]

guys are afraid to talk to women in the workplace, so many rules and lawsuits... so yeah they feel awkward, unsure how to give a "Female" a compliment... sucks... don't it?

[Alexalex92]

Hmm I'm really not sure if it's appropriate because English is not my native language but i believe at work they should talk serious and not use words friends use when they are eachother.
But i would like if you call me good boy 😋

[chriscdi]

I don't know but what i do know is that its unusual and unprofessional

[BoobMan]

Sounds like flirting a bit WM. Since you're clearly closing deals, I'm sure they love you anyway!

[rebeliouse]

@wittymilf
term or endearment?

just say ok kiddy back to him

[wittymilf]

Maybe I call him Daddy 😂😂

[rebeliouse]

@wittymilf
lmfao yup that would work

[rebeliouse]

@wittymilf

thanks daddy ;)

[Nigjt]

With shit like that I'm so happy u don't fallow me any more God ur head is just likexan 12 year Olds

[Nigjt]

Why do they call u wittymilf UT should be more like dummymilf WOW

[krin_m]

I think they need to learn to treat you with professional respect.

[Anonymous]

No clue i got a girl i work with rhat calls me Carlos Spicyweiner. Maybe they're related.

[Unconcernedman]

What is mean missy moo and bub 🤔 this is bullshit. you are guru 😮 I last saw when you were 4xper

[collie22]

that could make me feel uncomfortable

[Date_a_Snob]

Im sorry you have to deal with that at work.

[msc545]

They like you in a friendly way.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Sue for the big bucks in my opinion

[Twenty2]

Cause you're a milf, Missy moo 😘

[Tim-loves-it]

Accepting you in the 'In crowd?'

[COMMODOREII]

Disrespect i say.