Did I hurt this guy?

[Anonymous]

there's a shy guy who likes me I hurt him very recently via a letter afterwards he tried to call me two times in that week (I didn't pick up) then I told our mutual friend last week that he can call me since Monday no call from him. did I mess up?

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is there still a chance of him calling me or is it over?

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and another update: I didn't intend on hurting him it's just once we had stress and then he hurt me that day and after 10 min acted like he never said anything. in the letter I wrote for him i talked about how much that hurt what he told me that day and that i wanted nothing but to make him happy and that we better separate. i was just hurting so much inside yes I know I didn't handle it the right way

[charon142]

Well I think you know you did
if I was going to call a girl two times and she didn't respond I would assume she doesn't like me and since I don't want to disturb her I would stop doing it, so yeah you kind of messed up BUT you can still call back
I think you should call and say "sorry my phone was on silent both times you called me?"
this will give him some hopes to try and talk to you

[Asker]

I really wish I could. but unfortunately he called me anonymous, I don't have his number

[charon142]

oh, well that is bad
do you saw him face to face?
do you know where he lives?

[Asker]

Always saw him face to face. I mean we spend the whole 2020 together, yes I know the city where he lives, but not address. I also know where he works and his shiftends but don't want to bother him. Do you think he is hurt which is why he doesn't call? My friend told me he told him to call me on Monday

[Asker]

Or what did you mean with face to face?

[charon142]

I said that's an option, maybe he respects you for not responding and doesn't want to disturb you, maybe he lost interest in you, there are lots of options.
I have an idea go where he works and wait till his shift ended then go walk right to him and pretend you were just crossing there and you accidentally saw him then ask him how is he doing then walk with him and talk about some subjects and shift the conversation to the callings and say I don't answer them because I think they're weird and while you're doing all this show some little moves that you're interested in him
I know this sound really precise but I don't want you to do the exact same by all this I mean to meet him in person and show you are interested in him

[Asker]

I kind of did something similar a long time ago (before our conflict, a time after he hurt me) I stood next to his car to see his reactions he came out of work and seemed bothered then asked me what happened? I responded with nothing then he asked if I was alright I said yeah then I walked over to the bus stop and then he drove past me though he always seemed to use another road after work. Which was weird

[Asker]

And when I tried to add him on Instagram (after he received my letter) he didn't respond at first but then rejected my request

[Asker]

but thanks so much for giving me advice buddy, I want to be together with him badly and make him happy but I'm scared I messed up so much but was hurting after what he said to me (he noticed at that time tried to cheer me up but I didn't feel it because I wanted a apology)

[charon142]

well your story has a lot of ups and downs
the only thing I can say with confidence is to try for one last time and see if he actually likes you or no if no you're just wasting your time and your energy on the wrong guy.
go meet him in person and say all you want for one last time and break this chain of liking but hiding it
I wish you good luck
my DM is open if you need any help although I doubt you need me anymore

[Asker]

well i get it i'm confused myself i mean sometimes he like swoons over me and seems very excited seeing me and other times its confusing. i will try that though, hope the answear will be clear soon. what are the ups and down though?

[charon142]

he rejecting you on Instagram and calling you with an anonymous number and still liking you
these make me confuse. his feelings are all over the place

[Asker]

Do you think it's lack of trust?

[charon142]

yeah, but I'm not sure. you have to ask him yourself

[Asker]

I will do that if he calls me. If this week he doesn't call, then I think that's the answer between us

[aryxman]

he's prolly hurt yeah, but its not your fault, he'll get it and move on.
you could try calling him yourself and explaining stuff to him ig and letting him down slowly, totally up to you

[Asker]

thanks for the replay. it's complicated I didn't intend on hurting him it's just once we had stress and then he hurt me that day and after 10 min acted like he never said anything. in the letter I wrote for him i talked about how much that hurt what he told me that day and that i wanted nothing but to make him happy and that we better separate. i was just hurting so much inside yes I know I didn't handle it the right way

[aryxman]

oh my god okay, first of all i'm sorry you're going through that.
second, i thought it was a case of unrequited love but now i get it. okay take it from someone who has been in some similar situations, not getting answers can drive you crazy, like literally crazy, so explain everything to him and just do sort it out before parting ways. it'll be the best for both of you

[Asker]

i really wish I could :( I would love to call him back, but unfortunately I don't have his number he called me anonymous which is why I told our mutual friend to tell me to tell him to call me last week but no call till now. what else can I do?

[GAGSucksBalls1]

why didn't you pick up