What is wrong with me?

[Thepowderpuff]

I don’t understand why guys always play me or lead me on..

I’m a quiet, nice girl but I am not gullible. I don’t understand why guys don’t genuinely want to be with me.
what’s wrong with me?

[wheist9095]

Maybe it's just. Chemistry, and they think you are someone you're not until they get to know you better. Maybe they're just players trying to get laid and you're too trusting. Maybe you present yourself differently than you are on the beginning and they don't like who you really are. Maybe it's politics or social issues they really disagree with you on.

The only way to really know is to introspect and be honest with yourself about who you are and what you want out of a partner, and find someone who meets that requirement. Don't find someone and think you can change them later, because it just won't work

[Thepowderpuff]

💯 I agree

[wheist9095]

Also, consider dating people outside your normal social group. For example, I'm a fairly country looking fella, but I don't go after country or rural type girls. This leads me into a lot of barriers because people assume we'll be incompatible based on our social backgrounds. It's nobody's fault, it's just a subconscious cognitive bias people have.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Guys mature slower and have different wants than you might have right now. I know it's hard right now, but just keep working at it and it will happen.

I remember being super awkward in high school just based on things like my height and how I felt about myself. I developed a sense of humor about it and gained more confidence and while it didn't always attract every girl I was interested in, I eventually found the right one.

In the end, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Just keep being your beautiful self and keep that kindness in you.

[Thepowderpuff]

This really made my day ❤️❤️❤️

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Aww I am definitely glad to hear that! I'm serious though. Don't let those self doubts creep in. Being kind and having a good head on your shoulders are amazing traits. Foster those traits and just realize the guys you are looking at now can't comprehend why those are going to be traits they will value later. By then, you will have already found the one who was smart enough to realize it earlier.

I wish you all the best in your search and in life. 😊

[ChrisMaster69]

@ez-bri-z very well said, proud of you

[Siren777]

You are too nice and it's a cruel world out there for a nice girl. Stop overextending yourself. Focus on your needs and wants and someone will come along who matches your energy.🍀

[CreamySeed]

Young bois just wanna bang dont blame yerself

[jasco]

More than likely nothing, you just have bad taste

[Thepowderpuff]

But I don’t come up to these guys, they come up to me and try to play me

[jasco]

Well I am sorry it happens but who knows you may find someone who likes u more for you than your body

[Thepowderpuff]

I’m quite obese but thank you

[jasco]

ok well mm let me ask you, what do these guys ask you, what type of things do they want from you

[Thepowderpuff]

Its more so deception.. they pretend they like me to get what they want

[jasco]

that's not what I am saying, deception usually happens in a form of questions that if trace correctly can prevent you being used from the beginning